Be a Champion of Change with the 7 Habits
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Are you able to change important areas of your life?
Are you just living day to day, or toward a hope?
Do you prioritize your time and energy well?
How often do you feel bullied by others?
Do you understand others ... and vice versa?
What are your unique talents? Are they important?
Does your life often feel “out of balance”?
 What does “success” mean to you?
(family, friends, community, hobby, career, faith)
 What is required to obtain that success?
Darrell Velegol
Penn State University
velegol@psu.edu
started 21 Oct 1999
last edited 21 Jan 2003
http://www.personal.psu.edu/faculty/d/x/dxv9/7Habits.ppt
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Are you willing to change course?
Two battleships assigned to the training squadron had been at sea on maneuvers in heavy
weather for several days. I was serving on the lead battleship and was on watch on the
bridge as night fell. The visibility was poor with patchy fog, so the captain remained on the
bridge keeping an eye on all activities.
Shortly after dark, the lookout on the wing of the bridge reported, “Light, bearing on the
starboard bow.”
“Is it steady or moving astern?” the captain called out.
Lookout replied, “Steady, captain,” which meant we were on a dangerous collision course
with that ship.
The captain then called to the signalman, “Signal that ship: We are on a collision course,
advise you to change course 20 degrees.”
Back came a signal, “Advisable for you to change course 20 degrees.”
The captain said, “Send, I’m a captain, change course 20 degrees.”
“I’m a seaman second class,” came the reply. “You had better change course 20 degrees.”
By that time the captain was furious. He spat out, “Send, I’m a battleship. Change course
20 degrees.”
Back came the flashing light, “I’m a lighthouse.”
We changed course.
Will you crash against the principles ... or change course?
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The 7 Habits ... an overview.
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Sharpen saw
Interdependence
Understand
Synergize
5
6
PUBLIC
VICTORY
Think win-win
4
Independence
1st
3
things 1st
PRIVATE
VICTORY
1
2
Be Proactive
End in mind
Dependence
habit = knowledge
+ skill
+ desire
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Habit 1: Be proactive.
the gap = our choice
stimulus
proactive
(forward acting, opportunity-focused, clear)
I will read one book per month in my field.
I will exercise and attend Weight Watchers weekly.
I will cook dinners for my wife every Monday.
response
circle of
no concern
Victor Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning
Not until you can say
I am what I am today
because of the choices I
made yesterday.
... can you say
I choose otherwise.
circle
of
influence
concern
reactive
(reverse acting, problem-bound, vague)
I am not as smart as others in this company.
People think I’m too heavy.
I wish our Monday evenings were better.
 Examples of your reactive statements ... and your “proactive” counterparts.
 What to do when frustrated? Discouraged? Imposter? What is your “fix routine”?
 Why not be proactive? What is the risk? Are you willing to risk failure?
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Risking failure ... a shining example!
Less than one year of formal education.
Innovate or Die, Jack Matson
Ran for state legislature ... lost.
Bought a store to make a living ... ended up with a huge debt.
1 outside of your circle of influence
Interested in a girl ... she died.
Interested in another girl ... she dumped him.
2 failure of planning
Served four successive terms in the state general assembly.
3 failure of action
Became a lawyer.
Engaged to be married ... engagement broke ... eventually got married.
Had a son
... then another who died
... then another who died ...
then another.
Ran for Congress ... and lost ...
and again, and lost ...
and again, and lost ...
more failures
... then elected
...but was too unpopular to be re-elected.
Became one of the leading lawyers in his state.
Ran for Senate .. and lost.
but more
Ran for President ... and won.
successes!
Presided successfully over a war.
Re-elected President.
 Write your “failure resume”.
 Did you risk time, energy, money, or reputation?
 Why did you fail (see reasons above)?
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Habit 2: Begin with the end in mind.
The law of the farm: You reap what you sow.
translated “sacrifice”
vision = what you want to see
mission = immediate next step(s)
Both tend to focus priorities.
 Specifically … write what you want to reap. What do you HOPE for?
A prestigious job? A girlfriend or boyfriend? Money?
 Write what you are willing to sow. Time? Personal energy? Money? Your friends?
 Any books or movies or models that guide you?
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Darrell Velegol’s vision and mission
VISION
A “shining city on a hill” …
human dignity and virtue. You have a purpose. You have value as a human.
hope and freedom. You can change the world.
