Knowing What
You’re Worth
 People will treat you based on how
cheaply you sell yourself, don't sell
yourself short.
 Set your value according to how God
values you.
 The devil doesn't want you to have a
sense of value for yourself.
When you pay a premium for
something , you will have a greater
Respect for it than you would have, if
you got it cheaply.
Proverbs 4:23 (NLT)
23 Guard your heart above all else,
for it determines the course of
your life.
The Pursuit of
Happiness
 Entering into God's rest is much
better than waiting.
 When you are at rest you are
confident that God is helping You.
 He arranges circumstances for You
to meet that special person.
To really be fulfilled in life you
have to find the ONE, and the
ONE is JESUS. Your partner is
your number TWO
Pursuing marriage more
than pursuing God is
idolatry
Exodus 34:14 (NLT)
14 You must worship no other gods,
for the LORD, whose very name is
Jealous, is a God who is jealous
about his relationship with you.
 Anytime your marriage is not where
it's suppose to be, chances are
likely that you are looking for your
partner to meet some need, that
only God can.
 Today's philosophy of relationships
is far beneath God's standards.
 Meeting somebody halfway is
50/50.
 Meeting your partner is not holding
anything back, 100/100.
God wants to be Number
1 in your life.
You both need to have Jesus in
common more than anything
else.
A successful marriage is 2
wholes coming together, not 1
half looking for their other half.
 Can you serve God better together
than when you are apart?
 If so:
Psalm 34:3 (NLT)
3 Come, let us tell of the LORD’s
greatness;
let us exalt his name together.
Becoming The
One
The bible teaches how to be the
right person rather than how to
find the right person.
Instead of finding the one, we
should work on being the right
one.
Are You who the
person You are looking
for is looking for?
• 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (NLT)
4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not
jealous or boastful or proud 5 or rude. It
does not demand its own way. It is not
irritable, and it keeps no record of
being wronged. 6 It does not rejoice
about injustice but rejoices whenever
the truth wins out. 7 Love never gives
up, never loses faith, is always
hopeful, and endures through every
circumstance.
Love Is Patient
Love Is Kind
Love Does Not
Envy
Love Does Not
Boast, It Is Not
Proud
Love Does Not
Dishonour Others
1 Corinthians 13:11 (NLT)
11 When I was a child, I spoke
and thought and reasoned as
a child. But when I grew up, I
put away childish things.
When Looking
For Your
Partner…
God presents to us choices
but you should involve Him in
your decision.
God will never choose for
You.
 Are you willing to compromise your
belief in God for a guy or girl?
 If someone can resist Jesus, who is
perfectly beautiful, how much more
will they reject you in the future, you
who are imperfectly beautiful?
 A girl wants a priest not a smooth
talker.
If you compromise Jesus
for a partner you could
probably jeopardise their
salvation.
 2 Corinthians 6:14 (NLT)
The Temple of the Living God
14 Don’t team up with those who are
unbelievers. How can righteousness
be a partner with wickedness? How
can light live with darkness?
Don't wait for a prophet to
show you who your
partner is going to be.
When looking for
a Man :
 Consider faithfullness - especially in the
area of finances.
 Proverbs 20:6 (NLT)
6 Many will say they are loyal friends,
but who can find one who is truly
reliable?
 Luke 16:10 (NLT)
10 “If you are faithful in little things, you will
be faithful in large ones. But if you are
dishonest in little things, you won’t be
honest with greater responsibilities.
 Look for true spirituality in a man
 Kindness : 1 Peter 3 : 7
1 Peter 3:7(NLT)
Husbands
7 In the same way, you husbands must give
honor to your wives. Treat your wife with
understanding as you live together. She may
be weaker than you are, but she is your equal
partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as
you should so your prayers will not be
hindered.
 He must be able to lead
 At the beginning of a relationship, you
must decide whether you will accept
and be happy with his involvement in
the ministry or his responsibilities at
work .
 Find someone who is tough enough to
remain tough at all times.
 Determine how he is with children.
 Is he a one woman man?
 1 Timothy 3:2 (NLT)
2 So an elder must be a man whose life is
above reproach. He must be faithful to
his wife.[a] He must exercise selfcontrol, live wisely, and have a good
reputation. He must enjoy having
guests in his home, and he must be
able to teach.
Job 31:1 (NLT)
Job’s Final Protest of Innocence
31 “I made a covenant with my eyes
not to look with lust at a young
woman.
Determine how valuable you are to
him?
When looking for a
Woman :
 Prudence - the use of practical wisdom
the ability to reason.
 A virtuous woman - proverbs 31:10-31
 Look at who god puts in front of you.
 Earn the favor of those who love her.
 Is she satisfied with your attention and
affection alone?
1 Timothy 2:9 (NLT)
9 And I want women to be modest in their
appearance.[a] They should wear decent
and appropriate clothing and not draw
attention to themselves by the way they fix
their hair or by wearing gold or pearls or
expensive clothes.
Can you provide for her the lifestyle
she expects?
1 Timothy 5:8 (NLT)
8 But those who won’t care for their
relatives, especially those in their
own household, have denied the true
faith. Such people are worse than
unbelievers.
Is she like the negative women in
proverbs?
Proverbs 27:15 (NLT)
15 A quarrelsome wife is as annoying
as constant dripping on a rainy day.
Things to consider
when contemplating
Marriage :
 Leave to cleave
Genesis 2:24 (NLT)
24 This explains why a man leaves his
father and mother and is joined to his
wife, and the two are united into one.
 The real dating should begin after
marriage
 Why do couples ignore each other at
times?
A man's need for respect is just
as strong as a woman's need to
connect or feel loved.
Take an interest in what your
spouse is interested in, even if it
doesn't interest you.