Mentoring
"Let's get started!"
(Workshop #1)
What’s happening
9:30 am- 9:45 am
Intro
9:45 am - 10:15 am
Sam Chan on Mentoring
10:15 am - 10:30 am Break
10:30 am - 11:00 am Pastor Johnston: Growth areas
11:00 AM - 11:30 am Marilyn Law: Spiritual Gifts (Intro)
11:30 am - 12:00 pm Spiritual Gifts (discussion)
12:00 pm - 1:00 pm
Lunch
1:00 pm - 1:20 pm
Sam Chan: Where to find a mentor?
1:20 pm - 2:00 pm
Discussion on personal goals, gifts, and mentoring model
2:00 pm - 2:30 PM
Signup and cleanup
Purpose: Spiritual growth to the
likeness of Christ.
Biblical basis:
(Colossians 2:7) urges believers
to be "rooted and built up in
Christ, strengthened in the faith
as you were taught, and
overflowing with thankfulness."
Informal Mentoring:
Non-structured, spontaneous,
informal; often called "modeling"
though not the same; most
common; tend to be overlooked
and undervalued. Examples:
gatherings for information dispatch
& discussion; teacher showing
students knowledge information; two
people gathering often for interest &
chatting, etc.
Formal Mentoring:
structured, facilitated, & formal; commonly
used in church (discipleship programs),
business & education. Requires:
understanding of biblical concept &
carrying it out; identifying needs &
importance; recruitment of mentors &
mentorees; setting up preparations for
building up relationships; setting up
mentoring agreement with a specific
purpose, goal, action steps, target time for
completion, resources required, and
process of evaluation.
Qualities & Role of a Mentor:
• Predestined to be conformed to
likeness of Jesus (Romans 8:29)
• Attaining to the whole measure
of the fullness of Christ (Eph.4:13)
• Promotion of spiritual, emotional,
& social growth - toward goal
• Model for mentoree to follow;
play key role in God's pattern for
growth in mentoree
• Help mentoree to reach goals
efficiently
• Avoid: criticizing; giving advice;
casting judgment; rescuing by
taking over
• Possess skills to focus on and meet
mentoree needs
• Provides information, knowing
things the mentoree does not
• Provides wisdom by applying truth
and knowing what to do next
• Coaches with skills relative to God's
plan for mentoree's life
• Is a sounding board for asking
questions and pre-testing ideas
• Is a trusted and respected friend
without regard to schedule
• Helps devise broad-spectrum
plans by giving perspective and
advice
• Nurtures curiosity, opens doors,
and shows possibilities
• Willing to take a chance on the
mentoree
• Can cultivate a relationship based
on one another's needs
• Has the respect of other Christians
and those in the marketplace
• Has a network of resources and
makes them available
• Is consulted by others and is a
source of godly and worldly
wisdom
• Talks and listens, being both
teacher and counselor
• Has a consistent lifestyle
• Is able to diagnose and act on
needs, seeing things in
perspective
• Is biblically literate and skilled in
biblical interpretation
• Expects and personally acts in
terms of co-accountability
• Commits only to low-maintenance
and light-impact mentorees
• Is process- and goal-oriented,
being committed to results.
Role and Responsibilities of a
Mentoree:
• Has insight into his/her own needs; is
goal-oriented, and seeks
challenging assignments and
greater responsibilities