MISSION
Inspiring Penn State students to change their world ...
and apprenticing them to champion their hope through
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character. Inspiring trust by establishing and practicing values with courage.
ownership. Championing hopes with responsibility and tenacity.
risk. Innovating or revolutionizing despite possible failure or adversity.
engineering method. Making technical decisions soundly.
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Buzzwords for a vision or mission
Chemical engineering ... and other passions
What will you do with these?
chemical production
cosmetics
electronics
energy
environment
food
management
medicine
patent research-law
petroleum
pharmaceuticals
regulation
research
wastewater
acquire
advance
appreciate
apprentice
build
communicate
construct
counsel
delight
educate
elect
engineer
enlighten
entertain
animal rights
arts-movies-opera
cancer
child care and development
education
environment
faith
homeless and poor
law
national parks
Penn State University
politics and government
rape victims
travel
finance
foster
inspire
launch
master
motivate
nurture
organize
praise
speak
travel
venture
volunteer
write
http://www.dosomething.org/index.cfm
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Habit 3: Put first things first.
urgent
important
not urgent
I: necessity
crises
deadlines
“maintaining”
II: opportunity
PC activities
planning & prevention
commitment
(25 - 25)
(65-15)
III
not important interruptions
some meetings
some reports
(5-55)
IV
trivia
busy work
time wasters
(5-5)
• We want Quadrant II > Quadrant I.
• Quadrant II comes from Quadrants III and IV.
 Estimate how much time you spend in Quadrant II (and what IS Quad IV?) ...
 How do you plan your day? Datebook? Palm Pilot?
 How much is your time worth to you, in dollars/hour?
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The P/PC balance
Aesop’s fable
“The Goose and the Golden Egg”
“A man and his wife had the good fortune to possess
a goose that laid a golden egg every day. Lucky
though they were, they soon began to think they
were not getting rich fast enough, and, imagining the
bird must be made of gold inside, they decided to kill
it in order to secure the whole store of precious metal
at once.
But when they cut it open they found it was just like
any other goose. Thus, they neither got rich all at
once, as they had hoped, nor enjoyed any longer the
daily addition to their wealth.”
Production (things you are “paid” for)
Production Capability (no “pay”!)
designing a chemical process
wiring a home
doing a dance
enjoying a healthy body
having great kids
studying chemical engineering
apprenticing as an electrician
practicing dance
exercising
preparing evening dinners, reading to kids
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Habit 3 ... a demonstration.
1 Identify big rocks (q2).
2 Schedule these FIRST!
3 Surround with other.
What is the lesson?
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The 7 Habits ... moving to interdependence
7
Sharpen saw
Interdependence
Understand
Synergize
5
6
PUBLIC
VICTORY
Think win-win
4
Independence
1st
3
things 1st
PRIVATE
VICTORY
1
2
Be Proactive
End in mind
Dependence
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consideration
Habit 4: Think win-win.
lose-win
win-win or no deal
(you get hard
feelings)
(abundance mentality;
get P and PC)
lose-lose
win-lose
(never pays)
(other person gets hard
feeling)
courage
 Are there times when paradigms others than “win-win” are appropriate?
 How do you develop “courage”? “Consideration”? Emotional bank account?
 What causes conflict? Tools for conflict resolution? Your “boundaries”?
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Habit 5: First understand ... then be understood.
win-win area = L x h
h = “understand”
L = “be understood”
4 tips for dealing with people
 Do not criticize, condemn, or complain.
 Express sincere appreciation.
 Give them “emotional air” and learn their story.
 Focus on their interests (know your best alternative coming in).
Dale Carnegie How to Win Friends and Influence People
Fisher & Ury, Getting to Yes
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What are some “stranglers” for emotional air?
What are some ways we can express sincere appreciation?
How often do you ask someone to a professional lunch?
How do you meet a person? How do you greet a person?
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Habit 6: Synergize.
“Animal school”
Once upon a time, the animals decided they must do something
heroic to meet the problems of a “New World”, so they organized
a school. They adopted an activity curriculum consisting of
running, climbing, swimming, and flying. To make it easier to
administer, all animals took all the subjects.
