SOCIAL STYLES - Just Training

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Sean Dercksen

Business Coach & Professional Speaker www.setforsuccess.co.za sean@setforsuccess.co.za

+27 (83) 400 5456

CUSTOMER SERVICE SUCCESS (NOTES: Session 3)

THE FOUR SOCIAL STYLES

Analytical (Cool Blues), Amiable (Lovable Greens),

Driver (Fired up Reds) & Expressive (Sunshine Yellows)

GOAL / OUTCOME OF TRAINING

1. A nalyze patterns & characteristics

2. D etermine the style of others

3. A ssess our own style

4. P lan to accommodate others’ needs

5. T reat others as they want to be treated

DEFINITION

Personality is the combination of all attributes – behavioral, temperamental, emotional & mental that characterizes a unique individual.

INTRODUCTION

- We are all interactive beings

- We require energy & stimulation

- Some are energized by people or actions

- Others energized by facts or trust

- Two dimensions: ASSERTIVE vs. RESPONSIVE

Dimensions intersect to define the four Social Styles known as: Driver, Expressive, Amiable & Analytical.

CAVEATS

No good / bad style

Style is an explanation, not an excuse to be excluded from future tasks

Beware of stereotyping

Styles adapt: Environment & Circumstances

 Interacting styles provide balance

THE FOUR SOCIAL STYLES

SOCIAL STYLE – DRIVER

THE CONTROL SPECIALIST

- Obsessed by performance

- Passion for knowledge

- Fast work pace (seldom discouraged)

- Take control making decisions

- One task focus – handles all pressure

- Bullet points

– go go go!

- Personal worth: productivity

DEFINING WORDS:

- In charge

- Decisive

- Efficient

- Logical

- Practical

- Punctual

- Competitive

- Independent thinkers

- Task orientated

- Take risks for results

- Assert themselves

- Take the initiative

- Reliable - Defend their views

CHARACTERISTICS:

- Action oriented - Impressive

- Adventurous

- Candid

- Powerful

- Results orientated

- Challenging

- Competitive

LIMITATIONS:

- Self reliant

- Strong willed

Can be insensitive / dominant

May rush decisions / impatient

Could be manipulative / independent

Intolerant of mistakes / unsympathetic

Can be a workaholic / quick tempered

The driving force behind the style to have power.

SOCIAL STYLE – EXPRESSIVE

THE SOCIAL SPECIALIST

- Friendly, easy going & loud

- Fast spontaneous work pace

- Create flexibility in all areas

- Thrive when it’s social & stimulating

- Seek recognition & admiration

- Live for today & endure hardships

- Personal worth: popularity

DEFINING WORDS:

- Energized

- Noisy

- Stimulating

- Emotional

- Persuasive

- Charismatic

- Talkative

- Think quickly

- Good social mixers

- People orientated

- Motivating

- Risk takers

- Handle stress - Outwardly confident

CHARACTERISTICS:

- Animated

- Charismatic

- Dramatic

- Enthusiastic

- Lively

- Motivating

LIMITATIONS

- Optimistic

- Outgoing

- Popular

- Spontaneous

- Stimulating

- Talkative

Can waste time talking / exaggerates

Priorities out of order / undisciplined

Could get distracted / seeks credit

Forgets obligations / makes excuses

Often does not listen / interrupts

The driving force behind the style to be popular.

SOCIAL STYLE – AMIABLE

THE SUPPORT SPECIALIST

- Team builder promoting harmony

- Masters of relationships

- Great listeners sensing feelings

- Strong & willing team player

- Good networker & very responsible

- Promotes smooth pace with clear direction

- Personal worth: conformity & loyalty

DEFINING WORDS:

- Friendly

- Sincere

- Supporting

- Kind

- Loyal

- Team Players

- Caring

- Compliant

- Intuitive

- Dependable

- Don’t stir

- Understanding

- Honest

- Great rapport

CHARACTERISTICS:

- Accommodating - Generous

- Agreeable - Patient

- Appreciative

- Co-operative

- Sentimental

- Supportive

- Diplomatic

LIMITATIONS

- Even tempered

- Trusting

- Understanding

Can be too compromising / spectator

May lack self motivation / resistant

Resents being pushed / stubborn

Keeps emotions hidden / shy

Puts themselves down / doormat

The driving force behind the style to create peace.

