Willing to Wait
Student Survey Comments
Shari Evans, Instructor
What NEW thing have you learned through this program?
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I get to choose what happens in my life
That I need to set boundaries and what that looks like in my relationships
Sex means more than what the mainstream media says!
That you can’t cure a viral STI
The emotional toll can be HUGE
That the more people you have sex with the more STI/STDs you have been exposed to
That being abstinent doesn’t just mean no sex
Ways to avoid pressure to have sex
It’s okay to say NO! You’re not obligated to anything
I learned many things such as about being emotionally attached
That abstinence is a big commitment and you have to make choices to stay abstinent
You can keep yourself safe from pregnancy, STIs, diseases, AIDS by abstinence
Abstinence is always an option
Some STI/STDs are contracted via skin-to-skin contact
That your choices really do impact your life
Male and female reproductive system and why girls have a period
You don’t have to say yes to everything
It’s never too late to make different choices
How easy it is to NOT recognize an unhealthy relationship
Sex is the leading cause of pregnancy
That people can be on the sex offender list for just doing dumb things and making bad choices
I can say no or stop about having sex
That sex can change someone’s life forever; abstinence is the only way to 100% prevent STI/STDs
I learned how to respect myself and other people in a relationship
You can get STDs in your mouth
I learned that there are more than one way to get an STD (many students gave this response)
I learned about the emotional consequences of sex
“Protection” doesn’t always work
That I should tell my boyfriend my boundaries when it comes to our relationship
How to say “no” with confidence
That having sex at a young age can really affect a lot of things in your life. It can also affect your body and how you think
about yourself and others
The new things I have learned from this program is that you choose if you are willing to wait
Anyone under 18 yrs. caught sending or taking “pics” can be accountable for child pornography
Mainly to say no and to stay in groups
Choose your relationships wisely because it can ruin your future
I learned that once you start arousing it is hard to stop
That it is okay to wait
EVERYTHING!! Before this class I was clueless
There is a strain of the “clap” that is resistant to antibiotics
Sex does matter!
That waiting is actually a life lesson
Guys and girls view sex differently and in high school it’s just not worth making mistakes that will affect your future
That you can get a disease by skin to skin contact but not by shaking hands (unless you shake hands really weird)
You can get STDs even when you’re wearing a condom
I learned a lot about myself
Abstinence is a really good thing
How to tell a person that you want to wait
How to have a healthy relationship
25% or 1 in 4 sexually active teens have at least 1 STI
What will change in your life now that you have had this course?
 The way I view females
 I have some stuff to think about now!
 I will wait until I find the right girl and get married before I have sex
 Will set boundaries
 May be STI checks now instead of none like before
 I am now planning on waiting until marriage to have sex
 Nothing, I already had an abstinence plan. This will help me be firm
 I will say NO from now on; I definitely view sex differently
 I think I might change the boundary line with my boyfriend so I don’t go too far before marriage
 Well, I was gonna have sex with a senior guy here at school, no feelings for him, but I wasn’t sure. Even with my
boyfriend I didn’t know what to do because he’s a player. He has a cycle he does and now thanks to the “no sex lady”
 I’m waiting!!
 What will change in my life now is knowing that I have the power to say no
 I will be able to set better boundaries (Many students responded that they would now start setting boundaries)
 I will know how to say no with no questions asked!
 I will be more educated
 I shared information with my mom and since I did our relationship has been closer
 I will now treat girls with more respect
 I will re-evaluate my risks for STI/STDs
 It will chage the way I look at relationships
 I already set boundaries and I respect the girl that I’m going to get one day. Whatever boundaries they have, I won’t
push
 I will know how to have a more faithful relationship
 I won’t try to be like “everyone else”
 How I let other people treat me
 This helps me stay more firm and avoid unhealthy relationships
 Knowing how far is too far
 The knowledge I have of STDs and STIs
 Choosing how/when to have sex
 My outlook on relationships and sex have both changed drastically
 I won’t have sex until I am married and then I will have sex like CRAZY!!!
 Shari changed my views completely on what I do in relationships. Thank you, it made a difference in my life
 My boyfriend now knows I’m waiting
 I won’t hurry into a relationship now
 I’m prepared
 I think knowing what can happen will change my life
 I will tell my boyfriend my boundaries and see if they respect them
 I will really pay attention to a guy’s values
 I feel like I will be safer
 Not to have more than one partner
 I probably won’t have sex in high school but I don’t know if I’ll wait until marriage
 I know I have made some bad mistakes and now I want to start over, start new
 I may not take every chance to have sex now
 I’ll stick up for myself because I now know it is okay to say “NO”
 I’ll make higher standards for myself
 I’ll be communicating boundaries even more
 I will be slower in the sexual progression of things
 EVERYTHING will change!
 I’ll know when to stop
 I will be cautious of who I hang out with
 I will remember that it’s never too late to change
Tell WHY you have or have not decided to wait to have sex or have sex again…
 I’m undecided. I was raped. I didn’t have a choice the first time. I want to make the right one my second time
 I haven’t waited because I thought I was in a forever relationship…but now I don’t want it again until I’m married
 I am going to wait I just don’t know how long because I don’t plan on getting married until I have everything in
life figured out and a stable future
 I’m waiting because it is the safest thing to do
 I’m still deciding because some day I might feel ready yet may not be married
 I’m waiting so I won’t get distracted from my goals
 I don’t know yet, I’m still considering my options
 I’m waiting because I want a good reputation and have no risk of disease
 I’m waiting, the cons of doing it outweigh the pros!
