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TABLE OF CONTENTS This Rush module is designed to give the Chapter Advisor a variety of basic ground rules for a successful rush. While ritual must be identical (regardless of location or personality of a chapter), this Rush module must be flexible enough to accommodate the personality differences from chapter to chapter. We have enclosed a combination of basic “ground rules”, plus ideas and tools from other chapters. DO NOT HAND THE CONTENTS OF THIS MODULE TO THE RUSH CHAIRMAN, AS THERE IS MORE MATERIAL THAN ANY ONE CHAPTER WOULD EVER USE. Successful Rush Programs are generally unique to the chapter. The advisor generally knows the personality of the chapter and can use pieces and parts of this module to help the chapter build “their” own Rush Program. Please share with the National Chairman of the Ad Hoc Committee on Rush any and all successful ideas that might be added to this module for others to use as a resource. Good Luck! INTRODUCTION ................................................................................................................. 5 RUSH ORGANIZATION ..................................................................................................... 6 KNOW YOUR CHAPTER ................................................................................................... 7 RUSH --THE PRACTICAL APPLICATION AFTER COLLEGE ........................................ 8 KEYS TO A SUCCESSFUL RUSH/RECRUITMENT.......................................................... 9 RECRUITMENT/RUSH ..................................................................................................... 10 CHAPTER RECRUITMENT / RUSH WORKSHEET......................................................... 11 RUSH BRAINSTORMING WORKSHEET ........................................................................ 14 SAMPLE RUSH CALENDAR WORKSHEET ................................................................... 15 RECRUITMENT/RUSH ..................................................................................................... 19 RUSH PROFILE ............................................................................................................... 20 PROFILE RUSH BOARD ................................................................................................. 21 BID SESSIONS ................................................................................................................. 22 1 BID OBJECTIONS ............................................................................................................ 23 RUSH EVALUATION ........................................................................................................ 24 THE RUSH WORKSHOP ................................................................................................. 26 RUSH WORKSHOP OUTLINE ......................................................................................... 27 METHODS OF CONDUCTING THE RUSH WORKSHOP ............................................... 28 WORKSHOP OPERATIONS: PROBLEMS AND PRACTICE ......................................... 29 FINDING ANSWERS: THE DO’S AND DON’TS OF A SUCCESSFUL RUSH ............... 30 BUILDING FRIENDSHIP FIRST: CONVERSATION WITH THE RUSHEE .................... 32 CLOSURE OF THE RUSH WORKSHOP ......................................................................... 33 PUTTING TOGETHER A RUSH BROCHURE ................................................................. 34 NON-ALCOHOL RUSH COMMENTS AND IDEAS .......................................................... 36 RUSH ACTIVITIES ........................................................................................................... 39 RUSH IDEAS .................................................................................................................... 40 WHY JOIN A FRATERNITY? ........................................................................................... 48 GREEK MEMBERSHIP .................................................................................................... 51 SAMPLE LETTERS .......................................................................................................... 52 BROCHURE ..................................................................................................................... 60 SAMPLE LETTERS .......................................................................................................... 62 R;USH FLYERS ................................................................................................................ 64 FACTS ..................................................................................................................... 68 THE NINE BASIC EXPECTATIONS OF FRATERNITY MEMBERSHIP ....................... 70 2 GREEK WORKING TOGETHER GRAPHIC .................................................................... 71 PROFILE .................................................................................................................. 74 MOUNT UNION COLLEGE GREEK LIFE (PAGE 1 OF 2) .............................................. 75 GREEK ANALYSIS - EXAMPLE ...................................................................................... 77 GREEK ANALYSIS - SAMPLE OF ACTUAL RESULTS ............................................... 78 SIGMA ALPHA EPSILON RESPONSIBILITIES OF CHAPTER ADVISOR ................ 79 INFORMATION SHEET .................................................................................................... 81 FRATERNITY MARKETING AND RECRUITING ............................................................. 82 RUSH WORKSHOP.......................................................................................................... 93 “CHANGE OF PACE ICE BREAKERS" ......................................................................... 97 STORY .............................................................................................................................. 99 COMMUNICATION BUILDING BLOCKS (WRITE-UP)................................................. 100 COMMUNICATION BUILDING BLOCKS GRAPHIC PICTURES .................................. 101 WINNERS ....................................................................................................................... 102 ATTITUDES .................................................................................................................... 103 DISCUSSION SHEET ..................................................................................................... 104 IT MAKES A DIFFERNCE TO THIS ONE ...................................................................... 105 SAFARI ........................................................................................................................... 106 MIKE MAVIS WORKSHEET ........................................................................................... 107 WORD TO GROW ON ARTICLE.................................................................................... 108 “I AM” ............................................................................................................................. 109 3 MARGARET MEAD QUOTE .......................................................................................... 110 NUMBER SCRAMBLE GAME ....................................................................................... 111 4 INTRODUCTION Rush is nothing more than a process of making friends. It brings men together of different interests, backgrounds, and philosophies for the initial exchange of ideas, which form a base for the growth of the most solid friendships. As a process of forming friendships, rush is the oldest and most basic chapter operation in Sigma Alpha Epsilon. Indeed, it is the force, which formed the fraternity. Its effect is described in the first pages of William “Billy” Levere’s Three-Volume History of Sigma Alpha Epsilon. “The Fraternity…grew quietly and silently from a seed planted in the hearts of its eight founders long before they dreamed what the fruit of that seed would be. The seed was friendship. From a college companionship, in which these eight men shared, there was a gradual evolution which resulted in the birth of the fraternity.” And so the ideal of friendship so important to ’s beginning, remains an integral part of the rush process. Even as rush is a means of establishing friendships, it is also a function of survival. It mush be done to continue the chapter, improve it, to maintain its strength and make it ever better. This is your duty as Rush Chairman, to organize the effort, to plan and implement a program, to give every member of your chapter the knowledge and the opportunity to introduce new men to the experience of friendship in Sigma Alpha Epsilon. By completing these tasks, you are enabling fellow students to know what it means to be your Brother in SAE for life. Good Luck and Phi Alpha! The Rush Chairman may be asked to sign and post an open letter to the chapter acknowledging his commitment to fulfill the responsibilities as stated above. 5 RUSH ORGANIZATION Rush Staff Selection The beginning of a successful rush is forming a team to accomplish a set of goals and or tasks. Most chapters have a rush chairman who sets the tone and direction during the rush process. While the selection of a rush chairman (one person must have ultimate responsibility not two) is critical. The process of rush is better served by an active committee, which can be called the rush committee or the events committee. Duties of Rush Chairman (men) Select the committee that will assist him. Plan meetings and the agendas associated with each meeting. Gauge the progress of the committee. Is the work being done? Coordinate efforts to maximize time and manpower. Plan and conduct the rush workshop for the entire chapter. Develop a rush budget. Duties of Rush Committee Evaluate rush surveys completed by the last pledge class. Determine the goals of rush. How many men should you sign? Serve as a feedback source for the rush chairman. Is his performance satisfactory? Delegate tasks essential for a successful rush event. What needs to be done? Example: House Rush Event – House Tours 7 – 9p.m. Who is calling all interested rushees? Who is giving tours? Is attendance mandatory for all Brothers? If yes, who will assure all Brothers are in attendance? Food and Drink? Who is in charge? 6 Spread the workload to alleviate the pressure on any one individual. Remain enthusiastic and encourage all Brothers to participate in all events. Solicit and acknowledge rush recommendations. Plan and coordinate publications, mailings, and audio visual aids for the summer. Communicate to the chapter. Hand out rush schedules and solicit feedback. KNOW YOUR CHAPTER Your chapter can essentially be divided into three different groups: 1. Approximately 10% of the Brothers will volunteer to do all they can to make your rush program successful. These men are usually self-motivating and personally responsible. 2. Approximately 10% of the Brothers will not be motivated under any circumstances and will usually do as little as possible just so they can “get by.” Essentially is a waste of time to concentrate efforts on motivating these men, and most times wishful thinking to believe it is possible. But these men should be included in all rush activities and not ignored. 3. The remaining 80% of the chapter is where you will need to concentrate your efforts. These men are the ones that require motivation and are also the ones with which you will have the most success. Essentially, this group can make or break a good rush program. The responsibility for keeping these brothers involved and interested is up to the Rush chairman and his Committee. Your expectations of them and your camaraderie with them are vitally important. These are broad generalizations, of course, but as a rule would characterize the typical brotherhood of any chapter. Therefore, you might want to use the following guidelines as methods of motivating group number 3 – the 80% of your chapter. Be sure all brothers have a part, or at least feel they have a part in forming the rush program. Solicit their ideas and be a good listener. For all practical purposes, a person who believes the program is partially his, will support it, work for it, and give you his full cooperation. Be enthusiastic about your job and about rush. Keep all brothers informed and up-to-date on your chapter activities. Open lines of communication are vitally important if the brothers are to know what is going on and what is expected of them. Do not attempt to do everything yourself. Give the members responsibilities and delegate authority. Follow-up and make sure thing is getting done. Use fair, consistent methods. Recognize a job that is well done. Personally thank individual brothers, or the entire chapter, for the assistance they give you. Complaints will get you nowhere, but COMPLIMENTS CAN ONLY INCREASE COOPERATION. 7 RUSH --The practical application after college Rush Events in the business world are: * seminars/open houses/product or service demos, displays etc... Rush Flyers in the business world are: * product or service catalog pages, product mailers, flyers, promotional items etc... List of Prospective/Desirable Rushees in the business world are: * a list of prospects/prospective customers – their needs, their likes, their dislikes, and their odds of purchasing our product. List of ΣΑΕ’s and their assigned rushees in the business world are: * a list of salesmen and their assigned prospective customers. Notes on Rush Board showing progress and chance of accepting a bid in the business world are: * Sales reports with results of each call and overall progress with % estimate of possible sale. Rewards for rush efforts in the business world are: * incentives for salesmen to sell more product Rush workshops in the business world are: * sales meetings instructing salesmen on how to sell their product/services ’s primary products are friendship and a chance to participate in a long list of non-classroom educational opportunities. Nothing will happen if we do not rush. 8 KEYS TO A SUCCESSFUL RUSH/RECRUITMENT I. All member's involved capitalizing on differing talents. II. No alcohol. III. Alumni involvement. IV. Year round effort. V. Don’t spend a lot of money. VI. Rush Chair to have meaningful report at each Chapter meeting. (No report is not acceptable). VII. Brothers making friends with Prospects = Recruitment. VIII. Display and promote a balance between social, community, scholarship, friendship and leadership. IX. Track each prospect, each event, and current progress. X. Be a TRUE GENTLEMAN! 9 RECRUITMENT/RUSH Planning Process I. Elect a Rush chairman II. Form Rush Committee III. Establish meaningful goals. IV. Establish a budget. V. Brainstorm Rush Ideas. VI. Establish Calendar of Events. VII. Plan and implement rush events. VIII. Match rushees and actives / track progress. IX. Develop bid list. X. Present bids. XI. Evaluate results & adjust program. XII. Pass program to next chairman. 