SOCIAL STYLE – ANALYTICAL

THE TECHNIQUE SPECIALIST

- Formal & conservative

- Strong sense of duty & obligation

- Steadfast, reliable & dependable

- Measured work ethic (fact finder)

- Careful systematic preparation & pace

- Take on huge responsibility

- Personal worth: accurate & thorough

DEFINING WORDS:

- Detail

- Punctual

- Systems

- Perfection

- Persistent

- Look before leaping

- Thoughtful approach

- Gather all facts

- Systems orientated

- Consistent moods

- Serious about tasks - Reliable

- Thinkers - Stick to the rules

CHARACTERISTICS :

- Accurate - Meticulous

- Analytical

- Consistent

- Orderly

- Precise

- Detail oriented

- Diligent

- Logical

- Task oriented

- Technical

- Thorough

LIMITATIONS

Too much time planning / indecisive

Can be hard to please / rigid

Not very people oriented / critical

Prefers analysis to action / perfection

Can be self centered / unforgiving

The driving force behind the style to be perfect.

FAMOUS PERSONALITIES (Winnie the Pooh)

Rabit – Driver

Tigger – Expressive

Pooh – Amiable

Eeyore – Analytical

STYLE IDENTIFICATION

Talking:

- What they discuss

- Who they talk about

- Tone of voice

- Pace of speech

Working:

- Style of work

- Area (desk)

- Interaction with others

- Task or people focus

Other:

- Body language

- Gestures / movement

- Responsiveness (face)

- Listening pattern

CHARACTERISTICS OF THE STYLES

GENERAL OUTLOOK

DRIVER

“Just do it!”

Want to know what & when

Like to take charge

ANALYTICAL

“Do it right or not at all!”

Want to know how

Like to plan

EXPRESSIVE

“Let’s all do it!”

Want to know who else

Like energy & optimism

AMIABLE

“We’re great!”

