Habit #4 Think Win-Win “Pursue Victory with Honor” Ice-Breaker Stand next to a partner. One of you needs to make a fist; as tight a fist as you possibly can. On the count of three I want the other partner to try and open the other person’s hand. Follow-Up Did any of you simply ask the other person to open their fist? “When the environment feels competitive we automatically play with a Win-Lose mindset.” What does this mean? Habit #4 - Think Win-Win Think Win-Win is a habit that will help your relationships You will be able to deal with issues, problems, arguments, etc more effectively and most importantly…keep both yourself and the people around you happy! “Win – Lose” – The Totem Pole This Mindset: I benefit/get what I want while others do not. People with this attitude usually: Use other people, emotionally or physically, for their own selfish purposes Try to get ahead at the expense of others Spread rumors about others Concentrate on getting their own way without thinking about others’ feelings Become jealous and envious when something good happens to someone else “Lose – Win” – The Doormat This Mindset: I don’t benefit/get what I want, while others do. People with this attitude usually: Set low expectations for themselves Have low self-esteem and never consider themselves worthy or good enough Compromise their standards over and over again Give in to peer pressure Allow themselves to be walked on with the excuse of being the “peacemaker” Is there a time when a Lose-Win attitude is fine? “Lose – Lose” – The Downward Spiral This Mindset: I don’t benefit and neither does anyone else. People with this attitude usually: Seek revenge Desire to win at all costs Are obsessed with others in a negative manner Have codependent and emotionally damaging relationships “Win – Win” – The All You Can Eat Buffet This Mindset: I am satisfied/happy and so are others. People with this attitude usually: Are happy when others succeed Help others succeed Think “Abundance” Are willing to share recognition with others See life as an All-you-can-eat buffet for everybody Listen as a I read a story that demonstrates Win-Win (6 Most Important Decisions, top of page 26). Watch the video to see another example of Win-Win in action: Sportsmanship When do we need to “Think Win-Win?” When we are playing sports, games, etc. When we need to work as a group When we need to address problems in our relationships Really - we need win-win for most of our human interactions. Keys to a Win-Win Mindset 1. 2. Develop a healthy definition of the word COMPETITION; develop a balance between wanting to win and doing it in a healthy, positive way. Realize that COMPARISONS to other people are not healthy and a waste of your time. Group Activity Get with your assigned group of four This is the BEST activity for demonstrating the importance of working with others for a common “win.” You need others in your group to succeed in order to succeed yourself. The only way that your team can be successful is if you all participate. Directions Each group has: - 4 pencils, 4 pieces of string, a penny and a “course.” -The goal is for your group is use the resources given to guide the penny through the course (start to finish) without touching the sides of the course. -This is NOT a competition with any other group in the room Rules The penny must stay within the lines of the course at all times. The penny can only be touched by the pencil’s eraser. Each person can only touch one of the strings No one can EVER touch the pencil while the penny is en route The paper may not be moved or tilted at any point while the penny is en route.