10 CHAPTER RECRUITMENT / RUSH WORKSHEET I. Elect Rush Chairman (Chapter Responsibility) – List desirable talents. _____________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________ II. Form Committee (Chapter or Chairman Responsibility) - Size of Committee _____________ _____________________________________________________________ - List desirable talents of committee members ____________________________________ ____________________________________ ____________________________________ ____________________________________ ____________________________________ ____________________________________ ____________________________________ ____________________________________ ____________________________________ ____________________________________ Brother's Names _______________ _______________ _______________ _______________ _______________ _______________ _______________ _______________ _______________ _______________ -Frequency of committee meetings (list full year schedule) _____________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________ -Meeting attendance expectations _____________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________ 11 RUSH WORKSHEET (Cont’d) III. Goals - Quality: Define your standards and describe how you plan to obtain Chapter acceptance of same. _____________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________ - Quantity: Define or establish your goals/needs and describe how you plan to obtain Chapter acceptance of same Chapter acceptance of same. _____________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________ Note: Goals may have been established by the previous semester rush committee, by the executive committee or others. However, the current committee must make the necessary steps to make these goals (changed or unchanged) "THEIR" goals. IV. Budget Using the knowledge of the past rush programs the Rush committee should define what they consider a reasonable percent of total Chapter budget as the Rush budget. Percent of Chapter Budget ___________ Using the current semester (if available) or the previous semester Chapter Budget, apply the percentage and establish a min/max dollar budget amount. Max $___________Min $____________ Describe Chapter acceptance process. _____________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________ V. 12 Brainstorm Rush Events/Ideas (see worksheet) RUSH WORKSHEET (Cont’d) VI. Establish a Calendar of Events (see worksheet) A. Include all activities - summer rush, mailing, rush events, rush workshops etc. B. Rush chair and committee should be logically tied to IFC/campus rush rules. I/E. If freshman rush is second semester, Rush Chair should be elected prior to summer break and continue for one year. To elect a new rush chair and pass the responsibility at semester break (Dec-Jan) just when the rush process is at its critical peak would be counter productive. VII. Plan & Implement Rush Events (See separate worksheet). VIII. Match Rushees & Actives / Track progress (see enclosed “Profile Rush Board”) IX. Develop Bid List (Describe process including black ball, see Bid Sessions & Bid Objections Pages.) _____________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________ X. Present Bids - Bids are presented and pledges taken. Describe process. (i.e., formal written invitation presented in person, etc. etc.) _____________________________________________________________ XI. Evaluate Results & Adjust Program (See Rush Evaluation Section) SUMMARY: Each active member should be involved. Therefore, the Chairman and committee must find a way to communicate often enough to exchange information and input from all brothers giving everyone a sense of unity and organization. Those who choose not to participate or do not hold up their end can not be allowed to destroy the end product or goal. XII. Pass program to next chairman. 13 RUSH BRAINSTORMING WORKSHEET List ten possible school year Rush events: (include mailings, parties, programs - all ideas) 1. __________________________________________________________ 2. __________________________________________________________ 3. __________________________________________________________ 4. __________________________________________________________ 5. __________________________________________________________ 6. __________________________________________________________ 7. __________________________________________________________ 8. __________________________________________________________ 9. __________________________________________________________ 10.__________________________________________________________ List five possible summer rush events: (include mailing, parties, programs - all ideas) 1. __________________________________________________________ 2. __________________________________________________________ 3. __________________________________________________________ 4. __________________________________________________________ 5. __________________________________________________________ (See “Putting Together a Rush Brochure” pages) 14 Sample Rush Calendar Worksheet Mix, match, add or subtract items from the two sample worksheets to create “YOUR” worksheet for the year or one for each semester. Responsible Brother Date Due Date Complete …………… …………… …………… …………… …………… …………… …………… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …………… …………… …………… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …………… …/…/… …/…/… …………… …………… …………… …………… …………… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …………… …………… …………… …………… …………… …………… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …………… …/…/… …/…/… …………… …………… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …………… Responsible Brother …/…/… Due Date …/…/… Date Complete Activity / Action I. II. Mailing to all male Freshmen and upperclassmen prospects A. List of Names and Addresses 1. Registrar’s office 2. Admissions office 3. Interfraternity Council 4. Recommendations list 5. Names given by last year’s pledges 6. Additional names supplied by incoming students who have already been contacted 7. Mother’s Clubs 8. Father’s Club 9. High School advisors, counselors and activities directors 10. Athletic department’s list of freshman talent accepted for admission 11. List of scholarship recipients who will attend 12. Summer school attendance records 13. Freshman orientation attendees 14. Alumni club records 15. List of students active in student activities but not affiliated with another fraternity 16. List of men’s residence hall occupants 17. Dean of Men’s office 18. Student Life office B. Draft letter(s) C. Determine insert(s) D. Print, collate, stuff and mail Undergraduate Contact A. Contact workshops for all undergraduates prior to summer break 1. Explain summer rush plans 2. Review importance of personal contact and basic rules of rush 3. Role play to demonstrate 15 B. Match prospect zip codes with undergraduate zip codes C. Send undergraduates a list (with phone numbers, if available) of prospects living in matching zip codes. See Rush Profile. D. Send Alumni list of prospects living in their area along with "Wanted: More True Gentlemen for and brief cover letter asking for their help." E. Ask interested Alumni to host a summer event at their home and invite prospects living in the area plus local undergraduates and alumni. Basic Check Points: 1. Are expectations of undergraduates clear 2. Is there continued follow-up 3. Are parents of prospects included when possible 4. Are responsibilities distributed as evenly as possible 5. Are accurate records being kept 6. Have Alumni recommendations been acknowledged 7. Have you explored combining resources with other chapters in your area 8. Were functions clearly defined regarding dress, location, stay, time, food/no food, etc. 9. Will using name tags make both prospects and brothers more comfortable? 10. Were letters concise and informative 11. Were letters personal enough Spring Rush Program (Jan- …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …………… …/…/… …/…/… …………… …/…/… …/…/… …………… …………… …………… …………… …………… …………… …………… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …………… …/…/… …/…/… …………… …/…/… …/…/… …………… …………… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …………… …………… …………… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …………… …………… Responsible Brother …/…/… …/…/… Due Date …/…/… …/…/… Date Complete …………… …………… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… ) I. Complete "Chapter Rush Worksheet" II. Mailing(s) Campus Mail Box A. Develop one or more letters/flyers and enclose providing information such as: 1. Fraternity costs, Dues, room and board 2. Leadership opportunities 3. Scholarship focus and results 4. Philanthropy programs 16 …………… …………… …………… …………… …………… …………… …………… …………… …………… …………… …………… …………… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… II. Conduct all member rush workshops (see example enclosed) …………… …/…/… …/…/… III. Establish rush events (see worksheet) and schedule each event …………… …/…/… …/…/… IV. Make a Rush Profile Board ( see example enclosed) A. Establish update meeting schedule B. Post where accessible to brother's but not prospects 1. Each Brother should pick one or more prospects and become key contact …………… …………… …………… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …………… …/…/… …/…/… V. Establish Bid meeting date and rules regarding bid or no bid. …………… …/…/… …/…/… VI. Prepare and deliver (in person) formal invitation to pledgeship …………… …/…/… …/…/… date 5. Famous members 6. Life long friends 7. Networking 8. Social outlet 9. Services available from National 10. Student loan opportunities 11. Pledging / hazing 12. Other-----Note: Assign brother and due date for each chosen communication, log completed. 17 Rush Period (Winter, Spring, Fall, Summer) Activity / Action Responsible Brother Date Due Date Complete _______________________________________________ _______________________________________________ _______________________________________________ _______________________________________________ _______________________________________________ _______________________________________________ _______________________________________________ _______________________________________________ _______________________________________________ _______________________________________________ _______________________________________________ _______________________________________________ _______________________________________________ _______________________________________________ _______________________________________________ _______________________________________________ _______________________________________________ _______________________________________________ _______________________________________________ _______________________________________________ _______________________________________________ _______________________________________________ _______________________________________________ _______________________________________________ _______________________________________________ _______________________________________________ _______________________________________________ _______________________________________________ _______________________________________________ _______________________________________________ _______________________________________________ …………… …………… …………… …………… …………… …………… …………… …………… …………… …………… …………… …………… …………… …………… …………… …………… …………… …………… …………… …………… …………… …………… …………… …………… …………… …………… …………… …………… …………… …………… …………… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… …/…/… 18 RECRUITMENT/RUSH RUSH EVENT PLANNING WORKSHEET Event Name _______________________________________________________ Time & Location ___________________________________________________ Describe event in detail ______________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________ Promotion/Advertising _______________________________________________ Cost _____________________________________________________________ Attendees open by invitation, etc.? _____________________________________ Brother Involvement ________________________________________________ Describe interaction/friendship opportunities _____________________________ __________________________________________________________________ How will you track results? ___________________________________________ List key ingredients you incorporated from "Keys to a Successful Rush/Rec. __________________________________________________________________ --------------------------------------------------------If the above event was a success and a member of your committee or advisor is willing to be a resource for other chapters, please complete the following and mail to Chapter Advisor Program c/o , PO Box 1856 , Sheridon Rd., Evanston Ill. 60204. Name _______________________ Phone-School _________________________ Phone-Summer ________________Chapter ____________ Grad Yr. __________ (partial list of rush event categories) Sports Summer Community Academic Social Flyers/Brochure Multimedia Other 19 RUSH PROFILE NAME:__________________________________________________________ HOMETOWN:______________________SCHOOL:______________________ HOME ADDRESS: STREET_________________________________________________________ CITY___________________________________STATE____ZIP____________ PHONE (_____) _________________________ SCHOOL ADDRESS: STREET_________________________________________________________ CITY _________________________________STATE____ZIP _____________ PHONE (_____) _________________________ CONTACT WITH INITIAL ___________________________________________________ OTHER DATE FUNCTION SPORTS: ___________________________________________________ HOBBIES:___________________________________________________ H.S. ACTIVITIES:_____________________________________________ MAJOR:_____________________________________________________ OTHER INTEREST:_____________________________________________ TAG MEN:____________________________________________________ 20 PROFILE RUSH BOARD PICTURE NAME HOMETOWN HIGHSCHOOL H.S. ACTIVITIES H.S. GPA HOBBIES COLLEGE SPORTS/ ACTIVITIES COLLEGE MAJOR COLLEGE GPA DORM ROOM# PHONE # P.O. BOX BEST COLLEGE FRIEND TAG TEAM EVENTS POSSIBILITY OF JOINING COMMENTS 20” X 30” POSTER BOARD 3” WIDE X 2” HIGH 22” X 28” POSTER BOARD 2-3/4” WIDE X 2” HIGH (PICTURE BLOCK IS 3”) 21 BID SESSIONS The general purpose of a bid session is not so much to determine the chapter’s final bid list but to: 1. Discuss and determine who the top prospects are. 2. Evaluate how the rush is going with individual perspectives. 3. Condense the list down to individuals the chapter is interested in. The following are general guidelines for conducting a successful bid session. All chapter’s individual rush programs vary, so tailor these guidelines to fit your particular chapter. Advance notice of the bid session should be given to the chapter so that brothers are aware of and prepared to discuss the list of prospectives. Suggested times for bid sessions are after rush functions, after meals, during chapter meetings, or any time or any time in which the chapter can assemble. Bid sessions should be conducted throughout rush. The bid session is generally conducted by the rush chairman. Prospective names may be presented by the rush chairman or by another brother. Once a name has been presented, a quick show of hands can determine how many in the chapter are acquainted with the perspective. The chapter should set a percentage (50 –75%) for a prospective name to be eligible for a vote. Any prospective which does not obtain the required prospective should be discussed and placed on the interest list or eliminated from consideration. For prospectives eligible for a vote, discussion should follow with negative comments first. If there are none, you can avoid a lot of repetitious favorable comment when there is general agreement to extend a bid. Discussion on the prospective should be specific, brothers should offer concrete and meaningful remarks on the prospective. If there are negative comments, open the floor to as much pro/con discussion as is needed to make an informed decision. The rush chairman should be careful to avoid delay in the selection process. Many good men have been lost to a slow rush process. 22 BID OBJECTIONS Nothing can be more bitter in the chapter than a clash over whether or not a prospective should receive a bid. However, these conflicts can be handled in a brotherly manner if the rush chairman is prepared in advance to handle such matters. When conflicts of this nature develop, a wise practice used by many chapters dictates that the man (men) who object to the bid spend some time getting to know the rushee. If the brother(s) still object after making a sincere and concerted effort to know the rushee, the chapter understands that he has at least made an effort. Those perspectives the chapter elects not to bid should be informed tactfully of where they stand early enough in rush for them to select another good house on campus. Other points for the Rush Chairman to consider prior to and during the bid session: Ensure that the chapter is extending bids based on valid criteria such as academic performance. It is often too easy to bid the men who present themselves well in a social setting while overlooking the quiet prospective who takes a little more time to know. Harry Bunting had ruled against extending a bid to Billy Levere until he took a second, closer look. If a name is rejected, only take further discussion and a new vote after all candidates have been voted on the first time. Assign brothers who will contact prospectives to invite them back and pick them up for functions. Review the chapter’s rush schedule and individual assignments for functions. AT THE CONCLUSION OF THE MEETING, READ THE LIST OF WHO WILL BE BID AND/OR WHO IS INVITED BACK SO THE CHAPTER IS INFORMED. 23 RUSH EVALUATION The following questions are designed to help SAE and the rush committee, evaluate the effectiveness of our recruitment/rush program. Your answers will help determine the direction of future recruitment. 1. How did you hear about rush? friend letter pledge poster 2. had some knowledge practically What was your attitude toward fraternities before rush? very positive neutral negative 5. pre-rush note/phone call curiosity How much did you know about fraternities before you rushed? a great deal had little knowledge 4. phone call What prompted you to come through rush at our house? encouragement of brothers advertisement other: 3. active brothers advertisement generally positive unsure What impressed you? A. The most about our rush? _____________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________ B. The Least? ________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________ 6. Which member(s) impressed you the most and why? _____________________________ ________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________ 7. Who was most responsible for your joining the fraternity? _________________________ ________________________________________________________________________ 8. 