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Agenda
Part 1: Leadership as a Journey
Part 2: Discovery of your
Authentic Self
Part 3: The Empowering of
Others
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True North Fundamentals
LIFE Navigation
True North
TN = Our individual life
(Spiritually connected)
purposes, motives &
values standards
Positional
North
* Authenticity =
The least variation
between TN and
PN
PN = Where
personal/societal
sin, individual
vices, ignorance
are pulling us
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True North Fundamentals
Session 1 - Summary Points
• An Authentic leader is one who has a passion for
their purpose, practices their values, leads from
their heart, develops connected accountable
relationships and builds the self discipline to get
results.
• It is a journey (yours alone) following your unique
path
• Keeping your “Positional North” aligned closely
with your “True North” insures the journey is a
success
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True North Fundamentals
Session 1 - Summary Points
• We go through the journey in stages – some
planned – some unplanned- all intended for growth
• All of us have crucibles – whether they are positive
growth experiences or obstacles that hold us back is
dependent on our view of them
• Many leaders start out well and then loose their
way – be vigilant! – avoid the 5 derailment
archtypes
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Derailment
Archetypes
Imposters – unconsciously lack self awareness and self esteem
Rationalizers – consciously deviate from their values
Glory Seekers – motivated by seeking the world’s acclaim
Loners – Fail to build personal support structures
(arrogance/insecurity/narcissism)
Shooting Stars – lack the grounding of an integrated life
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Using The “Compass”
Values
Integrated
Life
How can I
integrate all
aspects of my life
and find
fulfillment?
What are my most
deeply held Values?
What Principles
guide my
leadership?
What's my story? What are
my Strengths and
Developmental Needs?
Self
Awareness
Motivations
Who are the
people I can
count on to guide
and support me
along the way?
Support Team
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What motivates me?
How do I balance my
internal and external
motivations?
Using The “Compass”
What's my story? What are
my Strengths and
Developmental Needs?
Self
Awareness
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The Fundamental Principle
“Gnothi Seauton”
(Know Thyself)
-
Inscribed on the wall of the temple of Apollo
at Delphi in Greece during the 6th Century B.C.
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“To Thine own Self…”
“Being true to yourself is the most important thing. If you are
ambitious – that’s great… If not, that’s also fine. Just be true to
what you want. Not everyone can be at the top of the class. If
they try to be – they may not get there. If they did get there they
may not be happy. Know who you are and you can overcome
almost any obstacle, unless you are the obstacle…”
- Lynn Forester
CEO of Firstmark
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Your Self Awareness
What is that? – Individual/Group Activity
“Perfection is not the goal of leadership…but
to be true to who you are while continuing to
develop yourself…”
- Peter Drucker
Take 5 minutes and answer the questions 1 &
2 on worksheet page 5 individually, Then…
In your group discuss and share answers to
question # 3 & 4.
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So You Can:
Find your best role
Increase your self confidence
Become consistent (Authentic)
Continually connect with others
Identify/utilize the complimentary
skills of others
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What Drives your Leadership
is What Drives You…
(Peeling Back the Onion)
Presence
Shadow side
Values
Authentic
Self
Strengths
Weaknesses
Vulnerabilities
Body
Language
Needs
Life Story
Appearance
Understanding
Motivations
Desires
Blind Spots
Leadership
Style
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Helping Professionals
Business/Life Coaches – guide, nudge,
provoke, advise, structure improvements
Consultants/Advisors – provide knowledge,
specialized expertise
Christian Counselors
– provide Spiritual
guidance and insight and suggestions
Psycho-Therapists – provide clinical
emotional/cognitive insight, support, clarification, and
perspective (Licensed)
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“Getting & Sharing”
How you
know yourself
How others
know you
The
“Authentic
You”
Public
Give Honest
Sharing of
your
Knowledge,
insight and
Feedback
Hidden
BS
U
Ideal Window – The “Authentic You”
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Get Honest
Feedback
from others
(whose
opinion you
respect)
Accept Yourself
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Using The “Compass”
Values
Self
Awareness
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What are my most
deeply held Values?
What Principles
guide my
leadership?
What Guides our
Leadership?
“Core” of the
onion Stuff
Who we
are/where
we come
from
Life Goals
Beliefs and
Convictions
Who we
want to be
Values that
form the
basis for
Leadership
What is
Important
to us
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Leadership
Principles/
Standards &
Ethical
Boundaries
How/why
we want
to lead
Values, Principles &
Boundaries
Values: The relative importance of the things
that matter in your life
Leadership Principles: A set of standards
used in leading others (derived from values)
which are translated into actions.
Ethical Boundaries: The limits you place on
your actions based on your standards of
ethical behavior
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Your Values
What do you really value? – Individual/Group
Activity
“When you are in trouble and all your defenses get
stripped away, you realize what matters and who
matters. That’s when you need to get back to your
roots and your values
- David Gergan
Take 10 minutes - Fill out the values inventory
on Page 6/7 – Then - Answer all of the
questions (2 -4) on worksheet page 8
individually. Then…
In your group discuss and share some of your
answers with each other
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Leadership Principles
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Help in Holding
Boundaries
Don’t take first step!
