Moon Parenting
By: Dr. Swati Lodha
Moon Parenting
• MOON means
Patience
Discipline and
Balance.
MOON PARENTS mean
Patient Parents
Disciplined Parents and
Balanced Parents.
What is Moon
Parenting?
Joyful Copycat Phase
(0-4 years)
Blotting Paper Phase
(4-8 years)
Know
your
children…
See saw Phase
(8-12 years)
Tug Of War Phase
(12-16 years)
Snake and Ladder Phase
(16 years and up)
The World of Children
Temperament
Parents
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Psyche
Child
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NURTURE
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Peers, Technology, Lifestyle
Temperament of children
Temperament is formed by the characteristic traits that a child is born with.
Temperament
Effort control
What do children teach us?
To love, to feel secure
Children teach
us…
Curiosity and spontaneous
application of learning
Know your parenting style
Are you a SUPER parent ?
Mantra – Achievement matters
Failure is unacceptable.
Disciplined, persistent children.
Insensitive, conceited children.
Know your parenting style
Are you a DESIGNER parent?
Mantra – We buy all that is best –Expensive and Exclusive – for
our kids.
Experienced children, exclusive credentials
Shallow children, superficial perfection
Know your parenting style
Are you a BULLETPROOF parent?
Mantra – We will protect and support the child all
the way, come what may.
Secure children, deeply attached to parents.
Risk averse and indecisive children
Know your parenting style
Are you a YES parent?
Mantra – I want to be a nice parent, not nasty.
Happy and loving children
Impulsive Children, Unrealistic expectations.
Know your parenting style
Are you a POLORISED parent?
Mantra – Mother and father, the twain shall never
meet.
Adaptable children
Insecure, Emotionally alienated children.
Know your parenting style
Are you an ISLAND parent?
Mantra – Sorry, children are not on our agenda.
• None
• Children raise themselves up.
Ten principles of ParentAbility
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Ask yourself: Why do/did I want children?
Prepare yourself to have a crescendo presence in the lives of
your children.
Develop your ability to disambiguate your childhood
memories.
Improve the ability to strike a balance.
Parents
Family Imbalance
ParentAbility Continued…
5. Improve your ability to admit your mistakes and
to take yourself lightly.
6. Develop a liking for consistent learning and
consistent up gradation.
7. Show. Exemplify.
8. Master the ability to have a clear, crisp and
concrete communication with your child.
9. Love yourself the way you are.
10. Develop the attitude to show Gratitude.
How to be a MOON PARENT….
Five Disciplines
The POWER Of
What is Parenting?
Parenting is:
• Loving children without any condition.
• Observing children without any prejudice.
• Encouraging children without any comparison.
• Empathizing with children without any
suggestion.
• Guiding children without any expectation.
Parenting is perennial
• Parenting has a beginning but has
no end.
• A parent has to be a pillar of
patience, encouragement and
discipline for the first two decades.
• A parent has to be a reservoir of
love and care forever.
Moon Parenting is crescendo presence
• Moon Parents follow the phases of Moon .
• Their presence in the beginning years of their child’s life
resembles the full moon phase
• As the child grows up, his freedom rises while the presence of
parents reduces, just the way the Moon enters its waning
gibbous phase.
• By the advent of teenage , the child becomes more decisive
and parents start to guide subtly, resembling a half moon.
• During college days, the child becomes more self reliant and
parents become shock absorbers in this waning crescent
phase.
• Presence of parents reach a new moon phase when the child
settles down professionally.
Moon Parenting is crescendo presence
Parents enter the life of their child again when he
needs them or become a parent himself, just the
way the Moon enters its waxing crescent phase.
Their presence should increase further as grand
parents, enriching the lives of their grandchildren.
They become a wonderful bridge between their
children and grandchildren during the waxing
gibbous phase.
With the right set of values , children let their
parents reach the full moon phase in their twilight
years.
Home
Parenting is a responsibility, a gift
• For Moon Parents, Parenting is a big
responsibility but a bigger gift.
• They are responsible for fulfilling their needs but
not all their desires.
• They are responsible for making them self
confident and self reliant but not to make them
invincible and entitled.
• BEING A PARENT is a gift of nature to the parents.
BECOMING A PARENT is a gift they give to
themselves and their children.
Parenting is an emotion
• An emotion is an energy which makes the mind
work.
• Moon Parents possess this emotion which gives
them the strength to consistently love,
encourage, observe, empathize with and guide
the children , irrespective of the children’s
response.
• Emotion of a moon parent towards his child is
never similar to the emotion of a child towards
his moon parent.
Joyful Copycat Phase
Children copy what
they see.
Children see what
we make them see.
Blotting paper Phase
Children absorb whatever comes
their way- Approval, Appreciation
or Criticism- from parents,
teachers, friends or anyone and
perceive themselves accordingly.
See saw Phase
Input
Output
Encouragement and Discipline
Confidence and Zeal
Expectation and Judgment
Anxiety and Obstinacy
Criticism and Punishment
Aggression
Excessive love and Protection
Overconfidence and Arrogance
Tug Of War Phase
Snake and Ladder Phase
Money
Happiness
This is the final but the most slippery phase out of childhood.
Disciplines
• Moral Discipline
• Health Discipline
• Psychological Discipline
• Time Discipline
• Learning Discipline
Five Foundations
• Value Life
• Know Yourself
• Accept and Assert, positively
• Self Regulate Yourself
• Have Humor
Five Rights
• Right to Dream
• Right to Think and Try
• Right to Fail and Try again
• Right to Express
• Right to be a Child first, a
performer later
Five Truths
• Your success and happiness are as
personal as your toothbrush is.
• Nobody can hurt or insult you without
your consent.
• Use technology but do not get used by it.
• Value money but value relationships
even more.
• Less is More! (not for grades)
Five Commitments
• Commitment towards the World.
• Commitment towards the
Country.
• Commitment towards the Society.
• Commitment towards the Parents.
• Commitment towards the Self.