9. What influenced you to join the fraternity? _____________________________________ If you rushed others houses, 24 A. B. 10. What impressed you about their rush? ___________________________________ What didn’t impress you ? ____________________________________________ How much significance did you place on the physical plant while rushing? A lot 11. Some Did you gain much knowledge of the pledge program during rush? Yes 12. No What would your reaction have been to these forms of pre-rush publicity? A. B. C. Poster Form letter Visitation from brother(s) D. Phone call from brother(s) E. Ad in school paper Note from someone you knew in the chapter 14. No Should we stress giving more information on pledging during rush? Yes 13. Little Good Good Good Neutral Neutral Neutral Poor Poor Poor Negative Negative Negative Good Neutral Poor Negative Good Good Neutral Neutral Poor Poor Negative Negative F. What points, advantages or opportunities should we have stressed more during rush? A. B. C. D. E. Pre-rush contacts Rush school Rush activities Rush weekend Other: 15. What would you have liked to hear more about during rush? 16. What would you have liked to hear less about during rush? COMMENTS: (LIST BELOW) __________________________________________________________________ 25 THE RUSH WORKSHOP The rush workshop is an ideal way to involve the entire chapter in identifying and solving problems, making plans, and implementing new ideas prior to the chapter’s major rush effort. The specific goals of a rush workshop should include one or more of the following: To teach chapter members effective rush skills To promote chapter organization and communication To address the strengths and weaknesses of the chapter’s rush program To discuss and clarify the chapter’s membership needs, its goals, and its overall rush strategy To communicate an outline or complete plan of action for the upcoming rush 26 RUSH WORKSHOP OUTLINE I. Purpose A. Main Purpose: Educate members on latest rush developments and techniques. B. Secondary Purpose: Gets everyone together before school starts and before rush. The workshop can act as a chapter rush pep rally and get everyone fired up for the long hard week of work! II. Agenda A. Rush Chairman discusses latest IFC rush rules and reinforces the more commonly broken ones. B. Rush Chairman relays plan of rush week. C. Information that guests will ask is reviewed. (Pledge fee, initiation fee, etc.) D. Pledge Educator presents his pledge program for ratification. All brothers should get a copy and review it to answer questions from guests. E. Breakout Sessions 1. Basic Rush Skills - new initiates and less experienced rushers. Led by Rush Chairman or an experienced brother, this session reviews some rush etiquette. a. Hand shake b. Name tag on right side c. No inside jokes or comments in front of guests - they tend to feel left out and alienated d. Ask open-ended not yes/no questions. e. Notepad & pen f. Mock bid session 2. “Closing the Deal” - more experienced rushers. This is an informal roundtable talk of very experienced rushers on how to close the deal. When do you do a “hard sell” and when not to. Learning how to read the guest. Most importantly - know when to pass the guest on to someone who can close the deal if you can’t. III. Location: We have held rush workshops across town in hotels, at conference centers and even at the beach. The key to attendance is to keep it relatively short (3 hours or so) include food and plan a fun activity for afterward. Our most successful one was held at a hotel on the beach. After using the hotel’s conference room from 10 - 2, everyone hit the pool and the beach. The busses returned us to the house around 7pm. 27 METHODS OF CONDUCTING THE RUSH WORKSHOP There are many different ways to conduct an effective rush workshop. It is essential, however, that someone be appointed to lead or facilitate the workshop. This person is responsible for setting the ground rules, making the transitions, and managing the length of the workshop. It is also very important to move the workshop to a location outside of the house. This will enable the brothers to avoid distractions and also help to formalize the workshop. Finally, the workshop should not be so long that members lose interest. Sixty to ninety minutes is a good guideline. Keynote Speech: Have an experienced and knowledgeable person (past rush chairman, alumnus, chapter advisor, province or national officer) give a speech about SAE and rush that will motivate the brothers and challenge them to conduct a successful rush. Rush Skills Seminar: Have an experienced and knowledgeable person facilitate a rush skills seminar. The facilitator should first address the chapter’s goals, as well as the chapter’s strengths and weaknesses. With the chapter’s goals, strengths, and weaknesses in mind, he then teaches the brothers effective rush skills and techniques. He may want to use visual aids, such as overheads, flip charts, videos, etc. Role Playing: This is a flexible group exercise for illustrating such skills as how to start a conversation, how to present a bid, and how to remember a rushee’s name. A facilitator picks brothers to play roles in front of the rest of the chapter. Utilize experienced brothers to define these roles and come up with situations which demonstrate proper techniques. When used properly, role playing provides brothers with an excellent opportunity to practice rushing. Triads: An informal role playing activity where brothers break up into groups of three and go somewhere quiet to work. One brother plays a rushee, another plays a rusher, and a third acts as an observer to record good and bad rush techniques. Each man takes his turn at a different role, and any number of situations can be covered. Group Discussion: The entire chapter meets for an open forum discussion of the rush process. This is an excellent opportunity for the chapter to set goals, identify problems, and solicit ideas, as well as to get input from each brother. 28 WORKSHOP OPERATIONS: PROBLEMS AND PRACTICE The following are questions designed for use in the construction of the workshop. These questions may provide the actual material for workshop exercises or serve as examples from which the workshop leader can devise his own framework. What is the best way to start a conversation with a rushee? What are the topics to discuss with a rushee that will most likely stimulate a good conversation? What topics should be avoided? What are the aspects of fraternity life that you should emphasize to a rushee? How does membership in SAE prepare an individual for the future? How can SAE help individuals achieve scholastic success? Why did I pledge this chapter? (Have all the brothers identify and explain the reasons for their choice.) Are we emphasizing certain qualities in our potential brothers more than other qualities? If so, how is this impacting the chapter? What are the financial, time and personal obligations required for membership in SAE? What do you know about the other fraternities on campus, eliminating any negative impressions or feeling? What can I do to remember a guy’s name and other useful facts about him? What do you do if a conversation with a rushee is stalling, or if you don’t have much in common with him? What can be done to make rush a more natural and friendly process? 29 FINDING ANSWERS: THE DO’S AND DON’TS OF A SUCCESSFUL RUSH DO Do introduce yourself to each rushee with a firm handshake. He is in an unfamiliar environment, and it is each brother’s responsibility to make him feel comfortable. Do be confident in yourself Do make a concerted effort to remember each rushee’s name. Use his name often in conversation (for example, “Hello Brian, it’s nice to meet you.”) Repeated use of the rushee’s name makes him feel comfortable and at ease, and will also help you to remember his name when it’s time to introduce him to another brother. Role playing activities are great opportunities to practice remembering names and making introduction. Do offer to get the rushee a refreshment. People feel more comfortable when they have a soda pop in their hands. Do be enthusiastic at all times. In the words of Ralph Waldo Emerson, “nothing great was ver achieved without enthusiasm.” Do introduce rushees to other brothers as well as other rushees. You may want to introduce the rushee with a lead-in to facilitate the transition. For example, “This is Brian, Brian is a scratch golfer, and he plays the accordion.” Do organize smaller, informal events during the early stages of rush. For example, organize brothers and rushees into groups of five or less and plan activities for each small group, such as eating together, attending movies, or playing a sport. Larger rush events will be more comfortable for both brothers and prospective members when friendships have been made first during smaller, informal activities. Do probe for more information. Reinforce his response by talking about it and asking questions such as “How so?” ore “What does that involve?” rather than questions that will only solicit yes-no responses. Do provide the rushee with transportation to and from rush events whenever possible. 30 DO NOT Do not release the handshake until you are sure of the rushee’s name. Do not talk excessively about yourself. Listen to the rushee and talk about what interests him. Do not talk about sterile subjects (hometowns, majors, etc.) Listen to what the rushee has to say, and then discuss his interests. Do not leave a rushee by himself for any reason. There is nothing more uncomfortable than being alone among strangers. Do not criticize any other fraternity or individual. It is much more impressive to say good things about your fellow Greeks. Besides, the number one chapter has no reason to criticize others. Only the inferior chapters will feel the need to criticize. Do not use foul language around a rushee. It accomplishes nothing and is likely to offend someone. Do not be rude to anyone. Even if a rushee is not likely to receive a bid, treat him with equal regard. Arrogance and impoliteness will only alienate other prospects. Do not rush to the refreshment line ahead of your guests. A gracious host is a good host. Do not convince a man to pledge if he can’t afford it. This is the surest way to create a financial burden for the chapter. Do not stay with a rushee if you begin to discover that you have nothing in common. Introduce him to another brother if the conversation is stalling. Do not congregate in large groups with other brothers during rush functions. Concentrate on the rushees. There will be amble time to talk after the event. 31 BUILDING FRIENDSHIP FIRST: CONVERSATION WITH THE RUSHEE Fraternity men who are inexperienced with rush often have trouble opening and sustaining a good conversation. The most important thing to remember is to avoid asking questions that will elicit a simple yes/no response. Once the conversation is rolling, simply probe for more information by asking questions such as “Why?” and “How so?” Following are a few questions that will promote a good conversation and get the rushee talking about himself. How is the rush going so far? How are your classes going? How was your summer/semester? Why are you interested in joining a fraternity? How do you like the campus so far? Where are you living? How do you like your dorm/apartment? Have you decided what you would like to study? Why? How do you plan to stay busy outside the classroom? What activities do you enjoy? Do you have any brothers/sisters at the university? 32 CLOSURE OF THE RUSH WORKSHOP At the end of the workshop, it is essential for the leader or facilitator to review and reiterate the information that has been disseminated. Consider passing out the following reading materials and handouts, some of which are contained in this manual, so that the brothers can reference them at a later date. Names, addresses, and phone numbers of prospects Rush brochures Some general “do’s and don’ts” for rushing (included in manual) Hand-outs on chapter operations, dues, initiation and pledge fees, etc. Statistical sheet on SAE International Fraternity (SAE Facts included in manual) “Greek Membership” (included in manual) “Join a Fraternity. . . . . . . . .Why?” (included in manual) 33 PUTTING TOGETHER A RUSH BROCHURE COST The cost of a rush publication will vary considerably from chapter to chapter. Each chapter must ultimately decide how much money it will place into a publication. This will depend upon the chapter budget, the need of the local chapter and how vitally the material will aid rush. COST VARIABLES 1. Total Audience. Some chapters will need only a couple hundred copies while others may need five thousand. Remember, the major cost is in the plates made by the printer – not in additional copies. Don’t under-buy and fall short of the needed supply. 2. University restrictions and/or IFC regulation. Be sure to check closely all pertinent rules and regulations concerning rush publications to make certain that there is complete compliance. 3. Alumni. Many chapters feel that sending copies to the alumni will enhance relations and preclude editing another publication. EDITING AND LEAD TIME Carefully select the editor of the publications. Generally, your rush publications will sink or swim here. Don’t forget to have the Brother selected in plenty of time to coordinate the needed information and take the pictures. If the rush chairman is selected around January, it is a good idea to select the editor then also. The editor needs plenty of lead time in which to assemble his thoughts and all necessary data for the print. Some qualities needed in the editor. 1. 2. 3. Interested in rushing Dependable Some knowledge of journalism, if possible CONTENT A rush publication seeks to tell a story to a rushee in a friendly, interesting and warm manner. Never lose sight of the fact that the publication is to be oriented toward the rushee – not the chapter. Always keep the booklet pointed toward the rushees and their identification with SAE. The quicker you do this, the easier it will be to pledge them. 34 PUTTING TOGETHER A RUSH BROCHURE PAGE 2 Rush publications should speak in objective tones. NEVER ALLOW YOURSELF THE ERROR OF A HALF-TRUE STATEMENT. If you have doubts about something, leave it out. Never impose a remark that you will have difficulty substantiating. AREAS OF INTEREST Most of your pleasures will be the same as those of the rushees. Remember that you must capitalize on your good points. Try not to dwell on any one phase of fraternity life. The following is a list of some of the things that you might include. 1. Scholarship. Most men you are rushing come to school to study. Don’t feel that you can afford to leave this out. Speak in terms of the chapter aiding the effort of the individual. A small chart or picture may be good here. If you won the Scholarship Cup, mention this. It is important in this area then, perhaps a word about scholarship in general is sufficient. If you have a scholarship program in your chapter, let it be known. 2. Athletics. Most men will enjoy reading a few words concerning intramural in athletics. Identify the potential SAE with your intramural program. Pictures of some outstanding athletes may be used, but avoid making this the central point. Be careful not to overdo this section. 3. Social Activities. Lively and interesting pictures, and perhaps a narrative on social life in the chapter may be used here. A special word of caution – avoid pictures in this section that have no obvious connection with the rushee. Don’t fill 4 to 6 pages with pictures of your brothers and their dates at the latest party. These things may bring back pleasant memories to you, but the rushee has no knowledge nor connection here. Remember that not all rushees are social butterflies, so use taste in this section rather than offend the man who is a little hesitant or perhaps somewhat shy. 4. Leadership. 5. Philanthropy. 6. Friendship. 