The Power of Positive Parenting
Conducted by
[Practitioner Name]
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Today’s Agenda
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Overview of Triple P
Being a parent
Five key principles of positive parenting
Take home messages
Question time
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Overview of Triple P
• Triple P = Positive Parenting
Program
• Developed in Australia
• 30 years of research
• Used in 22 countries
• Local program sponsored by
First 5 Santa Cruz County
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Triple P Services
• Seminars: General parenting information
– The Power of Positive Parenting
– Raising Confident, Competent Children
– Raising Resilient Children
• Workshops: Brief help with specific and
common parenting issues
• Groups: Brief (4 sessions) or In-depth (8
sessions)
• One on One Consultations : Brief (1-4
sessions) or In-depth (10 sessions)
• Additional Triple P Support
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Our hopes and dreams
• To raise healthy well-adjusted children
who have the skills to:
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communicate their needs
get on with others
try to do their best
manage their emotions
feel good about themselves
• In a safe, secure, loving and lowconflict environment
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Being a parent
• Parenting can be:
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rewarding
enjoyable
demanding
frustrating
exhausting
• We all learn through trial and error
• Every parent has to develop their own
goals and approach to discipline
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Employment opportunity
One couple to raise a child. No
experience necessary. Applicants must
be available 24 hours per day, 7 days a
week, and must provide food, shelter,
clothing and supervision. No training
provided. No salary - applicants pay
$180,000 over the next 18 years.
Accidental applications accepted.
Single people may apply but should
be prepared for twice the work.
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The good news
Most parents:
• are confident in their parenting (77%)
• find parenting rewarding (86%)
• find parenting fulfilling (89%)
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Children’s behavior
The tough part of parenting
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The challenge
• Some misbehavior is normal
• Some discipline problems are
inevitable
• Managing everyday behavior
problems can prevent more
serious ones
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Positive parenting
• Promoting children’s development and
managing their behavior and emotions
in a positive way
• Building strong relationships
• Good communication
• Emphasizing the positive
• Planning ahead to prevent problems
• Using everyday situations and creating
opportunities to help children learn
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Benefits for children
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Develop skills
Do better at school
Build friendships
Feel good about themselves
Have fewer behavioral and
emotional problems
• Less likely to become involved in
drug abuse or delinquent behavior
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Benefits for parents
• Feelings of confidence and
competence in parenting
• Less depression
• Less stress
• Less conflict with their partner
• Less conflict with their children
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Skills children need
• Good communication and social
skills
• Ability to manage feelings
• Independence skills
• Problem solving skills
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5 core principles
1. Creating a safe, interesting
environment
2. Having a positive learning
environment
3. Using assertive discipline
4. Having realistic expectations
5. Taking care of yourself
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Principle 1
Creating a safe, interesting
environment
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Strategies
• Develop predictable routines
• Provide supervision
• Have interesting things to do
Tips for safety:
• Teach your child road safety rules
• Provide safety equipment
• Be safety conscious near schools
• Teach your child about personal
safety
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Benefits
Children:
• feel secure and wanted
• are safe
• live in a predictable world
• have lots of interesting things to do
• have opportunities to learn
Parents:
• can be more relaxed
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Principle 2
Having a positive learning
environment
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Strategies
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Spend time with your child
Speak nicely
Chat and listen often
Share your own experiences
Be affectionate
Use descriptive praise
Give your child attention
Use incidental teaching
Get involved in your child’s school
Promoting Development
Promoting Positive
Relationships
Encouraging
Desirable Behavior
Teaching New Skills
& Behaviors
Managing
Misbehavior
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Promoting Self-Control
Promoting Positive
Relationships
Encouraging
Desirable Behavior
Teaching New Skills
& Behaviors
Managing
Misbehavior
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Principle 3
Using assertive discipline
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How discipline helps
Discipline helps children learn to:
• accept necessary rules and limits
• develop self-control
• consider others
• express their feelings in ways that
respect the needs of others
• take responsibility for their actions
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When discipline works
Discipline works best when:
• children live in a predictable world
• children receive plenty of attention for
good behavior
• parents have reasonable expectations
• parents use fair, predictable
consequences consistently
• parents support each other
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Strategies
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Prepare in advance
Arrange activities
Set some ground rules
Praise good behavior
Watch and supervise
Use planned ignoring for minor
misbehavior
• Use your voice effectively
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Strategies
• Use directed discussion for rule
breaking
• Give clear, calm instructions
– start instructions
– stop instructions
• Take away a problem activity
• Back up instructions with quiet time
• Use time-out for serious misbehavior
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Principle 4
Having realistic expectations
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Strategies
Consider:
• Your expectations of your child
– What do I expect?
– Is this rule necessary?
– Can my child understand / do this?
• What other parents expect
• What your child’s school expects
• Your expectations of yourself
– Are my expectations reasonable?
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Principle 5
Taking care of yourself
as a parent
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Balancing work and family
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Have realistic expectations of yourself
Reduce unnecessary commitments
Develop good transition time routines
Avoid conflict after work and prepare
for the ‘second shift’
• Teach your child to be independent
• Organize good, reliable child care
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Negative thinking
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Unhelpful thoughts:
Helpful thoughts:
• He knew I was tired
• She did that on
purpose to upset me
• He’s never going to
learn
• She’s just bad
• We were both tired
• Maybe she’s bored
when I’m on the phone
• It will take time for him
to learn
• Her behavior is
annoying
Changing how you think
• Notice when you are feeling upset with
your child
• Identify what negative / unhelpful things
you are saying to yourself about the
situation, particularly why it is
happening
• Try to change negative thoughts to
helpful, more rational thoughts
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Working as a team
• Talk with your partner and other
caregivers about daily experiences with
your child
• Share the workload fairly
• Reach agreement on discipline
• Back each other up
• Model problem solving skills
• Hold regular problem solving
discussions
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Take home messages
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Take home messages
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Make your family a priority
Create a warm, loving, safe environment
Encourage your child’s learning
Use assertive discipline
Have reasonable expectations
Take care of yourself:
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look after your own needs
balance work and family responsibilities
talk back to negative thinking
work as a team
Tip Sheet
• Review it with your partner or by
yourself.
• Review it this week!
• Choose one strategy you learned
today to try at home.
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Next Steps
• Attend the next seminar [insert date]
• Contact [insert name] for more services
[insert info]
• Contact First 5 Santa Cruz County for
more services (831) 465-2217 or
sbluford@first5scc.org or visit
www.first5scc.org
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Question time
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Positive Parenting…
Small changes,
Big differences
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