In the end, the duck’s web feet were so badly worn that he
couldn’t swim, the rabbit had a nervous breakdown and couldn’t
run, the eagle was disciplined severely for getting to the top of the
tree without climbing, and an abnormal eel ended up doing best
overall and winning valedictorian.
 What are your unique gifts? What talents do you need from others?
 What qualities often seem like a disadvantage, but are necessary?
 How do you contact or talk with people, if you are shy? (Carnegie)
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What is your “personality”?
4 categories
I-E introvert (reserved) - extrovert (expressive)
S-N sensory (observant) - intuitive (conceptual)
T-F thinking - feeling
P-J perceiving (probing) - judging (critiquing)
David Keirsey, Please Understand Me II
(similar to Myers-Briggs)
• no “ranking”
• don’t feel “boxed in”!
• people are different
ARTISANS (observant, probing)
IDEALISTS (intuitive, feeling)
ESTP promoter (Roosevelt, Madonna)
ENFJ teacher (Gorbachev, Billy Graham)
ISTP crafter (Bruce Lee, Earhart)
INFJ counselor (Gandhi, E Roosevelt)
ESFP performer (Elvis, Reagan)
ENFP champion
ISFP composer (Carson, Streisand)
INFP healer (Albert Schweitzer)
GUARDIANS (observant, critiquing)
ESTJ supervisor (Colin Powell)
ISTJ inspector (Truman)
ESFJ provider (G Washington)
ISFJ protector (Mother Teresa)
RATIONALS (intuitive, thinking)
ENTJ fieldmarshall (Gates, Greenspan)
INTJ mastermind (D Eisenhower, Rand)
ENTP inventor (Disney, Edison)
INTP architect (Einstein, Darwin)
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The 7 Habits ... one more step
7
Sharpen saw
Interdependence
Understand
Synergize
5
6
PUBLIC
VICTORY
Think win-win
4
Independence
1st
3
things 1st
PRIVATE
VICTORY
1
2
Be Proactive
End in mind
Dependence
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Habit 7: Sharpen the saw.
Spiritual
battle of good versus evil
(atheism, Christianity, Hinduism,
Islam, Judaism)
Social
Mental
family, friends, service
(notes, phone calls, emails, visits)
reading, journaling, discussing,
seminars, meetings
Physical
endurance, strength, flexibility,
sleep, eating
 When will YOU sharpen your saw?
 What measures will you use in each category?
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The homework …
Establish your “big rocks” – the important changes, not just the urgent.
1 Decide that you CAN in fact change your life.
2 Get away one weekend with a pen and pad of paper.
Write down what you HOPE for in life, and what you feel called towards (e.g., family, work, opera).
If you don’t know … talk with friends or family.
If you don’t know … try things! Athletics, service, camping, animal rights, politics, research.
If you don’t know … read biographies and newspapers.
If you don’t know … look at http://www.dosomething.org/index.cfm.
If you don’t know … is finishing your ChE degree your current “end”?
Plan toward your vision.
3 Record how you spend a typical week … then decide how well it matches your vision.
Use a daily planner (e.g., a date book, a Palm) to plan by weeks, focusing on today.
If in a rut, find a small victory and win it.
Sharpen the saw.
mental: Learn a hobby (e.g., chess, golf, piano), or about people (Mars & Venus, Dale Carnegie)
physical: Exercise, eat right, sleep.
social: Find friends with whom you can share your deepest struggles, biggest triumphs,
most guarded weaknesses and fears.
spiritual: Good versus evil questions are the biggest you’ll face.
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Announcement
“Be a Champion of Change with the 7 Habits!”
Professor Darrell Velegol will hold a workshop based on Stephen Covey’s best-selling book, 7
Habits of Highly Effective People. This interactive workshop will help you think about some
big questions in life …
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Are you able to change important areas of your life: work, relationships, balance?
Are you just living day to day, or toward a vision? What does “success” mean to you?
Do you prioritize your time and energy well?
How often do you feel taken advantage of by others? Can you also be a “winner”?
Do you know how to work well in teams? How to listen to others? How to be heard?
What are your unique talents? Are they important?
Does your life often feel “out of balance”?
Please join us in exploring these and other questions. YOU will be one of the leaders of
tomorrow – at work, in your community, in your home. Technical skills are critical, but not
enough! Whatever your level – sophomore, junior, senior, grad student – join us and learn
how to champion change around you.
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