35 NON-ALCOHOL RUSH COMMENTS AND IDEAS TO: Undergraduate Chapter/Colony President FROM: William A. Martin III, Director of Programs SUBJECT: Non-Alcohol Rush Many of you have written or called the headquarters recently saying that your fraternity system has changed or soon will be changing to a non-alcohol rush program. You are naturally concerned about making such a drastic change, however, you should realize that there is no special set of rush techniques which should be used in a non-alcohol rush as opposed to any other setting. If your fraternity system or chapter's rush has depended on alcohol for its success in the past, then that system is the aberration, not the non-alcohol system. The whole point of these comments is that, in eliminating alcohol from rush, you must simply go back to the basics of rush which have always worked in recruiting the best men. Following are some of the concerns, which you might have in making the adjustment to the new rush system, as well as some suggestions for addressing these concerns and potential problems. I. "The rushees will not show up for parties if there is no alcohol.” Remember that the great majority of men going through rush this year have never been through rush before, so most will think that the way rush is done this year is the way it has always been. You can start over with a clean slate. Besides, hospitality and interpersonal skills, not the number of kegs of beer you have, have always made the best impression on the best people. Here are some ideas for getting the rushees out for rush in general or to your chapter in particular: a. 36 Work within your fraternity system to create a strong presence for the system on your campus. If you promote the fraternity system as a whole through IFC projects and activities, rush publicity, and the wearing of badges and Greek-letter apparel, you will create the idea in the new student that rush is "the thing to do." b. Contact rush prospects this summer. These prospects will include any recommendations you have received or will receive from graduate brothers, hometown friends and acquaintances of the brothers, and any recommendations you might be able to obtain from high school counselors, principals, and teachers. c. When you return to the campus for the fall term, publicize your rush with posters on bulletin boards and any other media which might be available. This is another way to communicate the idea that fraternities and fraternity rush are important activities. d. If the freshmen at your college or university are housed in particular dorms and are therefore easily identified when they first come to the campus for the fall term, have brothers go to those dorms to meet freshmen as they arrive and help them move into their dorm rooms. The approach should be long on friendliness and short on fraternity talk at this early stage, since you are simply trying to make a friend and create a good impression. 2. "Many of the brothers will not show up if there is no alcohol." You may have a few brothers who have only participated in rush in the past because of the parties. You may also have other brothers who will find the transition to a non-alcohol rush difficult because they have always relied on your parties to do the rushing for them. You should spend most of your time working with this latter group. To motivate these brothers to rush, you must first prepare them to rush and give them confidence in themselves and your overall program. Confidence in the rush program begins with an organized chairman who has developed a plan and a calendar for everything that needs to be done and who has let each brother know where he fits into that plan. The brothers can be prepared individually, and therefore motivated, to rush through a rush clinic. If the success of your rush in the past has depended on partying and the use of alcohol, most of your brothers probably have not developed their rushing skills and the resulting confidence in their ability to sell Phi Gamma Delta. Following is a list of topics which should be covered in a rush clinic. This is not all inclusive, but primarily lists those things which are important to make the brothers better rushers. a. Enthusiasm, shaking hands, remembering names, friendliness b. Casual conversation and putting the rushee at ease -- how do you ask open-ended questions? How do you make the rushee feel that he is important and that you are interested in him? c. What are your strengths and selling points, and how do you sell them? d. What are your negative points, and how do you overcome them? e. The bidding process 37 f. Role playing - have the brothers practice introductions, using names, asking questions, explaining chapter and fraternity history, explaining chapter programs and strengths, extending a bid, and handling objections from a man who has been asked to pledge. Again, the above outline for a rush clinic concentrates primarily on the development of interpersonal skills. By practicing these, you will get back to the basics of rush, those skills which might have eroded over the years because of a dependence on alcohol or the parties themselves to do your rushing. 3. "What will we do at the parties?" First of all, you do not necessarily want to create a "party" atmosphere for each of your rush functions. There is no ingredient which can be “plugged in" to create the same atmosphere or provide the same benefits as the alcohol which has been removed. Non-alcohol rush calls for a new approach. Both the rushees and brothers will feel most comfortable in a casual atmosphere, such as an athletic activity, a cookout, a movie, or perhaps a chapter social service project. There are many ideas for theme parties, or fun and games functions, but these are merely decorations and entertainment, and they should not be overemphasized to the detriment of the actual rushing which must be done. If the organization of your rush allows, an invitation-only dinner and graduate night is a very nice way to wrap up your rush period and make a great impression on your top prospects and new pledges. As I mentioned at the beginning of this bulletin, non-alcohol rush should not be considered some strange new phenomenon of the fraternity system. It is rush the way it was originally meant to be, with an emphasis on the qualities, interests, and needs of the individual rushee. You can make a highly successful transition through planning by the rush committee, preparation of the brothers in a rush clinic, and pride in Phi Gamma Delta. 38 RUSH ACTIVITIES Remember According to the Risk Management Policies of SAE, “All rush activities associated with any chapter of Sigma Alpha Epsilon will be DRY, that is without the use of alcoholic beverages. Athletic Events Events such as informal games or competitions are sure winners. Try: football, volleyball, basketball, soccer, ice hockey, golf, ice skating, bowling, ping pong, pool, softball, darts, sailing, water/snow skiing. Outdoor/Adventure Ideas Get the rushees out and interacting one-on-one with the brothers. Try: river rafting, canoeing, rock climbing, camping, hiking, horseback riding. Social Evenings Invite females, include food and attempt to make these events a casual experience. Try: hayrides, movies, fish fry or steak dinner, Cajun night, study sessions, sorority receptions, athletic events, pool parties, food festivals. Seasonal Events These, of course, correspond with upcoming holidays or events. Try: Christmas parties, July 4th Bar-B-Que., pumpkin carving, turkey dinners, Super Bowl parties. Alumni Functions These should be centered around successful and involved alumni who have had a good experience in SAE. Encourage the alumni to spend time with the rushees talking about rush, the campus and their futures. Activities could include: barbecues, Day at the Races, golf outings. 39 RUSH IDEAS The following are random thoughts and ideas which have proven quite successful to various SAE chapters. Perhaps some of them will work well in the Rush chairman’s plan for the new program. The idea here is find activities that fit your rush system, your campus, and your chapter’s style. Dorm Storming: Members of the house are stationed at campus dormitories the day they open to help new students move in. Many friendships are formed, and the chapter can invite prospects to rush functions. Also, the chapter is available to meet parents who may have objections or questions about fraternity membership. Many men who may not have planned to go through rush may be encouraged to do so. This activity is also terrific campus and public relations. Verbal Bid: Many chapters extend a verbal bid to certain prospects they feel sure will pledge. This proceeds the written bid which usually goes out later with all other fraternity bids at one time. This technique is particularly effective for the men who decide early in rush that SAE is for them; they can then help the chapter select and rush its pledge class. This also keeps that “sure-fire” pledge interested, making sure he doesn’t feel ignored as members concentrate on other potential members. One-on-One: Despite the most elaborate or expensive rush program, the man who decides to pledge a fraternity will do so on the basis of friendship. He will pledge where he feels most comfortable with the members. Keep this philosophy in mind. Members can be assigned to rushees for picking them up for functions, inviting them to events and introducing them around the chapter. Summer Contact: If possible, obtain a list of next year’s freshman and send them a letter welcoming them to your college or university. Briefly give them your rush schedule and reasons they should think about becoming a member of the Greek System. You may also want to give a contact number and address. Let them know you’ll be dorm storming and you will have someone ready to help them upon their arrival. Rush Scholarship: The Minnesota Alpha Chapter of Sigma Alpha Epsilon sponsors two $500.00 scholarships for male high school students entering the University of Minnesota every fall. The purpose of the scholarship is to recognize outstanding students who excel in academics and extracurricular activities. The program brings many well-rounded individuals to the chapter house to interview for the scholarship. Following the interviews, the applicants are invited to a social event with the brothers. POKER PARTY Break out the cards and set up different games. Use peanuts instead of money as barter. Offer prizes to those with the most peanuts at the end of the night 40 COFFEE SHOP WITH ENTERTAINMENT Serve coffee, tea, and "mocktails" with hors d'oeuvres. Have a folk or jazz band or a speaker from campus. Set tables up around your main room to look like a coffee shop. SNOW OR SAND SCULPTURE PARTY Have a contest to see who can make the most creative sculpture. Depending on the locale, you can serve either hot chocolate or coffee with doughnuts or hot dogs, chips and pop. PUMPKIN CARVING Set up teams of brothers and prospects -- provide pumpkins, set your watches and have a timed contest to see who has the best, worst, and wildest pumpkins. HAWAIIAN LUAU Decorate the house in a tropical motif. Have little sisters pass out leis. Roast a pig -- serve pineapple and coconuts. Have a non-alcoholic punch. CANOE EXPEDITION If there's a river nearby -- this can be an excellent day event for a group of brothers and prospects. Pack bag lunches to take with you. GOLF OUTING Make arrangements with a local golf course for group rates. Invite prospects and local alumni and hit the links! This can be fun for everyone -even those that aren't expert golfers. All you need for this is a backyard arena section with plenty of mud. participants and a referee, who isn't afraid of getting dirty. Find some willing EXCHANGE SUPPERS Invite a sorority over for dinner along with your prospects or split up the group and send half t a sorority house and have the other half at your house. TRIVIAL PURSUIT PARTY This can be a fun small group event. All you need are a few Trivial Pursuit boards and a group of prospects -- get set to test your knowledge! AROUND THE WORLD Instead of a different drink in every room -- set up different fondue pots. Have each room serve soft drinks and hors d'oeuvres, and decorate to represent a country. BOX LUNCH AUCTION Arrange with a sorority or little sisters for women to provide picnic or box lunches for two. Prospects and brothers bid on boxes not knowing who made them. Buyers then share their lunch with the girl who made it. An interesting way to help prospects make friends on campus and have a great picnic. Proceeds can go to charity. 41 BALLOONS N' TUNES Decorate with an overabundance of helium balloons and dance the night away. GO GREEK PARTY Decorate room with Romanesque pillars made from cardboard and construction paper - Everyone dresses in togas and enjoys grape juice punch and spritzers. CRAZY BALL Sponsor a joint softball game with a sorority. Prior to the game, the women establish crazy rules; making the men run backwards, hit the ball with one hand, etc. Top off the afternoon with a cookout. CHICKEN FRY Excellent event for not only prospects but also alumni, parents and faculty. An outside affair to include fried chicken in large cast-iron skillets and bluegrass band. PREMIERE Brothers use portable recorder or home movie camera to create a fraternal film complete with plot, characters, and director. After film is complete, a gala premiere is held with autograph signing by "stars," spotlights, and film showing. Has proven to be a classic event not soon forgotten. SOLICITOR'S BALL Theme party in which guests dress as men and ladies of the evening. Costumes can be outrageous or discreet. Serve non-alcoholic punch, hors d'oeuvres, and dance to the music of a "funky" band. STUDY BUDDY Provide prospects with study kits that include snacks, fruit, aspirin, study supplies. Deliver kits to the prospects' rooms with note wishing them best of luck with tests and inviting them to a study break one night. NIGHT OF THE GYPSIES An evening of fortune telling, complete with palmists, tarot-card readings, and Gypsies with crystal ball. Obviously, fraternity membership could be in everyone's future! ROUND-ROBINS A weekend round-robin tournament for any athletic activity can be held for all fraternities and invited dormitories. All contestants must receive an invitation to participate and chapter provides rules, umpires, and trophies. Make arrangements for ample publicity. MEXICAN SOUTH OF THE BORDER PARTY Serve tacos and other Mexican food. Break out the cowboy hats and boots f or this popular theme party. TRADITION NIGHT 42 Show the prospects a part of your heritage, tradition and pride. Set up tables of chapter memorabilia, pictures, scrapbooks, trophies, etc. Invite alumni over and sing fraternity songs. Either dress formal or have the whole chapter wear letter shirts. CAR SHOW Check with a local dealership to see if you can have a sports car display at your house. Park the cars in your parking lot or driveway. Have in conjunction with a cookout. NEW YEAR'S EVE PARTY This can be held any time of the year! Serve food and non-alcoholic champagne (Meyer's Brand). Put up paper on the walls and have guests write their resolutions. Hand out noisemakers, etc. MOVIES/BETAMAX EVENTS Video player and cartridges, most towns now have rental stores. Show a film after dinner one evening. Serve soft drinks and munches. GUEST SPEAKERS The possibilities are limitless here. Invite an outstanding alumnus, member of the faculty or administration, sports coach, political etc. to speak after dinner or during an evening reception. Try to find an upbeat topic that will hold the prospects' interest. Coffee, soft drinks, and light snacks can be served. DESERT NIGHT Set up a dessert table with cookies, cakes, pies, and ice cream. Serve coffee, tea and punch. Invite over a sorority, female dorm or little sisters. BUILD YOUR OWN SUNDAES Buy plenty of ice cream and let prospects choose their own toppings such as nuts, fudge, butterscotch, caramel, strawberries, etc. HYPNOTIST OR MAGICIAN SHOW Either of these types of performances make for an enjoyable evening. Serve soft drinks and munches. MUDWRESTLING TOURNEY All you need for this is a backyard arena section with plenty of mud. Find some willing participants and a referee, who isn’t afraid of getting dirty. MONDAY NIGHT FOOTBALL A favorite for the fall, all you need is a large TV, snacks and soft drinks. You might even set up a friendly football pool with prizes. GO AS GROUP TO SCHOOL ATHLETIC EVENTS Invite prospects over for dinner, then go as a group to a school athletic event. Have a section blocked off for the group if possible and show your school spirit. 