 I have not decided yet but I probably won’t have sex again until I’m married
 I’m waiting because of what I learned, I don’t want to get hurt
 It’s too late but in my future relationships I will wait!
 I planned on NOT doing it because of religious views but wasn’t sure if I could follow it but this has made me
decide that I am waiting for sure
 I’m waiting because my dad has told me it is 10x better to wait and to do it with “the one”
 I’m NOT waiting…it’s too awesome to give up, but I don’t want an STI so I’ll be careful
 I don’t know if I will or not because I know it will be hard to find people to date who will wait
 I’m not sure what I have planned
 I’m waiting because I don’t want the drama
 I haven’t really decided to wait yet, but I know how to make the right decisions now
 I have decided to wait because it becomes about disrespect
 Well at first I wanted to have sex because I felt like I would be loser if I didn’t but now I know it’s my body and I
should protect it
 I want what I have to offer to mean something. I want it to be special and worry free
 I have decided to wait because that’s a part of me I only want my lifelong partner to know
 I’m waiting because I want the whole experience
 I’m NOT gonna wait because I like it!
 I’m waiting because I don’t want to get a girl pregnant
 I don’t know…I don’t want to get married
 I have decided to wait because I want to succeed in my goals and I’m not ready for all the consequences
 I have decided to wait until I’m married because I want my husband to be my first and only. I hope my husband
is the same way
 I have decided to not have sex until I’m married so I can protect my body and be fully prepared emotionally
 I have come close but you have taught me WHY to NOT!!
 I’m not waiting because it is too long of a wait
 I have decided to wait because sex complicates everything
 I’m not waiting because sex is fun!
 I’m gonna wait because I don’t want to do something I will regret later
 I’m waiting because I think it is the right thing to do
 I have waited because I think there are many more benefits of waiting then not waiting
 I’m not waiting because I’m gay and I don’t have to worry about pregnancy and I can’t get married anyway
 I’m waiting because I want to be emotionally ready
 I’m undecided because of the PRESSURE!!! The pressure to have sex is high! But I don’t want to because the
chances of getting a STI or anything scares me. If I were to get one I think it could ruin my life
 I’m waiting because it generates a healthier life if not almost guarantees it!
 I’m waiting because you changed how I see myself and my actions. Thanks for coming to this class and opening
my eyes.
 I don’t know…I’ll only wait if she waits
I would just really like to say…
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Shari, I just want to let you know that since you came in 8 grade I have turned down 30+ sexual activities. You have taught
me the importance of abstinence. My father was 16 when I was born. You have helped me not to repeat history. I can
never thank you enough for everything you have done for me and my peers. I want you to know that your lessons have not
fallen on deaf ears. You are a life saver, truly, and I hope that nobody ever takes you for granted. Thank you for
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everything! (10 gr. guy)
I think it’s great that this is showing guys that sex is way different for girls. I’m glad you talked about how sex doesn’t show
you love someone, but waiting sure does!
Thank you soooo much! You are really funny and you have changed my thinking and helped me in relationships
I’d love to have your job…are you hiring?
You helped me understand the risks and consequences
Thank you…keep doing what you’re doing
You’re freakin’ awesome
Thank you! It helped A LOT!!
Your presentations and activities were descriptive and helpful
Thank you for coming to our class. Every day this week I couldn’t wait for this class
When you explained how having your one and only be your spouse, I thought that must be an incredible thing and I’d like
that to be me. It really changed my views
This program helped me a lot to rethink having sex again and what you said about pre-marriage sex is true
Thanks, you have changed me in so many ways. You opened my eyes and heart again! I will always remember you
I feel I learned a lot and feel more comfortable about the subject
I think that this program is a real eye-opener regardless of past events
Thanks for sharing your story…I learned a lot
Shari, you are a great inspiration and how you turned your life around was amazing! I will never forget you or this class
I think this program really helped a lot of us. Thank you 
Willing to Wait really worked in changing my views. I choose abstinence!
You’re pretty cool…you have swag!
Thanks for coming in and being so open about such a closed topic
Thank you for telling us the risks we have because I know a lot of teenagers don’t know all the risks they only think about
getting pregnant
This really helped me to see the less obvious effects of sex
You are amazing Shari…sorry to say you WON’T be giving me a pregnancy test anytime soon 
I am glad I took this class and gained reassurance
Thank you because I didn’t know that by doing it that it could affect my life so much
Thank you. At times the lessons were uncomfortable but funny and I learned a lot
I learned a lot of helpful information and now know what could happen
This program really made me think about dating and that you have to be careful with your relationships
I loved this class!!
You did an amazing job at teaching this and I would love for you to teach again!
Thank you!!!! I now know multiple ways to say no and to wait
Thank you for telling me that it could ruin my life
You did a great job and helped me find better choices for my life
You are a quality lady and very fun to listen to!
This class has made me think twice about sex
This has been really eye opening
You really helped me realize that the choices I was going to make would really affect me…not necessarily in a good way
You made an awkward subject not awkward, thank you!
You’ve helped answer so many embarrassing questions and informed me of many things. Thank you!
Thank you for setting me on the right track
You make this stuff easy to learn because you make it fun!! Thank you for coming, you’d be the coolest mom ever!
Thank you for the life lessons, they really helped
My friend was thinking about having sex and I told her all the things we’ve been talking about and it made her stop and
think
Thank you! I am firm in my resolve not to do it!
Thank you for all the information. It’s going to help me make a decision I wasn’t sure about