The Heart Mind • Definition: An inner guide that puts us in touch with our trueself, our life purpose, and provides insight into how to best steer our life. It has an intelligence that seems to know us better than we know ourselves. Losing Touch with the Heart Giving our attention to: - Others approval - Lying to get people to like us - Suppressing our feelings to get what we want. Ends in Depression, Anxiety, wrong choices in career, friends, and people we marry. Getting in Touch with the Heart Say what you mean Make decisions that reflect your values Performing an inner ritual often like meditation, journal writing, prayer, or nature. My experience: Golf – Pianist – NYL Counseling We often say, “ It wasn’t in my heart.. What does your heart or gut say… I followed my heart… I knew in my heart… From the bottom of my heart….. In my heart of hearts” The Heart Feels Things Before the Brain Actions in the physical Heart precede the actions of both body and brain…… The Heart perceives something in our environment and sends a running report to the brain to make a proper response through neurotransmitters. Kathy’s Dorm Room The Self-Image and Ego The Self-Image The Ego The combination of all the • The selfish part of you. • Social programming that told us messages and experiences that have happened to you that form the picture of who you believe you are. It is the way you think about yourself. Elephant 12 foot shuffle Trick mirrors we are a separate being apart from others. • It will distort reality to get you to believe you are more powerful/important than you think. • It is fragile and feels it has to control everything or it will die. • You can give it sex, food, drink.. and it always wants more. Differences Between Heart and Ego Values Heart Values Ego Values Inside oriented Outside oriented Seeks truth Seeks power Motivation: meaning Motivation: self-gratification Decision Maker: Conscience Approval from others Learns from bad experience Crippled by bad experiences True self False self The 3 Minds 1. The Heart/Superconscious Mind 2. The Reasoning/Conscious Mind 3. The Non-reasoning/Subconscious Mind The Heart/Superconscious Mind This insightful mind provides creativity, inspiration, and inner/outer fulfillment through meditation, dreams, journalizing, prayer, intuition, daydreaming, etc People who have overcome deadly addictions attribute it to letting go of their willpower, conscious mind and allowing the superconscious mind to take control. 12 step programs have highest success. Religions champion the “Heart.” (2 Nuns) Atheistic doctors say the brain has a spiritual region that activates with mystical/meditation practice. The Reasoning/Conscious Mind This “Captain of the ship” mind directs its thoughts into action through willpower, discipline, focus, and reasoning. Examples of using deliberate thoughts include: visualization problem-solving, affirmations, and goalsetting. The Non-reasoning/Subconscious Mind This habit-mind works without awareness calling upon previous memories, thoughts, feelings, and instincts to create positive and/or negative behaviors. People who sabotage their success, can’t stop their addictions, and repeat unhealthy habits and behaviors have an subconscious mind in control of the personality instead of the conscious mind. The Gardener Metaphor The Conscious Mind is the gardener who plants the seeds (thoughts) into the soil which is the Subconscious Mind. If you can plant hard work, commitment, and visualization into your subconscious mind or worry, doubt, and fear to pursue your college degree. The Computer Programmer The Conscious Mind is the Computer Programmer who programs encouraging, successful, positive thoughts into the Subconscious Mind. The Subconscious Mind is like the software that will obey any command you give it. How Diverse Philosophies Value the 3 Minds Subconscious Mind Trad. Psychology X Conscious Mind X Alcohol Anon. X Materialist Hypnosis Religious-Fund. New Age Superconscious Mind X X X X Research Studies on Prayer Over 150 studies confirm the positive effects of prayer. They are double blind studies (no placebo). Heart attack patients who were prayer for left the hospital sooner with fewer complications. Fungus that was visualized to stop growing occurred in 151 out of 194 culture dishes. Rice in a jar will look like rice 19 days later when prayed and talked to while rice that was cursed turned brown and rotted away. See the research journal references in the book. Find an Inner Ritual that Works For You Try Meditation (helped college students attain significantly higher GPA’s (Hall, 1999). Prayer Journal Writing Time in Nature Quiet Reflection Ask yourself, “What part of my life should I spend more time and energy on? How should I make it happen?