Safe Newcastle - March 2011
Men should remember…
Don’t assume consent
Don’t put pressure or take advantage
No means NO under any circumstance
Make sure you have consent – someone who’s drunk may not be able to
make an informed decision
Silence isn’t a yes
Consent can be removed at any point
YES is the only thing that gives consent
Having consent does not give you continued consent
Make sure she’s old enough/mature enough
You can stop
Flirtatious and/or under the influence doesn’t mean she wants sex
Don’t buy a girl more drinks in the hope it may change her mind
Don’t give in to peer pressure - Wait until you’re ready too - don’t feel you
have to have sex to be ‘one of the lads’.
If a girl dresses provocatively- it doesn’t mean she wants you to see all of her
body
Women have the right to change their mind
Do not enter unless you are invited!!
Asleep does not mean ‘stick it in’
Be aware of consequences – is it really worth it??
A girl can get pregnant first time!
Think about what would happen if she got pregnant and the affects on the
child
Think of the ‘label’ that will follow you around for the rest of your life
If in doubt do nowt
It could happen to you. Rape also happens to men. If you suffer sexual
violence as a man from a man, it doesn’t mean you’re gay
The urge for sex is not always a mutual feeling (wait until there is pleasure for
both of you)
Just because you’re in a relationship doesn’t give you the automatic right to
sex - A girlfriend or wife is not your property!!
Just because you have had sex with that person before does not mean you
can have sex with them again
If a girl has a reputation – it doesn’t means she will automatically want to have
sex with you!
Respect! A relationship takes time to build trust etc
Respect yourself as well as the girl
Every girl is someone’s daughter - Imagine it was your sister/mother etc
Read body language - make sure you’re on the same wavelength
Created during a drama workshop looking at Risks & Responsibilities around Sexual
Violence, with a mixed audience at Gosforth Civic Hall for Safe Newcastle as part of
the BlueGiro tour.
© Open Clasp Theatre Company 2011
Safe Newcastle - March 2011
Be aware that the media sexualises women and can be misleading
Slag v Stud (double standards) women and men are equal and should be able
to behave as such – ‘no-one is a slag’
Drinking to excess (and drugs) makes everyone vulnerable – never exploit
someone when they’re vulnerable
If she’s intoxicated don’t be alone with her
Don’t take advantage of a young woman who is under the influence
Be a good role model
Challenge friends and other men’s sexist language
Use respectable language about women.
Girls can be less stereotypical i.e. have a laugh etc and it’s not necessarily an
invitation – they can be pro-active
Schools should teach about the affects of rape on a victim and challenge
traditional roles
Education – what is sexual violence? Rape is not a ‘stranger’ crime
Do not touch people inappropriately, it’s not a joke
Sexual violence is not a joke – be sensitive to other peoples background or
life experience
Private images should be kept private, there are laws!
It is illegal to possess indecent images of any woman (person) under 18yrs
Media/Pornography etc is not real. Women aren’t sexual objects. It’s not the
‘norm’. Real sex is not like porn
Never expect sex
Never use a threat to get sex
Peer pressure, nagging, emotional blackmail is never acceptable
Be aware of your presence
There are NO excuses
Created during a drama workshop looking at Risks & Responsibilities around Sexual
Violence, with a mixed audience at Gosforth Civic Hall for Safe Newcastle as part of
the BlueGiro tour.
© Open Clasp Theatre Company 2011