43 ROLLER OR ICE SKATING WITH SORORITY OR LITTLE SISTERS Set up a hayride. Invite a sorority and take your prospects for a ride out to a field where a bonfire has been setup, a perfect fall event! SWIMMING POOL PARTY This can be held at a brother's or an alumnus' home or at a school community pool. Food and beverages can be served. GOURMET POPCORN PARTY Offer a variety of popcorn styles: cheddar, regular, caramel, parmesan, etc. HIKING This can be done with small groups. If you're near a state park or wooded areas, you're in luck! This sort of activity can be done at any time of the year. RENT A BUS FOR AWAY GAMES Reserve a bus and take our prospects to an away basketball or football game. BRUNCHES For a change of pace, have an early weekend brunch. It's a great way to start a day with the prospects. DJ PARTIES Hire a DJ and set up a good stereo system; invite a sorority and have a party. Serve soft drinks and snacks. GRAFFITI PARTY Cover the walls with paper and provide either magic markers or tempera paint and let guests write their favorite graffiti. Set up music and serve snacks and soft drinks. AIR BAND COMPETITION You can open this up to the entire campus in conjunction with your rush party. All your need is a stage, a sound system and a group of judges. FILM FESTIVAL Show Three Stooges, Bugs Bunny, Monty Python or other college favorites. Serve popcorn, pretzels and soft drinks. STEAK AND SHAKE PARTY Grill some steaks with corn on the cob and bread. Invite over some women and after dinner, crank up the music and hit the dance floor! PJ PARTY This can be held with a sorority or little sisters. Have everyone wear pajamas and offer prizes for the wildest, sexiest, and worst night wear. Music and dancing will round out this evening. 44 COLLEGIATE FEUD This is based on the TV show “Family Feud”. Split up the brother and prospects into teams and have your emcee ask questions relating to college life. Beforehand, poll dorms or sororities to find out what the answers will be. CAJUN NIGHT Serve catfish, shrimp and crayfish. Have a Dixieland band as entertainment. "LET ME ENTERTAIN YOU" Have sororities, dorms and brothers from your chapter perform skits and provide talent. Let the prospects be the judges. Serve hors d'oeuvres and soft drinks. CHARADES Break up into teams and play charades. Serve snacks and soft drinks. FIRESIDE CHAT WITH THE UNIVERSITY PRESIDENT Invite the president of the college/university; serve coffee, tea, or hot chocolate and hors d'oeuvres. This is a great opportunity to meet the president, hear what he has to say and ask questions. STUDY TABLES/SESSIONS Have a speaker talk about study skills and time management, or set up quiet study tables for brother and prospects Offer tutoring in certain freshman level classes. Show the prospect the academic side of fraternity life. ULTIMATE FRISBEE OR ULTIMATE CAPTURE THE FLAG Come up with your own rules to these classic games. Split brothers and prospects up into teams. After this is over return to the house for a cookout. SORORITY RECEPTION Make this a dress up affair. Invite 2 to 3 representatives from each sorority over for a reception with the chapter and prospects. Serve hor’dorves and non-alcoholic beverages. GRAND PRIX RACE Set up a course and have a Grand Prix race using tricycles or scooters. Follow this with a barbecue or cookout. GOOFY GAMES You could combine the above with a whole series of games such as a sack race, pyramid building, egg toss, etc. CARNIVAL Set up a carnival in an open field and let brothers and prospects try their-' luck in a variety of carnival events such as ring toss, basketball shoot, kissing booths, etc. 45 GREEK FOR A DAY Let prospects see what it's like firsthand to be a Greek. Have them spend a day and night in the house as your guests. ROAD RALLY A classic test of driving skills based not on speed but accuracy. Pre-design and drive a course using the speed limit to determine ideal time. Develop written direction clues and match up prospects with members to form teams. Follow the event with a cookout. MORTICIAN'S BALL All guests wear black. Decorate with dead flowers, coffins, dry ice and any other items or ghoulish inspiration. Serve appropriate "mocktails" and snacks, a unique theme that may prove deadly. FOOD FESTIVALS Chapter-sponsored booths offering samples of various ethnic foods such as egg rolls, tacos, pizza bread, Greek salad, etc. Local restaurants should be solicited for their involvement and the event could even be campus-wide. SPORTS ACTIVITIES Offer any of the following events and activities that can be done with large or small groups of prospects. Soccer Basketball Football Ice Skating Horseback Riding Pole Darts Sailing Volleyball Tennis Golf Back Packing Swimming Ping Pong Fishing Water Slides Miniature Golf Ice Hockey Skiing Broomball Bowling Water Polo Bicycling Fly Kites Roller Skating SOCIAL ACTIVITIES WITHOUT ALCOHOL 46 International Theme Night Campus Lecture Potluck Dinner Camping/Backpacking Wake-up Breakfasts Volleyball Sightseeing Tours Dance Contest Trivial Pursuit Game Chess/Backgammon/Poker Games Ice Cream Social Freethrow Shootout Turtle Races Western Mixer Skit Night Chili-making Contest Gag Gift Exchange Lunch with Under Privileged Kids Easter Egg Hunt Pool Tournament Limbo Contest Hayride/Square Dance Christmas Caroling Charades Night Mocktail Party Putt Putt Golf Casino Party Break a Guiness World Record Splash PartyRoller Derby Dating Game -Battle of the Sexes Almost Everything Goes Pyramid Building Contest Haunted House Tricycle Race Cart Races Greek Sing Competition Polaroid Party Work Party Parent/Alumni Open House Carnival/Fair Comedy Night Beach Party Taking Elderly Out On the Town Fundraising Competition Library Session Water Skiing Surfing Card Games Movie Study Sessions Go to Plays Go to Parks Frisbee Throwing Backpacking Camping Sightseeing Tourist Attractions Chess Backgammon Poker Visit Other Chapters Twister Lunch w/Under privileged Kids Rafting Softball P.U.S.H. Project Sing w/Sorority Tennis Tournament Cookout Car wash Foosball Tournament Roller Skating Ice Skating Mud wrestling Card Games Slumber Party Scavenger-Hunt Video Night Water-Slides Best Legs Contest Visit P.U.S.H. Unit Professional Sports Events Retreats Guest Speakers Putt-Putt Golf House Decorating Polyester Party Jungle Party IFC Dinner Faculty Dinner/Tea Sorority Pres. Dinner/Tea Bonfire else 'f Fraternity Pres. Dinner/Tea 47 WHY JOIN A FRATERNITY? If you stumble answering this question or wish to expand your repertoire of responses, check the following: Greek Life is truly a unique opportunity. You will make lifelong friends. You will have a great time. You will make many contributions to the campus. You will raise money for charity. You will experience community service learning. You will learn to think for yourself. But no matter how important these things are, the greater benefit of Greek Life is learning. The Greek life experience, if done right, provides learning opportunities that you can’t get anywhere else. For example, if you live in one of our residence halls, if you don’t get along with your roommate, the university will move you. You never have to learn to deal with conflict. But in the Greek system, if you don’t get along with a brother or a sister, you may change rooms, but you still have to learn how to work with them in chapter meetings or on a chapter project. Just like you will have to do in the big “RW” - The Real World. There is no place else on campus that we turn a structure worth hundred of thousands of dollars over to a group of undergraduates, and say, “Here, manage it. Make decisions about what needs to be done. Fix things that go wrong. Set priorities within your budget. Understand risk management. Think about short term vs. Long term needs.” Skills that you will need to know someday if you own your own home. Fraternity and Sorority are the only organizations on campus where 18 - 20 year olds get to budget and be accountable for literally 10’s of thousands of dollars. Each chapter has a treasurer that must learn how to budget, collect money, pay bills, balance the checkbook, and learn how to say no to a brother or sister who wants money for an unapproved project. And the chapter itself must set priorities and direction. You will value these skills in both your private and professional lives in the years to come. On a weekly basis you will learn about motivation and taking responsibility and being held accountable if you fail to do your part. Each fraternity and sorority has dozens of committees that require organization, planning and an opportunity for both success and failure. These are lifelong skills that are developed best in our Greek system. Fraternities and Sororities are the only organizations on campus whose purpose is to promote values and ethics. They have rituals that demand your commitment to the highest purpose, and the nobility. SAE teaches you how to be a True Gentleman. These are an integral part of our existence. 48 Greek life gives multiple opportunities to learn how to plan an activity, organize it, motivate others to get involved, and follow it through to completion. This experience can pay many dividends in your business and community life. Week in, and week out, you will have the opportunity to stand up in a Greek chapter meeting, learn how to organize your thoughts in a clear and cogent manner, present those thoughts and then practice developing the art of persuasion. You will learn how to think on your feet. You will have the opportunity to deal with conflict and difference of opinion. You will have the chance to run for office and maybe win and maybe lose. Virtually no other campus organization gives you such an extensive opportunity to develop fundamental leadership skills. Fraternity also offers students the chance to have a family, a group of brothers who provide a degree of stability at a very difficult point in their lives. Few if any other aspect of the collegiate experience can do this. Perhaps the greatest single skill to be learned is the art of fraternity recruitment - Learning how to sell yourself and sell your product. No matter where you go or what you do, knowing how to sell yourself will pay enormous dividends. Clearly, if you are in business you need to know how to sell. But if you’re a doctor, you need a good bedside manner. An architect must be able to communicate a concept or a design. No matter what your job is, you will want to learn how to walk into your boss and sell him or her on an idea. Learning how to sell yourself for a job or a promotion is an invaluable tool for success. On the college campus, fraternities and sororities are one of the few places where you can practice this skill on an on-going basis. Let’s look at the big picture - RECRUITMENT. Recruiting is more than just knowing how to meet the men, making them your friends, and then integrating them into SAE. We have to look at what we tell them we are all about and then be careful to actually deliver what we promise. We have a terrific product call fraternity. It is something for which many of us have dedicated our lives. But fraternity is an entire package of fun, leadership, responsibility, lifelong commitment, brotherhood, and learning opportunities. If we only tell prospective members about the fun and brotherhood, forgetting the leadership and responsibility, we will get men to join who only want to have a great time. We are unique. We offer something not available anywhere else on campus. You know, you don’t have to be in a fraternity to drink beer. You don’t have to be in a fraternity to party. You don’t have to be an SAE to have fun. You don’t have to join a fraternity to have a place to live. You don’t have to be a fraternity brother to get good looking women. You don’t even have to be in a fraternity to have lifelong friends. You do have to be in a fraternity to take advantage of all the unique growth and leadership opportunities. 49 You do have to be in a fraternity to learn the skills of organization, motivation, and the practice of selling yourself and selling your product. You do have to be in a fraternity to have a well-established formal link to your campus as an alumnus. You do have to be in a fraternity, to have people who care enough about you to help you to achieve personally professionally, and academically. You do have to be in a fraternity to be part of an old tradition that links you to over 250,000 other men across the country. And, you do have to be in a fraternity, to be part of an organization whose purpose is to promote positive values, ethics and standards. Note: These are excerpts from a presentation made at Leadership School 1993 by Dr. Drury G. Bagwell, Vice President Student Affairs, University of Maryland at College Park. We thank Dr. Bagwell for his compassion and dedication to the Greek System. Undergraduates and particularly freshmen, who associate fraternity with wine, women and song, may not relate to Dr. Bagwell’s thoughts. However, we still need to send the message, for to do otherwise suggests that our focus is totally social. 50 GREEK MEMBERSHIP What you should know about Greek Membership: Greeks excel in Scholarship. Greeks consistently achieve higher scholarship ratings than the all campus average. Greeks have a 10% higher rate of graduation than do non-Greeks Greek Membership is affordable. Room and board is comparable, sometimes even lower than college or university charges. (Change verbiage to fit your chapter/campus.) Greeks Achieve. 70% of those listed in “Who’s Who in America” are Greek. 85% of the upper-level executives in the “Fortune 500 Companies” are Greek. 43 CEOs of the top 50 U.S. companies are Greek. Greeks Lead. 75% of the members of the U.S. Congress are Greek. 85% of the U.S. Supreme Court Justices this century are/were Greek. 100 of 158 of those who have served on the President’s Cabinet this century are/were Greek. All but 3 of the U.S. Presidents since 1825 have been Greek. Greeks Give. As Alumni, Greeks give approximately 75% of all money donated to universities. As undergraduates, Greeks raise approximately $7 million per year for charities. As undergraduates, Greeks give approximately 850,000 volunteer hours per year. From the Baird’s Manual, 20th ed. and Statistics on Greeks, compiled by Kill Keim. 51 SAMPLE LETTERS (Letter sent to entering students, inviting them to visit the House Chapter.) (Date) ___________________________ ___________________________ ___________________________ ___________________________ Dear ______________, In the past month you graduated from high school, and now college is foremost in your mind. With college comes fraternity rush. We would like to introduce you to the Greek System at (College/ University Name). The men of Sigma Alpha Epsilon would like for you to get to know us this summer. When you come to our area for any reason, come by our house and see us. Pre-enrollment is currently being held and we will be glad to give you a hand with your schedule. Someone will always be here and if you can, plan to spend the night. By combining the academic and social life characteristics of the Greek, you will be happier as a student here at (College/ University Name). It is with goal in mind that we, the men of Sigma Alpha Epsilon Fraternity, look forward to getting to know you this year. Sincerely, ____________ Rush Chairman (MAP DRAWN HERE) 52 (Date) ___________________________ ___________________________ ___________________________ ___________________________ Dear Rushee, During the past few months you have had the opportunity to observe and perhaps participate in some portion of the Mount Union Greek System. Rush is fast approaching and for those of you who have been thinking of going Greek I thought you might like some idea of the related costs. The following are SAE 1993-94 fees for room, board and social membership. Social Fees/Semester Room/Semester Board/Semester Total SAE $ 200.00 $ 750.00 $ N/A $1575.00 *Initiation This one time fee includes membership pin, liability insurance, dues for your pledge semester plus other items associated with new membership = $ 250.00 College -0$ 825.00 $1025.00 $1695.00 Financial aid used to fund room and board expenses is fully transferable by the college to the fraternity. In addition SAE provides various scholarship and financial aid opportunities to its members. You might also like to know that SAE has raised its scholarship/membership requirements from a 2.0 to a 2.2 cumulative grade point average. This action became effective January 1st 1992 on a national level. Should you have any questions or like additional information please ask any SAE. Best Regards, ____________ Rush Chairman 53 (Date) ___________________________ ___________________________ ___________________________ ___________________________ Dear Incoming Student, On behalf of the brothers of Sigma Alpha Epsilon Fraternity at __________________, I would like to congratulate you on your acceptance and welcome you to ____________. The challenge of attending ___________ is sure to be both exciting as well as rewarding. As a freshman you are sure to have many expectations, anxieties, and concerns about what is to come in the months ahead. There are choices to be made regarding academics, social life, sports, and the like, that are all encountered the first year of college. One aspect of college many students choose to explore is Greek Life. Greek Life offers all kinds of exciting