UPGRADE
Improving the Self
Rhalf Jayson F. Guanco
Adventist University of the Philippines
SELF-ASSESSMENT
 How much percentage do you believe in yourself?
 100%? 75%? 50%?
 What are you achieving with that percentage?
Dreams and self belief are free. You can take all
you want and walk away.
SELF-ASSESSMENT
 When I look in the
mirror, what do I
see?
SELF-ASSESSMENT
 When other
people look at
me, what do
they see?
WHAT IS SELF-CONCEPT?
 Self-Concept is a view of
one’s self.
 Picture or perception of
ourselves.
 Can change on a regular
basis because you see and
interpret things differently
depending on your feelings,
beliefs and attitude.
WHAT IS SELF-ESTEEM?
 Self-Esteem is the
Feelings we have about
ourselves.
 Part of Self-concept.
 An expression of your
perceptions about
yourself or
4 BASIC COMPONENTS OF SELF-ESTEEM
 Significance
 a feeling of being loved and cared about
 Competence
 depends on whether a person compares themselves well with others
 Power
 having some control over being who you are
 Virtue
 I am a good person
HOW DO WE IMPROVE SELF-ESTEEM?
 Health
 Safety
 Peace
 Learn
HEALTH
 Do things to improve your
health. Exercise, eat
healthy, reduce stress,
smile and relax!
 When you feel better
physically, your
psychological health
improves.
SAFETY
 Value yourself!
 Take care of yourself.
 Practice risk
management.
 Respect your need for
safety and security.
PEACE
 Spend time doing things
YOU like!
 Take time to pray, to
meditate, to enjoy nature
and to enjoy life with
friends.
 Reflect on your life and
your experiences.
LEARN
 Read.
 Join activities that are
new to you.
 Stay informed.
 Learn something new.
 INVEST IN
YOURSELF!
AVOID THINGS LIKE……
 Negative self-talk
 Focus on the Positive
 Jealousy
 Learn to accept yourself and others.
 Comparisons
 Look for special qualities in yourself and others.
 Don’t compare your worth and achievements to
those of others.
 Don’t wish the failure of others.
AVOID THINGS LIKE……
 Hiding feelings
 Fake smiles are dishonest.
 Appropriately express your feelings.
 Blaming
 Accept and realize your mistakes.
 Don’t make excuses for your refusal to
change.
BE YOU! THE ONLY PERSON YOU CAN BE.
“Self-fulfilling prophesy” - the prophecy is that if
others around us think we will fail at a task, then we
are likely to fail and the prophecy is fulfilled.
Knowing yourself is a prerequisite to a good self esteem
YOU ARE WHAT YOU THINK!
CHARACTERISTICS OF SELF-ESTEEM
 High Self-Esteem
 Low Self-Esteem
 Active
 Passive
 Positive
 Negative
 Confident
 Nervous
 Flexible
 Rigid
LOW SELF-ESTEEM LEADS TO:
 Alcohol and drug abuse
 Unhappy relationships
 Stress
 Depression
A VICIOUS CYCLE
HIGH SELF-ESTEEM RESULTS IN:
 Success
 Better health
 Better relationships
 Better social life
 Success on the job
Would you take better care of yourself?
Would you be kinder to yourself?
Would you be more forgiving of your human imperfections?
If you realized your best friend was yourself?
Who is always with you everywhere?
Who is on your side when others are unfair?
And tell me, who will never let you down in any situation?
Who will always see you get your share?
And that’s why I’m a best friend to myself.
And I take me out whenever I feel low.
And I make my life as happy as a best friend would
I’m as nice to me as anyone I know!
BEST FRIENDS
Activity
Face & look at the person next to you. One is “A” and the other is “B”.
 “A” says to “B”: “you are absolutely, undeniably a remarkable person”.
 “B” responds with “thank you”.
 Reverse it: But “B” puts on a attitude with it and says: “you are absolutely,
undeniably a remarkable person.”.
 “A” responds with: “you got that right”.
BE REMINDED