• Has an early evidence of a sense of
purpose, often referred to as vision,
mission, or God-given destiny
• Has a teachable spirit and puts
aside the pride that prevents
growth
• Demonstrates initiative and is willing
to be a doer, not just a hearer of
the Word, thereby readily
accepting responsibility
• Will have open eyes, recognizing
that mentors are human and have
the responsibility of making the
mentoree more dependent on the
Lord than on the mentor
• Has a servant's heart as it applies to
the mentor
• Will gradually increase in
transparency, as the relationship
with the mentor grows; some refer
to this as becoming more "like
family"
• Will not be "high maintenance
and low impact" and will have
the potential for purpose-related
leadership.
Benefits of being a mentor:
• A close personal relationship with
another person, including peer
relationship, e.g. friendship between
David & Jonathan (1 Sam.18:1); life-onlife relationships esp. among men; keep
connected to the younger generation
(a younger man often serve as a useful
sounding board to bounce ideas off).
There is the built-in accountability of
answering to a younger man, and
serving as his role model.
• Personal renewal and revitalization.
Mentoring helps younger men
mature and older men rejuvenate,
as we grow most in the process of
helping others grow. At church, we
need more interaction between
generations.
• A sense of self-fulfillment - leaving a
heritage to our next generation
(Ps.90:12, 16-17. The development of
people is not a burden, but a
blessing (Ps. 71:17-18).
• Enhanced self-esteem - knowing
our mentoree is attending to our
saying and doing, which could
sometimes be intimidating, but
also exhilarating.
•
The confidence of having made a difference
with your life. David is not concerned by what
he possessed, but "what does God think of me?"
(Ps. 71:18). He was not a perfect man, but a
purposive man. He knows why he was out on
this earth. No wonder he was described as a
man after God's heart (1 Sam. 13:14; Acts
13:22). Mentoring is one means of making the
move for one's life from success to significance,
as it forces a man to think, not about acquisition
of material resources, but about the unleashing
of spiritual resources to another individual's life,
which can make a difference, for now and for
eternity.
What’s happening
9:30 am- 9:45 am
Intro
9:45 am - 10:15 am
Sam Chan on Mentoring
10:15 am - 10:30 am Break
10:30 am - 11:00 am Pastor Johnston: Growth areas
11:00 AM - 11:30 am Marilyn Law: Spiritual Gifts (Intro)
11:30 am - 12:00 pm Spiritual Gifts (discussion)
12:00 pm - 1:00 pm
Lunch
1:00 pm - 1:20 pm
Sam Chan: Where to find a mentor?
1:20 pm - 2:00 pm
Discussion on personal goals, gifts, and mentoring model
2:00 pm - 2:30 PM
Signup and cleanup
What’s happening
9:30 am- 9:45 am
Intro
9:45 am - 10:15 am
Sam Chan on Mentoring
10:15 am - 10:30 am Break
10:30 am - 11:00 am Pastor Johnston: Growth areas
11:00 AM - 11:30 am Marilyn Law: Spiritual Gifts (Intro)
11:30 am - 12:00 pm Spiritual Gifts (discussion)
12:00 pm - 1:00 pm
Lunch
1:00 pm - 1:20 pm
Sam Chan: Where to find a mentor?
1:20 pm - 2:00 pm
Discussion on personal goals, gifts, and mentoring model
2:00 pm - 2:30 PM
Signup and cleanup
Spiritual Growth Areas
Setting Goals
Over-arching goal for
Christians:

TO GROW TOWARD WHOLENESS IN THE
IMAGE OF CHRIST FOR THE SAKE OF
OTHERS.

Genesis 26-27

2 Cor. 3:18

Ephesians 2:10
“We are spiritual beings whose
emotions, psychology, body and mind
are the incarnation of our spiritual life in
the world. Holistic spirituality always
takes place in the midst of our
emotional, psychological, physical, and
mental conditions and emerges out of
them.”
ROBERT MULHOLLAND
“If you don’t know
where you are going,
you might wind up
somewhere else.”
Yogi Berra, Baseball Great
Tips for goal setting with
mentees…

Set a long-term goal.

Determine a number of short-term goals.

Set goals for different areas of life and ministry but not
so many that they become overwhelming.

Write goals down.

Prioritize goals.

Determine steps to achieve the goal.

Determine how you will measure success along the
way.
SMART Guidelines for Setting Goals
S
= specific.
M
= measurable.
A
= action oriented.
R
= realistic and reasonable.
T
= time defined.
My over-all statement of goal:
To glorify God by being a faithful disciple of
Jesus Christ, consistently growing into His
image and reflecting His character in all areas
of my life: growing holistically in my personal
life, loving and leading my family, and serving
with joy at SCBC, making full use of my gifts to
encourage, equip and empower others to do
the work of the ministry both in the church
community and beyond.
PERSONAL: to stay on course
toward holistic and well-balanced
personal growth.

Physical – to do a consistent cardio physical
exercise and maintain a healthy diet
1. To do a 1-2 hours exercise on a treadmill (or
stationary bicycle) and swimming
2. Eat less carbohydrates (2 cups of rice/day) and more
leafy, green vegetables, and fibre. Eat more fish
and less red meat and noodles.
PERSONAL: to stay on course
toward holistic and wellbalanced personal growth.

Family – spend more time and engage in healthy
conversations with them
1. maintain a consistent daily devotional time with my family
2. a date with Sandra, once a month
3. to engage in conversation with EJ and Tim at least once a
week.
3. Family outing (once a month) – dine out, movies, play, etc.
4. Family vacation (2x/year)
PERSONAL: to stay on course
toward holistic and wellbalanced personal growth.

Spiritual – more intentional in seeking the Lord and
being in His presence through silence, solitude and
lectio divina (devotional reading)
1. Daily Prayer Hours (3x/day) using “A Guide To Prayer”
2. Days with the Lord – November 20, December 11,
January 15, February 12 (no dates planned yet
beyond these in view of my plan to do a Sabbatical
leave)
3. Meeting a spiritual director once a month

Intellectual – to keep myself informed of the current
events around the world and to be up to speed with
relevant spiritual and ministry topics.
1. Read 1 book per month. Write a reflection summary
for each book.
2. Read/watch news daily

Social – to capitalize my friendships with the Filipino
community and reach out to them.
1. Attend friends and classmates’ social gatherings.
2. Use social networking to reach out to them.
MINISTRY: to lay out the
groundwork for my new role in
congregational care and
outreach and ensure a smooth
transition strategy from youth
ministry.
“
”
“
Mentors are just #2!
”
Homework:
Reflect on the kind of person you
want to be at age thirty, at fifty, at
eighty.
What’s happening
9:30 am- 9:45 am
Intro
9:45 am - 10:15 am
Sam Chan on Mentoring
10:15 am - 10:30 am Break
10:30 am - 11:00 am Pastor Johnston: Growth areas
11:00 AM - 11:30 am Marilyn Law: Spiritual Gifts (Intro)
11:30 am - 12:00 pm Spiritual Gifts (discussion)
12:00 pm - 1:00 pm
Lunch
1:00 pm - 1:20 pm
Sam Chan: Where to find a mentor?
1:20 pm - 2:00 pm
Discussion on personal goals, gifts, and mentoring model
2:00 pm - 2:30 PM
Signup and cleanup
Spiritual Gifts
1.
What it is and what it is not: not a talent and not a
personality temperament
2.
What are they? Biblical examples of these
Spiritual gifts;
3.
What is the difference between ministry spiritual
gifts and edifying spiritual gifts; but it is not a ministry but
an empowered ability to edify individuals as well as the
Body of Christ
Spiritual Gifts
4.
Working as a Body of Christ with humility and
grace: seek to understand other people’s gifts; seek to
look for God’s will and timing and not your own (God
centered vs. self-centered)
a.
How can a mentor help their mentee discern the
timing and apply his or her Spiritual gift in ministry and
personally?
b.
How can a mentor complement his/her Spiritual
gift with the mentee?
What’s happening
9:30 am- 9:45 am
Intro
9:45 am - 10:15 am
Sam Chan on Mentoring
10:15 am - 10:30 am Break
10:30 am - 11:00 am Pastor Johnston: Growth areas
11:00 AM - 11:30 am Marilyn Law: Spiritual Gifts (Intro)
11:30 am - 12:00 pm Spiritual Gifts (discussion)
12:00 pm - 1:00 pm
Lunch
1:00 pm - 1:20 pm
Sam Chan: Where to find a mentor?
1:20 pm - 2:00 pm
Discussion on personal goals, gifts, and mentoring model
2:00 pm - 2:30 PM
Signup and cleanup
Spiritual Gifts discussion