advantages, which add to the college experience. The fraternities at ____________ have much to offer. They provide an excellent opportunity for interaction with students, the college community, as well as a source of life long friendships. I encourage you to explore Greek Life when you arrive on campus. Talk to the different students and get a feel for what role fraternities play at ___________. We hope you find the Greek life for you. Good luck in the coming year! Hope to see you in the fall. Sincerely, _____________ President Sigma Alpha Epsilon 54 (Letter of acknowledgment of Alumni Recommendations) (Date) ___________________________ ___________________________ ___________________________ ___________________________ Dear Brother: As Rush Chairman of __________________ Chapter, I would like to express to you our gratitude for your continued interest in the Fraternity. Your recommendation(s) has been received and you can be rest assured that we will give (Name of Rushee) of (City, State) every consideration during our rush period. SAE needs more alumni like you who are willing to take the time to assist the active chapter in their rushing activities. With warmest fraternal greeting, I am Sincerely, ____________ Rush Chairman 55 (Date) ___________________________ ___________________________ ___________________________ ___________________________ Dear ___________, I would like to take this opportunity to introduce myself as the Sigma Alpha Epsilon Alumni Advisor at ___________ where your son has recently become a pledge. My purpose in communicating can be summarized as follows: * To inform you of the presence and role of an Alumni Advisor. (See enclosed "Responsibilities of Chapter Advisor") * To share with you some of the positive opportunities made available through membership in SAE (Seems the negatives always get the press). * To provide you with an opportunity to communicate should you have a question or just wish to comment. The Greek system on any College campus has the potential to provide skills and educational opportunities not found in the classroom. A balance of class room and nonclassroom skills can often be a significant asset in our daily pursuit of a successful career. The opportunity to run a $100,000.00 per year business, establishing budgets, collecting money, paying bills, motivating people, dealing with conflict, and gaining hands on experience with subjects like Risk Management are all educational assets. Properly mixed and blended with the number one goal of a classroom education and college degree, these experiences produce a most successful and potentially employable graduate. The mission of Sigma Alpha Epsilon is to promote the highest standards of friendship, scholarship and service for our members based upon the ideals set forth by our Founders and as specifically enunciated in "The True Gentleman". My personal goal as the __________ Alumni Advisor is to make that mission a reality. If in the process there is an understanding of that magic balance in education, social maturity, philanthropy, unity, and friendship then there is a reward for one and all. Page 1 of 2 56 (Date) Page 2 of 2 I have enclosed a number of items for your review and would make special mention of what seems like a never ending renovation project. It is an ambitious project and one that speaks clearly to commitment of the alumni who signed the $85,000 twenty year mortgage, to ΣΑΕ’s National Board of Trustees. These funds were provided to the Ohio Sigma Home Corporation who rents the chapter house to the active chapter. Rental income from the 30 - 34 member residents provides the funds to pay the $16,000.00/year rent to the Home Corporation in addition to all utilities, taxes, insurance and general upkeep. It is appropriate to note that nearly $100,000.00 per year passes through the hands of these undergraduate brothers! They collect the money, pay the bills, fill out and file the taxes and run a significant business all with minimal help from alumni. The balance of the renovation funds have and continue to come from a generous group of alumni who donate both time and funds. In conclusion and on behalf of the active chapter and all the Alumni, I would encourage you to visit the facility and would welcome any comments or suggestions. I look forward to working with your son and hope that efforts to fulfill my responsibilities as advisor will produce personal growth and positive results for one and all. My personal involvement takes me to the chapter on the average of twice a week. I attended _______ from 1958 - 1961, reside with my wife _____ in __________________and function as _____________________________. Best Regards, _____________ Alumni Advisor __________ Chapter Sigma Alpha Epsilon __________________ Enclosures: Responsibilities of Chapter Advisor True Gentleman SAE Facts Renovation 57 To the Parents Of: _________________ _________________ _________________ _________________ Dear Parents, I would like to take this opportunity to introduce myself as the Sigma Alpha Epsilon Alumni Advisor at Mount Union College. I’ve served in this role for the past 11 years, interfacing with the active chapter on an average of twice per week. Since the Greek community often receives bad press, it seemed appropriate to share some positive thoughts and assure you that “Animal House” is long gone. In fact, I think every member and/or parent would agree there is a positive productive environment at 1359 south Union, Alliance, Ohio. Speaking of productivity, I recently came across a course directory and was amazed at the number of courses available! Despite the increased offerings the courses of “practical application”, such as Leadership 101, are missing. It would seem colleges educate our youth on everything from anatomy to zoology but lately educate them on how to use that knowledge to influence, motivate and lead. The growing trend in business today is to ask young, often inexperienced employees to assume leadership roles making important business decisions. Fraternities and sororities can substantially improve those leadership skills and therefore the success of the individual. For example, week in and week out, the Greek system gives members a chance to stand up at a chapter meeting, learn how to organize their thoughts in a clear and cogent manner, and then develop the art of persuasion of a particular point of view. Members learn the skill of thinking on their feet. They have the opportunity to deal with conflict and difference of opinion. They have the chance to run for office and maybe win and maybe lose. Virtually no other campus organization provides the extensive breadth of opportunit5y to develop the skills that make successful leaders. There is no other place on campus where structures worth hundreds of thousands of dollars are turned over to a group of undergraduates, and say, “Here, manage it. Make decisions about what needs to be done. Fix things that go wrong. Set priorities within the budget. Understand risk management. Think about short term vs. long term need.” Skills that they will need to know when they are homeowners. Fraternities and Sororities are the only organizations on campus where 18 – 22 year olds get to budget and be accountable for literally tens of thousands of dollars. The Chapter treasurer and executive committee must learn how to manage a $50,000 budget, collect money, pay bills, balance the checkbook and learn how to say no to a brother who wants money for an unapproved project. Most will value these skills in both their private and professional lives in the years to come. Page 1 of 2 58 Page 2 of 2 On a weekly basis, brothers learn about motivation, taking responsibility and being held accountable if they fail to do their part. There are dozens of committees that require organization, planning and have opportunity for both success and failure. These are lifelong skills that are developed best in the Greek system. Fraternities and Sororities are also the only organizations on campus whose purpose is to promote values and ethics. We have rituals that demand a commitment to the highest of standards and principles. We teach character, higher purpose, nobility and how to be a “True Gentleman”. These are integral parts of our existence. Our mission is to promote the highest standards of scholarship, friendship and service to our members – to provide a healthy balance of non0classroom skills with the classroom education provided by the college. In conclusion and on behalf of the chapter and its 700 plus alumni, I would encourage you to encourage your son to consider joining a fraternity. It’s an incredible value and has the potential for creating lifelong opportunities. Best Regards and Happy Holidays, Lee A. Miller, Class of 1962, Mount Union College Alumni Advisor, Sigma Alpha Epsilon Resident of Chagrin Falls, Ohio President, Andrews Records Management Enclosures 59 60 61 (Date) ___________________________ ___________________________ ___________________________ ___________________________ Dear ___________, Merry Christmas and Happy New Year By the time you receive this note, you will undoubtedly have celebrated Christmas. In fact, you are probably now basking in the benefits of all those fabulous gifts, not to mention a few all nighters followed by hitting the deck just in time for a real dinner. In between all those necessary activities, I'd ask that you take time to squeeze in a couple of other tasks: 1. Look in the mirror and give yourself a positive thumbs up for a great alumni/community open house. Santa was great, the kids had a blast and the adults were astonished at the great condition of the house - including your rooms! You have no idea what a little corner cleaning, window and wall washing can do to say "We care and appreciate the alumni's effort to support us in improving the facility". If you participated in the fun and or the work, I say "Thank You". If you didn't have the opportunity to participate, please join me in thanking all those who did and particularly _____________ as the organizer. Great Job!! 2. Using the same mirror, I'd ask you to make a formal commitment to yourself and all your brothers to not only support ________ and __________ in their planned Rush functions, but to do some of your own serious well planned rushing. Use the enclosed "Why SAE" list sent to each freshman - add to it - change it - reword it - put in your own words, and then use your own initiative to effectively communicate it to as many prospective pledges as possible. The results of this Rush program will be the most important and significant SAE function of the entire year. Don't assume that our National image, or physical plant will cause a stampede to 1359 South Union. It's you and your brothers who make the great organization. Without you there is nothing! From my prospective, you've had a great semester - don't under estimate your abilities. The ball is in your court. The responsibility to academics are obviously first, however, I trust you will place the Rush program in a strong second position for the next few weeks - "You only get out what you put in". Happy New Year Yours in the Bonds, 62 Dear Prospective New Fraternity Member The members of congratulate you on having selected what we feel is an outstanding college. We hope your first couple of months have been a positive and productive experience. Just for the record formal fraternity “Rush” or New Member Recruitment begins Monday January 25th and ends Friday January 29th. During this week you will be invited to visit each fraternity as they present themselves to all interested prospective new members. Fraternities will present formal bids to the prospective new members they are interested in pledging by January 25th. Prospective new members will indicate their interest in joining by completing a preference card noting the fraternity of their choice. Since fraternity rush is “open “ there is no required date to return the card. However, it is generally expected that decisions are made and cards turned in by Saturday, February 6th, which is preference Night – a time when the sororities and fraternities will celebrate with their new members. Just for the record with the exception of your first semester freshman year you can pledge a fraternity at any time. However, from a practical stand point you would not want to miss the comradery, spirit and unity that comes from being a part of a new member (pledge) class. While we look forward to this formal rush period we can not imagine how in one week we could get to know each other well enough to make such a significant decision. Fraternity membership is for life and has the potential for making a significant contribution to your college and future career. So – we would like to get to know you now and hope you share that same interest. Our door is always open and you are always welcome! We will be sponsoring various events at the house and hope you will attend. Look for signs and poster on campus. If you stop to visit you’ll find a large board just inside the back door with every member’s picture, room number, hobbies and interests plus lots more. Check it out – who knows, you may find someone you know from home. The brothers tend to hang out in the poolroom, TV room or library. Please feel free to look around and or knock on a door. We have a great product called “fraternity” and at Mount is just that. There is an unusual diversity of personalities and backgrounds plus a healthy balance of scholarship, leadership, philanthropy, friendship and social experience. _______________ Chairman New Member Recruitment and All the Brothers of Ohio Sigma 63 Sigma Alpha Epsilon Thinking about fraternity as a part of your college experience? Here are just a few potential benefits to consider: BROTHERHOOD – Everyone makes friends during their college years but no friendships are as strong and valuable as the life long friendships you will make with your fraternity brothers. LEADERSHIP - As a fraternity brother you will acquire leadership skills and be an active manager in the running of a “House” – a $100,000.00/yr business. SOCIAL – Parties and other social activities area n important part of fraternity life. The parties are fun while the social skills acquired by living and working together will last a lifetime. ACADEMICS –The support, encouragement, and friendly competition among your fraternity brothers will help boost your academic performance in countless ways. COMMUNITY – As a member of a Mount Union fraternity you are also a member of the surrounding community; Fraternity offers various outreach programs which make a positive contribution to the community and provide satisfaction to those who participate. If these benefits appeal to you and you are ready to grow into an expanded college experience – consider joining 64 GREEK MEMBERSHIP What you should know about Greek Membership: Greeks excel in Scholarship. Greeks consistently achieve higher scholarship ratings than the all campus average. Greeks have a 10% higher rate of graduation than do non-Greeks Greeks Membership is affordable. Lower room costs plus saving from “pay as you go meals” from the college typically offset the cost of fraternity dues. Greeks Achieve 70% of those listed in “Who’s Who in America” are Greek. 85% of the upper-level executives in the “Fortune 500 Companies” are Greek. 