If you do… confess, repent, reform
Peer support – “stay in the herd”
Accountability – open to feedback
Look at values often
Open to feedback
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Using The “Compass”
Values
Self
Awareness
Motivations
What motivates me?
How do I balance my
internal and external
motivations?
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Your Motivations
What Motivates us? – Individual/Group Activity
“Only a few of us can do great things, but all
of us can do small things with great love”
- Mother Teresa
Take 5 minutes and read the excerpt on page 8
individually, Then…
In your group discuss and share some of
observations and insights on the reading
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Motivators
Intrinsic
Derived from your
True North
Examples:
Personal Growth
Satisfaction of doing good
work
Helping others
Finding meaning from
efforts
Being true to beliefs
Making a difference in the
world
Extrinsic
Derived from the
external world
Examples:
Wealth
Winning
competitions/public
recognition
Having power, title,
position or social status
Symbols such as cars,
jewelry, and “stuff”
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Motivated Capabilities
Intrinsic
Motivation
Strengths
Motivations
Sweet
Spot
Capabilities
Extrinsic
Motivation
Weaknesses
“Find out what you are good at and what you like to do”
- Dr. Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi
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Your Motivators
What Motivates us? – Individual/Group Activity
Now – Answer individually the questions on
worksheet Pg 10
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Using The “Compass”
Values
Self
Awareness
Motivations
Who are the
people I can
count on to guide
and support me
along the way?
Support Team
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Building a Support
Team
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Your Support Team
Who can we count on? – Individual/Group Activity
“Always have some people around you who
will tell you the truth…” - Warren Bennis
Take 5 minutes and do the checklist on page 10
individually, Then…
In your group discuss and share some of
observations and insights on the three
questions about friendships
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Building Enduring
Friendships
“Getting a great relationship is not so
much a matter of finding the right
person but of being the right person”
- Josh McDowell
How to make Friends
How to keep Friends
How to be a Friend
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Making & Keeping
Friends
Ask people for “their story” & listen
Spend time
Be intentional – reach out
Have fun together (laugh/play/engage)
Find “common threads” to your lives
Share/support common values
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Being a Friend
Be the friend you want others to be
Keep Pursuing (before being pursued)
Support people verbally
Give and receive (feedback & disclosure)
Reminders of their value
(notes/calls/thoughtful remembrances)
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Using The “Compass”
Values
Integrated
Life
How can I
integrate all
aspects of my life
and find
fulfillment?
Self
Awareness
Motivations
Support Team
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The “Buckets” of Life
Work and
career
Family
World at
large
The same person
(Authentic You)
in each
environment
Ministry
Personal
Pursuits
Friends and Important
Relationships
Community
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Integrating Life
How do we stay grounded and Integrate all the
aspects of life? – Individual/Group Activity
“The hardest choices you and the people you
counsel will have to make will not be between
good and evil, but between good and good”
- Dr. Howard Hendricks
In your group brainstorm, discuss and share
observations, ideas and insights on these
questions about Integration
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Integration – the
Biggest Challenge
Keeping Grounded
Balancing our Choices
Measures of Success
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To achieve our vision,
how should we
appear to our
customers?
Internal
Processes
Vision
&
Strategy
Learning &
Growth
To achieve our vision
how will we sustain
our ability to change
and improve?
To satisfy customers
and shareholders,
what business
processes must we
excel at?
Objectives
Measures
Targets
Actions
Customer
Objectives
Measures
Targets
Actions
To succeed
financially, how
should we appear to
our shareholders?
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Objectives
Measures
Targets
Actions
Financial
Objectives
Measures
Targets
Actions
The Balanced Scorecard
* Adapted from “The Balanced
Scorecard” by Kaplan & Norton
To do work I love &
to have the resources
needed for life what
must I do, change,
improve
Family &
Friends
Personal
Mission,
Vision,
Goals
Community &
Ministry
To make my unique
contribution, add
value & make a
difference what must
I do, change, improve
To have the
quality of family &
relationships that I
desire what must I
do, change, improve
Objectives
Measures
Targets
Actions
Career &
Finance
Objectives
Measures
Targets
Actions
To succeed & have
satisfaction in
all life dimensions
what must I do,
change, improve
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Objectives
Measures
Targets
Actions
Personal
Objectives
Measures
Targets
Actions
Balanced Scorecard (Life)
Moving Toward
Integration
What we Expect:
I know what I want
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I have what I want
Moving Toward
Integration
What we Expect:
I know what I want
I have what I want
What Usually Happens:
I know what I want
I have what I want
Progress
Progress
Progress
Upset
Difficulty
Setback
Pressure
Fatigue
Problem
Conflict
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Meltdown
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