PARENT –CHILD- TEACHER RELATIONSHIP
Abu Huraira: Allah's Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) said, "No child is born except on AlFitra (Islam) and then his parents make him Jewish, Christian or Magian, as an animal produces a perfect
young animal: do you see any part of its body amputated?" (part of a Hadeeth in Bukhari).
Teachers are inheritors of Prophets. (Hadeeth)
He shall not enter Heaven, who provides sustenance to his child but failed to provide him with good
tarbiah (training ) ( Hadeeth)
When Teachers and Parents work together
 grades, test scores, attitudes toward schoolwork, behavior, academic perseverance, homework
completion, attendance of students improve.
 home and school help increase the probability students will perform their best.
 One way to understand what adult-student relationships are is to look at how they are measured.
 Most definitions include:
 Warmth/Trust
 Ongoing Communication/Involvement
 Alienation/Unresponsiveness
Think and Write:
1.What teacher attitudes help build constructive relationships with parents?
2.What parent attitudes help build constructive relationships with teachers?
Inventory of Teacher-Child Relationships Teacher Relationship Scale (Pianta)
Definitely
Does not
1
Not
really
2
Neutral
not sure
3
Applies
somewhat
4
Definitely
applies
5
Communication
1. My teacher about my problems and troubles.
2. I tell My teacher can tell when something is upsetting me.
3. My teacher helps me understand myself better.
4. If teacher knows something bothering me, they ask me about
5. Count on teacher when need to get something off chest
6. When angry teacher tries to be understanding
7. My teacher encourages me to talk about my difficulties.
Closeness
1. I share an affectionate, warm relationship with this child.
2. If upset, this child will seek comfort from me.
3. This child is uncomfortable with physical affection or touch from me (R)
4. This child values his/her relationship with me.
5. When I praise this child, he/she beams with pride.
6. This child spontaneously share information about himself/herself.
7. This child tries to please me.
8. It is easy to be in tune with what this student is feeling.
9. I’ve notice child openly shares his/her feelings and experiences with me.
10. My interactions with this child make me feel effective and confident.
Conflict
1. This child and I always seem to be struggling with each other.
2. This child easily becomes angry at me.
3. This child feels that I treat him/her unfairly.
4. This child sees me as a source of punishment and criticism.
5. angry or is resistant after being disciplined.
6. When this child is misbehaving, he/she responds well to my look or tone of voice. (R)
7. Dealing with this child drains my energy.
8. When this child arrives in a bad mood, I know we’re in for a long and difficult day.
9. This child’s feelings toward me can be unpredictable or can change suddenly.
10. Despite my best efforts, I’m uncomfortable with how this child and I have gotten along.
11. This child whines or cries when he/she wants something from me.
12. This child is sneaky or manipulative with me.
Dependency
1. This child appears hurt or embarrassed when I correct him/her.
2. This child reacts strongly to separation from me.
3. This child is overly dependent on me.
4. This child asks for my help when he/she does not really need help.
5. This child expresses hurt or jealousy when I spend time with other children.
Trust
1. My teacher accepts me as I am.
2. My teacher respects my feelings
3. I feel my teacher is successful as a teacher
4. I trust my teacher.
5. My teacher trusts my judgment.
Alienation
1. I get upset a lot more than my teacher knows about.
2. I feel that no one understands me.
3. I get upset easily at school.
4. My teacher doesn’t understand what I’m going through.
5. I wish I had a different teacher
Talking about my feelings with my teacher makes me feel foolish.
Response Options Almost Never True, Sometimes True, Often True, Almost Always True
Reminders for Teachers and Parents :4Ms
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Be a your child good role model.
Motivate.
Monitor your child’s performance.
Maintain contact with teachers.
Reminders for Teachers and Parents :4As
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Approach:
Attitudes:
Atmosphere:
Actions:
The framework for interaction with parents
The values and perceptions held about parent-teacher relationships
The climate for parent-teacher interactions
Strategies for building shared responsibility for students’
progress and success
Approach
 Think of students in your class last year – those who were doing well and those who struggled.
 On a scale of 1-10, how important, in your experience, is family engagement with learning to
students’ success?
Attitudes:
 Dialogue Time: What is the role of attitudes in productive family-school connections?
 What teacher attitudes help build constructive relationships with parents?
 - What parent attitudes help build constructive relationships with teachers?
Atmosphere:
 Listen to one another’s perspective.
 View differences as strengths.
 Focus on mutual interests.
 Share information to co-construct understandings.
 Respect the skills and knowledge of each other by asking for opinions and ideas.
 Plan together and make decisions that address the needs of parents, teachers, and students.
 Refrain from finding fault – no problematic individuals; rather a problematic situation that
requires our attention.
 Celebrate “our” successes.
New Beliefs and Principles about Families Help Foster Relationships
 All families have strengths, and their assets, not deficits, are emphasized.
 Parents can learn ways to help their children if they are provided with the opportunity and
necessary support.
 Parents have important information and perspectives about their children that are needed by
teachers.
 Schools and families influence each other.
 A no-fault, problem solving model is necessary – blame is not attributed to the family or school
because there is not a single cause for any presenting concerns.
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Action:
 Pretend you have an index card. Write one thing that helps parents feel welcome at school.
Sorte them into one of six categories:
 Communication
 Trust
 Quality of relationship with teacher
 Problem solving orientation
 Physical appearance
 Other
Where does your idea best fall?