43 CEO’s of the top 50 U.S. companies are Greek. Greeks Lead As Alumni, Greeks give approximately 75% of all money donated to universities. As undergraduates, Greeks raise approximately $7 million per year for charities. AS undergraduates, Greeks give approximately 850,000 volunteer hours per year. From the Baird’s Manual, 20th ed. And Statistics on Greeks, compile by Kill Keim. Go Greek 65 Why ? You are included as a member of a diverse group, which still retains the unity of a brotherhood. Fraternity chapters are self-sustaining. members set their own policy to be followed and elect their own leaders. Fraternities are an ideal place to learn and practice leadership skills. Our alumni are very involved in our chapter. Ongoing renovations have completely redone our house including a new TV room, recent addition of a pool room and full replacement of the electrical, plumbing and heating system. Since 1989 when these renovations began the alumni and active chapter have spent more than $175,000 improving the facility. Our list of remaining “To Do’s” will push this number over the $200,000 mark. is devoted to concerns outside of our fraternity house. We sponsor events for our surrounding community, and have an active philanthropy program, which has contributed more than $10,000 over the past years to Alliance United Way. We stress academic excellence in our pledge program, as well as within our brotherhood. We have consistently scored above the All-Men’s grade point average. is the largest fraternity in the country, supporting more than 210 chapters and over 250,000 members nationwide. For the last 60 plus years, our national office has sponsored a Leadership Conference to which each chapter sends delegates. Unity and support are provided on a national scale through consultants that visit each chapter once a year. Just for the record it’s not all social or “party” but a good balance of Leadership, Friendship, Academics, Social and Philanthropy. Stop in at 1359 South Union anytime. We would enjoy getting to know you and perhaps you would enjoy being a member for life in Sigma Alpha Epsilon. Rob Morgan Chairman New Member Recruitment and all the Brothers of 66 Did you know? Is-Has or Provides: Scholarship – More than $50,000 per year and growing every year is given to deserving undergraduates(more than any other fraternity). Student Loan Programs – More than 500 Juniors and Seniors with a G.P.A. of 3.0 or higher are participating in an under 6% - $50,000.00 per year Student Loan Program. With more than $80,000 per year in new loans the total current outstanding loan value exceeds $750,000.00 (more than any other fraternity). Leadership School – Started in 1935 and held in August of each year in Evanston, Illinois, it was the first of its kind and has more than 30,000 graduates. Ohio Sigma sends 3 or more brothers each year for this valuable four day experience. Ask Ken Brand, Eric Kollai, Dustin Richardson, Brian Wilfong, Sean Renock and John Simpson what a great experience they had this past summer. Ohio Sigma – Is the oldest active chapter north of the Mason-Dixon Line. The allied strength and resources of more than 700 living Ohio Sigma Alumni, provide support, financial strength and career opportunities for Brothers of yesterday, today, and tomorrow. Resident Educational Advisor Program – Sponsored by National, provides a $2,000.00 per year stipend plus free room and board for graduate students interested in coordinating and implementing a chapter academic and career development program. A $1,000.00 bonus is provided to each advisor who meets the pre-established academic goals. Go Greek 67 FACTS Sigma Alpha Epsilon --- is the number one national fraternity, as rated by the Gallup Poll. --- has been rated the number one national fraternity for more than 53 years (of 60) by the College Survey Bureau. --- was the first national fraternity to be established in the deep South, having been founded at the University of Alabama at Tuscaloosa on March 9, 1856. --- is the largest national fraternity, in terms of membership, with more than 250,000 men having been initiated, including approximately 13,000 current undergraduate brothers. --- has more than 210 chapters and 18 colonies at the best colleges and universities in North America, with an average chapter size of 78 actives and pledges. --- was the first fraternity to establish a national headquarters and the first to have its own building the Levere Memorial Temple in Evanston, Illinois - which is over 65 years old. The building is considered priceless - all the stained glass windows are the last work done by Tiffany. --- is the first fraternity to establish national Leadership School in 1935. The school has more than 30,000 graduates. --- has 29 alumni province archons who chair province conventions, regional leadership training schools, and chapter workshops. --- has a quarterly fraternity magazine, The Record, published continuously since 1880. --- has Educational & Leadership consultants who visit chapters to assist programming. --- was the first fraternity to establish a student loan program for undergraduate brothers, from which they may borrow up to $5,000 per anum at less than 6% simple interest, to assist securing their education. --- has a Resident Educational Advisor Program providing a $3,000 fellowship to graduate students who assist chapters with scholarship and career development programs. --- has 120 alumni associations throughout the world, the largest number of any national fraternity. --- has an awards program which recognizes outstanding achievements of alumni, undergraduates, and chapters. --- has a strong risk management program requiring all chapters to conduct dry rush, a strong policy against hazing, and pledge programs which enhance each individual’s personal growth. 68 with management and SAE Facts Page 2 of 2 --- has a strong alcohol education program and is constantly developing and updating programs for the responsible use of alcohol. --- has a centralized computer system providing the fraternity with automated financial and membership information, as well as assistance with chapter development and alumni programs. A United States Department of Education document states that joining a fraternity is one of the best buys in higher education costs. There is no obligation or cost involved in rush, and it is a wonderful opportunity to meet people and get a good insight into campus life. Dorms and apartments are a four-year experience. Fraternities are a lifetime of experience and reward. TRY GREEK LIFE - You will not regret it, and it will be one of the best investments you will ever make in your life! 69 THE NINE BASIC EXPECTATIONS OF FRATERNITY MEMBERSHIP In an effort to lessen the disparity between fraternity ideals and individual behavior and to personalize these ideals in the daily undergraduate experience, the following Basic Expectations of fraternity membership have been established. 1. I will know and understand the ideals expressed in my fraternity Ritual and will strive to incorporate them in my daily life. 2. I will strive for academic achievement and practice academic integrity. 3. I will respect the dignity of all persons; therefore, I will not physically, mentally, psychologically or sexually abuse or haze any human being. 4. I will protect the health and safety of all human beings. 5. I will respect my property and the property of others; therefore, I will neither abuse nor tolerate the abuse of property. 6. I will meet my financial obligations in a timely manner. 7. I will neither use nor support the use of illegal drugs; I will neither abuse nor support the abuse of alcohol. 8. I will acknowledge that a clean and attractive environment is essential to both physical and mental health; therefore, I will do all in my power to see that the chapter property is properly cleaned and maintained. 9. I will challenge all my fraternity members to abide by these fraternal expectations and will confront those who violate them. Ethics and Values Commission of the National Interfraternity Conference 70 71 (Another acknowledgment of alumni relations) ____________________________________ of Sigma Alpha Epsilon wishes to thank you for your interest in recommending ___________________________________ and assures you that he will be shown every courtesy and given every consideration. _______________________ Rush Chairman 72 (ENTER INDIVIDUAL CHAPTER'S LETTERHEAD) WANTED: More True Gentlemen for Sigma Alpha Epsilon RUSH RECOMMENDATION To: Rush Chairman at ______________________________________________________________ Chapter of __________________________ Student’s Name ____________________________ Student’s Address ___________________________________City/State/Zip ___________________ Parent/Guardian ____________________________________ Home Phone (_____) ____________ School Phone (____) ________________________________(if available) School Address ____________________________________City/State/Zip ___________________ Student’s Major Course of Study ______________________________________Class Year _____ Is student financially able to pledge? _________Yes _________No What date will he arrive at school? ___________/___________/_________ If student has any SAE relatives, please explain ________________________________________ If other fraternities are rushing him, which ones are they? _______________________________ What schools has he attended? ______________________________________________________ Comments: (Scholarship, leadership, athletics, extra-curricular activities, character, reputation, hobbies, work experiences, etc.): Recommended by: _________________________________________________________________ Chapter/Class Year ____________________________________________Phone ______________ Address __________________________________________________________________________ Please mail form ASAP to RUSH CHAIRMAN C/O SAE, 1359 UNION AVENUE, ALLIANCE, OH 44601 73 A PROFILE OF OHIO SIGMA MOUNT UNION COLLEGE Academics: Consistently above the all men's average (list all Greek results/ non Greek results and all college averages.) ALL MALE ALL UNAFFILIATED ALL GENERATES SAE GREEK MEN MEN COLLEGE Fall 1993 2.81 2.703 2.636 2.614 2.822 Spring 1994 Fall 1994 Spring 1995 2.834 2.715 2.669 2.646 2.841 Fall 1995 Spring 1996 Fall 1996 Spring 1997 Fall 1997 Spring 1998 Philanthropy: Leadership: Social: 74 2.79 2.785 2.713 2.703 2.598 2.703 2.565 2.691 2.8 2.703 2.94 N/A 2.82 2.76 N/A 2.74 N/A N/A N/A 2.90 Annual Easter Egg Hunt Annual Christmas Santa Program Contributed more that $10,000 in the past 8 years to United Way through Volley Ball Marathon Adopt a Highway -_______ miles of Route 619 Pegasus Farm Big Brother/Little Brother Alliance Schools Alimach Shelter contributions Food to the hungry Moved household goods for seniors Conduct a one day planning and goal setting retreat off campus with alumni facilitator each semester Leadership roles in campus programs and organizations (List from school records) Elect a full cadre of officers and committee chairs with responsibility for running a significant business, contrary to popular belief Alumni do not collect or disperse any of the $40,000 per year operating budget dollars. Three of more members per year have attended national leadership school in Evanston, Illinois where more than 600 gather for 4 days of corporate level leadership training. Establish the "Fireside Chat" program brining a mixture of educational, social, political, national and local topic to the table for informal discussion. Conduct social events within the confines of today's Risk Management requirements Develop the interpersonal skills necessary to coexist with fellow members who are not always you buddy Mount Union College Greek Life (Page 1 of 2) “United We Stand. . .Greeks Hand in Hand” The Greek Community at Mount Union College has a long, rich tradition of fostering student involvement and development. Since 1882, students have chosen to become members of fraternities and sororities at Mount Union because of the advantages these organizations provide. Greek-letter societies were founded on the ideals of leadership, scholarship, community service and friendship. The organizations continue to work towards these same ideals today. LEADERSHIP The Greek Community at Mount Union prides itself on the opportunities it offers students for leadership development. Within each chapter and within the Greek community as a whole, there are numerous opportunities for members to assume leadership positions. From chairing a committee to building the Homecoming Float, to coordinating the chapter’s recruitment efforts, to serving as president of the chapter – all of these experiences provide students invaluable opportunities to develop life skills. The Greek community encourages students to become involved as leaders in other student organizations as well and strives to develop individuals who will continue to be strong leaders throughout their lives. GREEK LEADERSHIP AT MOUNT Student Senate President Captain of the Football Team Student Activities Council President 25% of the Resident Assistant Staff 1996 Homecoming King and Queen Editor of the Unonian Editor of the Dynamo The all-Greek academic average (2.92) was higher than all-Camp academic average (2.88) The academic average of sorority women (3.12) was higher than the allwomen’s academic average (3.04). The academic average of fraternity men (2.73) was higher than the all-men’s academic average (2.69) SCHOLARSHIP Academic excellence is one of the ideals upon which Greek organizations were founded, and support the premise that academic responsibilities should unquestionably receive the highest priority throughout college. To this end, fraternities and sororities promote scholarship by providing opportunities for members to develop critical skills and engage in issueoriented discussions outside of the classroom. A variety of creative educational programs have been initiated by Greek students. Many chapters also have study rooms in their house and provide incentive programs to reward high academic performance. COMMUNITY SERVICE DID YOU KNOW THAT FOR SPRING SEMESTER 1996 Greek chapters demonstrate a strong commitment to community service (handson activities directly benefiting others) and philanthropic endeavors (raising money for 75 charitable organizations). Greek chapters at Mount Union donate thousands of dollars annually to various philanthropies and volunteer hundreds of hours of community service to the citizens of Alliance and Stark County. MOUNT UNION GREEKS SUPPORT Ronald McDonald House Choose Children Toys for Tots Easter Seals American Heart Association Peagesus Farms FRIENDSHIP When choosing a fraternity or sorority, students look for a comfortable “fit” – a place where they share values and interests with other members. The chapter serves as a place where friends become family and the friendships literally last a lifetime. Fraternities and sororities also give members the opportunity to network with alumni/ae and interact with mentors who have made a successful transition from college to the workforce. The Greek system provides a wide variety of events which help bring members of different chapters together, whether through educational workshops and lectures, social events, retreats or service projects. RUSH Rush is a term Greeks use to describe membership recruitment. Mount Union follows a deferred rush program which postpones joining until the second semester of the freshman year. This deferment allows new students to adjust to the academic challenges of college before choosing to affiliate with a Greek organization. To participate in rush, a student must have attained a college grade point average of 2.0 or better and be enrolled as a full-time student at Mount Union College. UPCOMING RUSH EVENTS November 6 Greek Open House Night November 21 “Go Greek” Mixer January 31-February Sorority Rush Week FRATERNITIES Alpha Tau Omega Phi Kappa Tau Sigma Alpha Epsilon Sigma Nu SORORITIES Alpha Delta Pi Alpha Xi Delta Alpha Chi Omega Delta Zeta Delta Sigma Tau For more information about Greek Life at Mount Union College, please contact: Lori Bowen, Director of Greek Affairs 1972 Clark Avenue Alliance, OH 44601 330—823-2886 76 GREEK ANALYSIS Mount Union College (change all references to your college/university) What are the strengths of the Mount Union's Greek community? What are the threats which impact Mount Union's Greek community? 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. What are the weaknesses of Mount Union's Greek community? What are the trends which seem to be impacting Mount Union's Greek community? 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. What are the opportunities which exist for improving Mount Union's Greek community? 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. What are some headlines you would like to see describing Mount Union's Greek community in the year 2000? 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 77 GREEK ANALYSIS - SAMPLE OF ACTUAL RESULTS Mount Union College What are the strengths of the Mount Union's Greek community? 1. Above average GPA's 2. Alumni who care 3. Nucleus of undergraduates who care 4. Potential to mature in leadership, community, scholarship, friendship, social 5. Opportunity to grow and understand oneself and values What are the weaknesses of Mount Union's Greek community? 1. Poor male rush 2. Lack of respect from professors 3. Lack of respect from community 4. Joint fraternity effort weak 5. Benefits of membership not visible What are the opportunities which exist for improving Mount Union's Greek community? 1. Increase alumni involvement 2. Develop an all Greek Team Spirit 3. Increase membership and learn to rush 4. Improve scholarship 5. Improve image/ community/ administrators/ professors/ parents/ society 78 What are the threats which impact Mount Union's Greek community? 1. loss of insurance will close chapters 2. Community relations 3. Poor college/fraternity relations 4. Loss of membership/chapters 5. Exaggerated party focus What are the trends which seem to be impacting Mount Union's Greek community? 1. Fraternity team spirit missing 2. Insurance going up 3. Fewer members giving as much as they take 4. All white 5. Loss of clear purpose What are some headlines you would like to see describing Mount Union's Greek community in the year 2000? 