ASHBURTON ANTIBULLYING PTA NIGHT
November 3, 2009
Andrea Gillespie
Ashburton School Counselor
What Do All These People Have in
Common???
Tom Cruise, Famous Actor
What Do All These People Have in
Common???
Hillary Clinton, Senator of New York
What Do All These People Have in
Common???
Michael Phelps, many time Olympic champion
What Do All These People Have in
Common???
Tiger Woods, #1 Golfer in The World
What Do All These People Have in
Common???
Tyra Banks, Model
ALL OF THEM WERE BULLIED
AS CHILDREN!!!
• Bullying can happen to anyone. It is not
something to be ashamed of, and you do not
need to be afraid to ask for help
• Being bullied does not make you less of a person.
People who are bullied can grow up to be the most
talented, intelligent, athletic, and beautiful people
in the world
What do Bullies Look like??
CLOSE YOUR EYES
TRY TO IMAGINE A BULLY IN
YOUR HEAD
WHAT DO THEY LOOK LIKE?
WHAT ARE THEY DOING?
Which one is the bully??
Bullies can be anyone
Boys or girls
Older or Younger
Big or small
Fast or slow
Any variety of interests
Was your bully doing something like
this…
• Beating someone up
• Shoving someone in a locker
What about this????
People often think of bullying as
something physical but…
• Bullying can include physical
aggression (wedgies, stuffing in lockers)
• Bullying can be verbal (name calling, teasing,
threatening)
• Bullying can be social/emotional (gossiping,
rumors, exclusion)
• Cyberbullying can be done without even having
another person around!!!!!!!
Being bullied can affect your body
and your mind
• Bullying can make kids feel sick, have
trouble sleeping, feel hopeless, feel fearful,
have trouble concentrating
• Physical wounds can heal, but emotional
scars can last a lifetime!
• ACTIVITY WITH BARBIE
Ok, So How Can I Deal With a
Bully?
• POSITIVE VS. NEGATIVE WAYS
TO DEAL WITH A BULLY
• Good body language
Getting adult help
• Many children do not report bullying to school
staff, but our teachers, counselor, recess aides, and
administrators are all here to help
• An Ashburton survey found that 95% of kids felt
that teachers and other adults helped them if they
were bullied, 96% of students knew how to get
help if they were bullied, and 97% of kids felt
safe at school.
Think about it…
• Imagine that you see someone who is being
bullied on the playground.
• Stand up if you think you would help that
person
Who really helps?
A National Study asked the questions, “What
do you do when you see a student being
bullied?
• 38%, Nothing, it’s not my business
• 27%, I don’t do anything, but I think I
should help
• 35%, I try to help
BYSTANDERS
• Bystanders can spur the bully on or stop the
bullying
• A study found that when onlookers acted, 57% of
bullying incidences stopped within ten seconds
• You may not be the bully or be the one being
bullied but laughing, watching, egging the bully
on, or not reporting bullying can make you guilty
too!
What are we already doing?
Classroom Guidance lessons on bullying/teasing
Peacemakers Peer Mediation Program
Bullying Reporting/Follow Up
YMCA Youth and Family Services
Call to the counselor forms
PTA Involvement
TQ stars/TQ raffle system
Individual counseling
Town Meetings
http://stopbullyingnow.hrsa.gov/kids/
Let’s Share…
Let’s Make a Parents
and Children
Together (P.A.C.T)
Against Bullying!