Want to know why & who

Like co-operation & loyalty

HOW WE TALK

DRIVER

I will…

State, command

Direct assertion - lead

ANALYTICAL

I think…

Enquire, information

Indirect assertion - ponder

PACE & TONE OF SPEECH

DRIVER

Very fast pace

Loud

Use voice for impact

ANALYTICAL

Slower even pace

Quiet

Doesn’t vary voice much

EXPRESSIVE

I want…

Involve, command

Direct assertion - inspire

AMIABLE

I feel…

Enquire, get involved

Indirect assertion - advice

EXPRESSIVE

Fast pace

Loudest

Use voice to emphasize

AMIABLE

Slower pace

Quieter, but open

Limited variance in voice

BODY LANGUAGE

DRIVER

Leans forward

Little facial expressions

Intense eye contact

Deliberate movements

ANALYTICAL

Leans back & observes

Almost no facial expressions

Limited eye contact

Limited gestures

COMMUNICATION STYLE

DRIVER

Direct & to the point

Can be outspoken

Formal, business-like

ANALYTICAL

Specific & concise

Clear, logical

Formal, bottom-line

RESPONSIVENESS

DRIVER

May appear pushy

More reserved & cautious

Can appear rushed

ANALYTICAL

May appear unresponsive

Reserved & cautious

Can appear preoccupied

LISTENING PATTERN

DRIVER

Can be a poor listener

Controls conversation

May interrupt

Likes to summarize

ANALYTICAL

Listens, but may appear as though they are not

Silence at times

WORK STYLE

DRIVER

Prioritizes & multi-tasks

Likes change, works fast

Generates ideas, intense

EXPRESSIVE

Leans forward & open

Controlled facial expressions

Good eye contact

Lots of gestures

AMIABLE

Leans back

Some facial expressions

Good eye contact

Regular gestures

EXPRESSIVE

Animated & excitable

Can come on too strong

Informal, relaxed

AMIABLE

Dreamy thoughts

May seem vague

Informal, casual

EXPRESSIVE

Open & warm

Very responsive

Enjoys the conversation

AMIABLE

Friendly

Responsive

Enjoys the interaction

EXPRESSIVE

Listens

Reacts to what’s said

Talks a lot

AMIABLE

Good listener

Reacts to conversation

Cares

EXPRESSIVE

Unstructured, freedom

Calls people

Gets bored, works fast

Desk: neat & organized

ANALYTICAL

Detailed conscious

Focused, concentration

Methodical, routine

Desk: work piles up

UNDER STRESS

DRIVER

Is energized

Will become assertive

Seeks control

ANALYTICAL

Gets over-focused on detail

May withdraw

FEARS

DRIVER

Being taken advantage of

Loss of control

ANALYTICAL

Being criticized

Quick decisions

TWO DOMINANT STYLES

Analytical & Amiable = Co-ordinator

Driver & Expressive = Motivator

Expressive & Amiable = Helper

Driver & Analytical = Reformer

KEY CHARACTERISTICS

DRIVER

Characteristic = Go getter

Motivated = Results

Goals = Sets many

Group role = Leader

Needs = Control

Thanks = Productivity

Reward = Power

ANALYTICAL

Characteristic = Fact finder

Motivated = Activity

Goals = Met on time

Group role = Info provider

Needs = Focus & direction

Thanks = Quality

Reward = Responsibility

OPPOSITE STYLE

Desk: novelties around

AMIABLE

Open approach

Always on duty

Little urgency

Desk: sentimental souvenirs

EXPRESSIVE

Rises to the challenge at 1 st get stressed

May flip to the dark side

AMIABLE

Worries & avoids contact

Being bored

Rejection

AMIABLE

Being alone

Loss of security

, but may

Talks to friends / colleagues

EXPRESSIVE

EXPRESSIVE

Characteristic = Networker

Motivated = Applause

Goals = Spontaneous

Group role = Rapport builder

Needs = Attention

Thanks = Contribution

Reward = Recognition

AMIABLE

Characteristic = Peacemaker

Motivated = Approval

Goals = Cautious to commit

Group role = Interpersonal

Needs = Feel included

Thanks = Involvement

Reward = Approval

Incredibly, as one gets older, we move away from our dominant style towards our opposite style. This does not mean that we become the opposite style all together, but rather a combination of the two.

CAUSES OF CONFLICT

ADAPTING MYSELF

DRIVER

Do:

Focus on present

Be brief & efficient

Get to the point

Short term goals

Offer solid results

Give options & control

Stress how they’ll win

Don’t:

Focus on long term

Give too much detail

Exaggerate

Beat around the bush

Get too personal

Start a control contest

Speak slowly

NEGOTIATING WITH DRIVER PEOPLE:

Support their needs, goals & objectives. Paint word pictures through questions, allowing them to discover things alone. Back disagreement up with facts, not opinions & praise their ideas - not them.

Decision making process is quick. If they don’t decide quickly, offer an alternative with facts & figures to support it.

EXPRESSIVE

Do:

Focus on future

Story based concepts

Seek their ideas/ input

Don’t:

Dive into business

Dwell on detail

Nit-pick issues

The big picture

Show interest

Stimulate creativity

Compliment them

Be cool/ impersonal

Be too serious

Talk down

Dampen enthusiasm

NEGOTIATING WITH EXPRESSIVE PEOPLE:

Encourage them to talk about their opinions, ideas & goals, then find common areas. Your selling should be fast moving, sociable & entertaining. Don’t argue - they don’t like to admit defeat. After reaching a

preliminary agreement, iron out specific details & cover everything. Provide little paperwork & get to the point.

AMIABLE

Do:

Be easy & informal

Don’t:

Push for detail

Focus on tradition

Be personal & flexible

Allow time & listen

Stress security

Promote team work

Push “feel good”

Introduce change

Be dictatorial

Push for commitment

Be cool & impersonal

Hurry them up

Confront or attack

NEGOTIATING WITH AMIABLE PEOPLE:

Support their feelings & listen well. Show interest in the person. Take your time allowing them to spell out their feelings & not what they think you want to hear. Cover any misunderstandings, because they change their minds. They don’t take risks so offer your support.

ANALYTICAL

Do:

Past, present & future

Talk facts with detail

Be logical & organized

Don’t:

Inconsistent, illogical

Overlook detail

Ignore past or future

Allow time to ponder

What, when & by who

Let them be right

Put it in writing

Be vague or rushed

Be too personal

Joke or be too casual

Press for action now

NEGOTIATING WITH ANALYTICAL PEOPLE:

Understand their organized, non-rushed approach, so back it up with literature.

Always list both sides of the offer with an exact, prepared approach; don’t exaggerate. Give time for summing up the offer & to verify your actions - follow up in writing. Facts/figures are important (not an opinion). Offer sound guarantees with no gimmicks...

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