Work together with your own Spiritual gift group or
one that you are interested in and identify how this
gift can be used to edify others (as a mentee or as
a mentor)
What’s happening
9:30 am- 9:45 am
Intro
9:45 am - 10:15 am
Sam Chan on Mentoring
10:15 am - 10:30 am Break
10:30 am - 11:00 am Pastor Johnston: Growth areas
11:00 AM - 11:30 am Marilyn Law: Spiritual Gifts (Intro)
11:30 am - 12:00 pm Spiritual Gifts (discussion)
12:00 pm - 1:00 pm
Lunch
1:00 pm - 1:20 pm
Sam Chan: Where to find a mentor?
1:20 pm - 2:00 pm
Discussion on personal goals, gifts, and mentoring model
2:00 pm - 2:30 PM
Signup and cleanup
Where to find mentors that meet my needs?
• It takes time to find one who can meet
your needs; sometimes have to adjust
our exxpectation, and devote more time
and effort in the process.
• At church, pay attention to pastors,
leaders, or mature Christians who might
possess the characteristics you desire,
amongst whom, the most desirable ones
would be those who can challenge your
faith, and those who are steadfast in
faith and service.
• Most important is to pray and
consistently trust it to God for His guide
and provision (2 Cor.5:7; Matt.7:7-8)
• Start finding: pray and open your eyes
and see what's out there!
• Make contact by inviting possible ones
for coffee/lunch, pray with him/her and
find out if there is a chemistry there, and
see if the relationship can start on
mutual concerns and interests, most
probably the area of our expertise.
Bear in mind that effective
communication is listening.
Some possible suggestions:
• Call him/her up and ask for an
appointment to see him/her about
a specific issue.
• Use a go-between to set up a
meeting
• Get a referral (networking)
• Praise the person on his/her
expertise, then ask him/her to use it
to help you develop yours.
• Offer to join his/her team or
project - make yourself useful and
learn from him/her
• Offer to solve a problem for
him/her
• Bring him/her an interesting
opportunity that you may have,
or, bring him/her information in
which he/she might be interested,
or, ask him/her to read and react
something that you have written.
• Give him/her periodic update on
yourself (occasional phone call
or seasonal greeting card etc.)
• Wait for the right timing
• Pray for a mentor. Ask God to
bring men/women into your life
who can take you to a higher
level of personal and spiritual
maturity.
What’s happening
9:30 am- 9:45 am
Intro
9:45 am - 10:15 am
Sam Chan on Mentoring
10:15 am - 10:30 am Break
10:30 am - 11:00 am Pastor Johnston: Growth areas
11:00 AM - 11:30 am Marilyn Law: Spiritual Gifts (Intro)
11:30 am - 12:00 pm Spiritual Gifts (discussion)
12:00 pm - 1:00 pm
Lunch
1:00 pm - 1:20 pm
Sam Chan: Where to find a mentor?
1:20 pm - 2:00 pm
Discussion on personal goals, gifts, and mentoring model
2:00 pm - 2:30 PM
Signup and cleanup
Discussion
What’s happening
9:30 am- 9:45 am
Intro
9:45 am - 10:15 am
Sam Chan on Mentoring
10:15 am - 10:30 am Break
10:30 am - 11:00 am Pastor Johnston: Growth areas
11:00 AM - 11:30 am Marilyn Law: Spiritual Gifts (Intro)
11:30 am - 12:00 pm Spiritual Gifts (discussion)
12:00 pm - 1:00 pm
Lunch
1:00 pm - 1:20 pm
Sam Chan: Where to find a mentor?
1:20 pm - 2:00 pm
Discussion on personal goals, gifts, and mentoring model
2:00 pm - 2:30 PM
Signup and cleanup