1. Greek organizations make a positive difference in community 2. 40 % of MUC goes Greek 3. Greek system at MUC goes dry 4. Greek scholarship program reaches into the Alliance school system 5. No couch fires in 2 years SIGMA ALPHA EPSILON RESPONSIBILITIES OF CHAPTER ADVISOR By accepting a position as a chapter advisor in Sigma Alpha Epsilon, an alumnus agrees to assist the undergraduate chapter in conducting its operations and in realizing its ideals and aspirations. 1.) The chapter advisor should strive continually to help the chapter become as self-sufficient as possible. Fraternity is an educational experience and undergraduates should be given the opportunity to do things for themselves. 2.) Executive Council: The advisor should attend its meetings at least once a month, and attend chapter meetings as often as possible. He should ensure that the financial report is scrutinized by executive council each month. 3.) The advisor should advise the chapter on: Ritual Scholarship Finances Discipline Rush Pledging Alumni & Campus Relations Chapter unity and loyalty 4.) House Corporation: Meets with the House Corporation on finance, insurance, care and condition of house. 5.) Assists in preparation of the annual budget. 6.) Checks to see that reporting to National and Province are carried out. 7.) Checks to see that initiation fees are being sent to the Eminent Supreme Recorder within ten (10) days of initiation. 8.) Makes sure that chapter members are aware of the programs and services of the National Fraternity and province organization. 9.) Makes sure chapter is represented at National and Province Conventions. 10.) Where a multi-advisory system exists, chapter advisor should ensure duties are faithfully performed by other advisors (Financial, faculty, etc.) in their respective areas. Chapter advisor should also assist chapter in filling vacancies of other advisory positions. 11.) The chapter advisor should view himself as providing an element of continuity in chapter operations and activities. With rapid turnover of chapter members and officers the chapter advisor is often the principal source of continuity in the undergraduate organization. 79 Outstanding chapter advisor award This award recognizes the chapter advisor who has given outstanding assistance and guidance to a chapter collegiate. The Outstanding Chapter Advisor Award will be announced at Leadership School. The advisor being nominated should: Be diligent and enthusiastic in handling his responsibilities which include continually striving to help the chapter to become as self-sufficient as possible Attend both executive council meetings and chapter meetings on a consistent basis. Advise the chapter on finances, scholarship, discipline, rush, pledging, alumni and campus relations, chapter unity and loyalty Advise the chapter on the use of the Ritual, if he is an AE Have an understanding of the role of the house corporation. All materials submitted should aim to establish the chapter advisor’s credibility, involvement and positive performance that display the characteristics listed above. Documentation must be submitted which attest to the chapter advisor’s performance. To nominate your chapter advisor, the following must be submitted: 1. 2. 3. Nomination from the chapter Recommendation letter from the Eminent Archon Recommendation letter from the House Corporation The following documents are recommended, but not required: 1. 2. 3. Recommendation letters from other chapter officers Recommendation letters from alumni, faculty, school administrators or any other persons who have been involved with the chapter advisor’s role Any other additional information that supports his outstanding performance To determine whether your chapter advisor will be recognized for this award, submit this application and all support materials to the Eminent Supreme Recorder, Sigma Alpha Epsilon Fraternity Office, P. O. Box 1856, Evanston, Illinois 60204-1856. All documents should be neatly typed, well-documented and organized. All materials must be received by June 15. Late, incomplete or incorrect applications will be disqualified. Questions about awards should be directed to your Education & Leadership Consultant or the Director of Chapter Operations. WE REQUEST THAT YOU MAKE A COPY OF THIS NOMINATION FOR YOUR FILES, WE ARE UNABLE TO RETURN YOUR SUBMITTED APPLICATION. 80 INFORMATION SHEET Outstanding Chapter Advisor Award ATTACH THIS SHEET TO THE FRONT OF YOUR CHAPTER ADVISOR AWARD APPLICATION Chapter____________________________College or University_________________________________ Chapter Advisor’s name_________________________________________________________________ Address______________________________________________________________________________ Telephone number(s)_______________________________________________ Person completing application__________________________________________________ Office currently held ___________________________________________Date____________________ This nomination for The Chapter Advisor Award was approved and recommended at the regular meeting of: _______________________________________held on________________________________ (Name of Chapter) (Date) _________________________________________________ (Signature of Eminent Archon) __________________________ (Date) _________________________________________________ (Signature of Eminent Recorder or other chapter Officer) __________________________ (Date) Address (no post office boxes) to which award should be shipped, if necessary) Telephone Number(s) 81 FRATERNITY MARKETING AND RECRUITING Slide Presentation (Rush2c.ppt ) 82 83 84 85 86 87 88 89 90 91 RUSH WORKSHOP Slide Presentation (rush workshop.ppt ) 92 93 94 95 96 “CHANGE OF PACE ICE BREAKERS” Use The Following as a break in the action During a workshop or a retreat. 97 A Warm Fuzzie to You SUBMIT TO PRESSURE FROM YOUR PEERS, AND YOU MOVE DOWN TO THEIR EVEL. SPEAK UP FOR YOUR WON BELIEFS, AND YOU INVITE THEM UP TO YOUR LEVEL. IF YOU MOVE WITH THE CROWD, YOU’LL GET NO FURTHER THAN THE CROWD. WHEN 40 MILLION PEOPLE BELIEVE IN A DUMB IDEA, IT’S STILL A DUMB IDEA. SIMPLY SWIMMING WITH THE TIDE LEAVES YOU NO WHERE. SO, IF YOU BELIEVE IN SOMETHING THAT’S GOOD, HONEST, AND BRIGHT, STAND UP FOR IT. MAYBE YOUR PEERS WILL GET SMART AND DRIFT YOUR WAY. 98 STORY There is a story about a master who sent his teenage student into the woods to observe a cocoon. The young man watched as the butterfly’s wings began to break through their silken fibers. He watched and waited and watched and grew impatient. Unable to simply observe any longer, he reached in and helped the butterfly out of the cocoon. The tender butterfly flew a few feet and then spiraled to the earth and died. The student, his eyes wet with tears, hurried back to the master and asked what happened. The master explained, “When you reached in and opened the cocoon, you deprived the butterfly of the chance to strengthen it’s wings in the struggle.” Ohio Sigma, I read this the other day and could not help but think about Ohio Sigma and how the story applies to our relationship. Many of us regardless of age or responsibility find it difficult to allow those with whom we live or work to experience the bumps and bruises of life. Like the teenage student, the friend, the foreman, the parent, the boss, the advisor, we often want to reach in and rescue. But sometimes doing nothing is best. We all learn best from direct experience and a mild mishap now and then is a small price to pay for an education in responsibility that can prevent major tragedies later on. 99 Communication building blocks (write-up) I. PURPOSE To increase an awareness of verbal, nonverbal, one-way and two-way communication. To promote open communication. II. GENERAL COMMENTS Open communication which involves verbal, nonverbal and two-way communication offers the clearest picture to the receiver. Effective communication promotes improved personal and professional relationships. III. POSSIBLE ACTIVITIES A B. 100 1. Photocopy 1 handout. 2. Distribute blank paper and pencils to all group members 3. Ask for a volunteer and instruct him/her without showing the handout to others) to … a. Choose one shape b. Describe it to the group using verbal cues only, so the others can accurately draw it on their papers. Use one-way communication only. Do not allow questions/comments from the group. Do not use nonverbal cues/hand motions , body gestures, etc.) 4. Encourage group members to show their drawings to the describer to compare their copies with the original. 5. Continue the activity by instructing volunteer #2 to describe a different shape verbally, but this time including nonverbal cues as well. Use one-way communication only. 6. Encourage group members to draw, and then show their drawings to the describer to compare their copies with the original. 7. Continue the activity by instructing volunteer #3 to describe a third shape verbally and nonverbally, allowing for two-way communication with group members. 8. Process the group by discussing members’ reactions and responses to each of the three exercises, emphasizing the benefits of verbal, nonverbal and two-way communication. 1. Photocopy one page and make cards of each of the twelve designs. 2. Encourage group members to describe their shapes to the rest of the group. They can choose to describe them…(a) verbally, with no nonverbal cues; (b) verbally and nonverbally, allowing no questions; or (c) verbally and nonverbally, encouraging questions. 3. Process the group by discussing members’ reactions to the exercise, and emphasizing the benefits of open communication. COMMUNICATION BUILDING BLOCKS GRAPHIC PICTURES 101 WINNERS The Winner is always part of the answer The Loser is always part of the problem The Winner always has a problem The Loser always has an excuse The Winner always says let me do it for you The Loser always says that's not my job The Winner always sees an answer for every problem The Loser always sees a problem with every answer The Winner sees a green near every sandtrap The Loser sees two or three sandtraps near every green The Winner says it may be difficult but it may be possible The Loser says it may be possible but it's too difficult You choice is which you want to be Dexter Yager 102 ATTITUDES The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude to me is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company…a church…a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change the past. We cannot change the fact that people will act a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you…we are in charge of our attitudes. It is better for you to take responsibility for your life as it is, instead of blaming others, or circumstances, for your predicament. As your eyes open, you will see that your state of health, happiness and every circumstance of your life has been, in large part, arranged by you consciously or unconsciously. Everyone wants respect. But it is not just a matter of saying, “Please respect me”. You must earn respect by acting respectable and the respect of a man is not easily earned. The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new. Concentrating on the good, do not dwell on the bad. 103 DISCUSSION SHEET Discussion 1. Directions: Have each person answer the following questions—take turns going first. What I liked best about today is . . . 2. To make life better, I would like to invent . . . 4. A time when I was very happy was . . . 5. I feel frustrated when . . . 6. When I think about the future I see myself . . . 7. One thing that I treasure most in life is ... To me, God is like . . . 8. Something I always have wondered about is . . . 3. 9. 11. I feel lonely when . . . 10. I feel rebellious when . . . 13. One thing that depresses me about life is . . . 12. One thing that I enjoy about life is . . . 14. If I could change one thing about myself I would . . . 15. Something I like about myself is . . . 16. One thing I regret having done is . . . 17. To keep from being hurt I . . . 18. Two things for which I am thankful are . . . 104 IT MAKES A DIFFERNCE TO THIS ONE IT MAKES A DIFFERENCE TO THIS ONE Everyday a young man walked down the beach picking up starfish that washed up on the shore the night before. Slowly, carefully, he threw them back into the ocean one at a time so they could survive. Another man jogging on the beach watched the young man for several days. Finally he said “Hey young man, why do you throw these starfish back into the ocean day after day? There are thousands Of them and you will never make a difference.” The young man picked up one starfish, threw it back into the ocean and said, “It made a difference to that one.” 105 SAFARI Time: 15 minutes Number of People: Unlimited Materials/Preparation: Slips of paper, one for each participant, camera (optional). Write the names Mike, Mavis, and Dennis on three slips of paper. Write the names of the animals on the list below on the remaining slips of paper, using the same animal names over again until all slips are used. Animal List: monkey, lion, elephant, parrot, hyena, snake To Begin: To End: Distribute slips of paper, one to each participant. Tell the participants that they are going to be players in a short story of a photographic safari. Each time they hear their animal named in the story, they are to stand up, make the appropriate animal sound, and sit back down. When they hear the word “jungle”, everyone stands up, makes their “animal noise” and sits back down. The person who has the Mavis slip is to stand and say “hello” when her name is called. The person with the Mike slip should stand and say “hey there” when his name is called and the person with the Dennis slip should say “howdy”. If they hear the words, “the Motleys”, both Mavis and Mike should stand and speak and then sit back down. Read the first sentence as a practice. Read the story all the way through, allowing time for the characters to stand and make their noises. Take a picture of the group if you have a camera Applaud the group. The Safari Mavis and Mike Motley and their guide Dennis started out on a photographic safari in Africa. They were headed for the jungle. Mike was hoping to get pictures of the monkeys and the lions in the jungle. Mavis came to the jungle to photograph hyenas and parrots. Dennis was hoping they would not see any snakes, but he knew the jungle was full of snakes. Amazingly, the first thing the Motleys saw as they entered the jungle were the elephants. Suddenly a pride of lions appeared, just as Dennis was snapping a picture of Mike and Mavis with the elephants. The lions were everywhere in the jungle. Dennis and the Motley’s tried to scare them away as the parrots and the monkeys watched from the trees in the jungle. Finally, Dennis and the Motleys continued their journey getting lots of pictures of hyenas. In fact, the hyenas outnumbered the lions and the monkeys. Mike got a few pictures of the elephants and Mavis got one of the parrots. It was a great jungle safari, full of laughs thanks to the hyenas. And best of all they didn’t see any snakes. 106 MIKE MAVIS WORKSHEET MIKE MAVIS DENNIS MONKEY LION ELEPHANT PARROT HYENA SNAKE MONKEY LION ELEPHANT PARROT HYENA SNAKE MONKEY 107 WORD TO GROW ON ARTICLE 108 “I AM” You, too, can write an “I AM” poem. How? Begin by describing special things about yourself. Avoid the obvious and the ordinary—such as “I am a 15-year old boy with brown hair.” Think of things about yourself that are distinctive. I am a girl who bruises easily and believes in astrology – when the stars are right.” That’s better because it gives a sense of the speaker…and how she is different from other people. Don’t be afraid to be different. Once you have an opening line, you’re ready to take off. Here is a line-by-line guide you can follow. It may seem strange at first to write a poem this way. If you give it a try, you may surprise yourself and be amazed by the results. I I I I I I am (two special characteristics you have) wonder (something you are actually curious about) hear (an imaginary sound) see (an imaginary sight) want (an actual desire) am (the first line of the poem repeated) I I I I I I pretend (something you actually pretend to do) feel (a feeling about something imaginary) touch (an imaginary touch) worry (something that makes you concerned or bothers you) cry (something that makes you very sad) am (the first line of the poem repeated) I I I I I I understand (something you know is true) say (something you believe in) dream (something you actually dream about) try (something you really make an effort about) hope (something you actually hope for) am (the first line of the poem repeated) 109 MARGARET MEAD QUOTE “Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed it is the only thing that ever has.” -Margaret Mead 110 NUMBER SCRAMBLE GAME 111
